I don't mind helping her a a little(because we still hang out and stuff)but lately it's become an everytime thing and she very rarely helps me when I do clean for her.I don't want to tick her off because she is still a friend,but it's gotten to the point where it's taking time away from my kids.Because of my cleaning for her,I don't have as much time as I'd like to spend with them playing or fishing like we used to.Should I just tell her to clean up her own mess if she's not willing to help?
2007-07-04 07:36:59 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Man up and say no. She's your ex and maybe she's your ex because she was too controlling. Well, she;s still controlling you.
2007-07-04 08:17:02 · answer #1 · answered by letukno 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a drug consumer is one element.. its undesirable.. yet thats one element. a man or woman can freshen up, and be a efficient confirm. My greatest difficulty may be the reality that he USED to sell drugs. (Are you helpful he would not anymore?) My concept is that as quickly as you're a drug broking.. you're able to make enemies, human beings understand you have funds - which makes you a aim for theft, and so on. You dont knwo what style of individuals have been coming ot his domicile, or who he has annoyed. First.. i could make a stipulation that he strikes, and strikes out of the community. and then circulate from there. If he cares approximately his toddlers, he will see the logic in it, and do it. besides man or woman who wnats to start a clean existence, needs to start a clean one. i could attempt some form of supervised visits for a at the same time as, do no longer purely leap into the entire element too rapid.
2016-11-08 03:50:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you take your kids for the weekend at your place that you she is responsible for the kids and her choars and so are you. Men are really unfair. The leave the biggest part of the responsibility to us as moms with kids. Doesn't she does everything when she is with the kids. I am sure she feels the same why you do at the end of the day. Besides i think it would be totally unfair for her to to all the cleaning up and cooking and take care of the kids so you can enjoy it. It would be sort of like the story of the hen who needed help from the rest of the farm animals to help make the bread. Nobody wanted to help her make it, but when the bread was done everyone wants to eat it
2007-07-04 07:55:39 · answer #3 · answered by lilia 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let her clean up her own house you're not her *****.Take your kids to your place instead of staying there and let her clean the mess.If she doesnt contact childrens services and take your children away from her .She sounds like a lazy cow and doesnt deserve her children if she cant even get off her **** to do a few dishes.The litle time you have with your kids is the most important thing and you shouldnt have to put it on hold for you ex's laziness
2007-07-12 04:33:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it clear to her that you are not going to clean her house unless she is going to wash and iron that big basket of clothes you bring around. Enjoy your time with the children but clean up any messes you and your children actually make while together. Better still - take them out of the house and into your world. She really has you on a string and she is the puppet master. Be strong and a good role model for your children. Stand up to her but NEVER fight in front of the children and NEVER degrade their mother.
2007-07-11 17:41:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry,but this is stupid.You clean your exs house? Tell her no you want to be with your children not clean her house.She is using you.Is there some medical reason she can clean her own house? Pick up your kids and leave Buy her broom and mop tell her to learn how to use them.If you don't have the balls to do this than get a maid service(you pay) to come and do her job.Than go have a good time with your children.
2007-07-11 04:54:54 · answer #6 · answered by lotteda717 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How did you get in the position of cleaning another person's house?
Normally this only happens on 2 occassions, they are unable to do it themselves or you are getting paid to do it.
She is responsible for her own living quarters, you taking care of it for her allows her to take advantage of you in this way. What would she be doing if you were not around? Probably not sitting around in the mess, she would be doing it or talking someone else into doing it for her.
I would tell her you would be glad to help her do it at the same time she is cleaning it, but I would never take care of it for her. She needs to be responsible for her own things, not you being responsible for them.
2007-07-04 07:45:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes. your children are still living there in your x's house and they still need a clean surrounding and healthy environment. Why not telling your kids to help cleaning their mess so that you can have more time playing with them .
2007-07-12 04:02:02 · answer #8 · answered by Ndaiuon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont clean up nothing. dont make her think that she has a maid doing the cleaning. just take your kids and spend time with them. if u lived there then u should clean but if u dont then she should get off her a** and start cleaning. dont let a women take control of u
2007-07-12 07:28:45 · answer #9 · answered by FUN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you make a mess during your visit then you clean it up. You are not responsible for any messes that were there before you arrived. It sounds like your ex is lazy!
2007-07-12 04:42:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes- you should not have to clean for her.
I am assuming this is your court mandated time with your kids?
Just tell her, "Hey, i don't mind helping out, but its getting to be too much. I have my own place to take care of now, and i need to spend this time with my kids. I'll do as much as i can for you- but this is your residence, and you are responsible for it."
can't you just pick up your kids and go somewhere else?
2007-07-11 15:25:22 · answer #11 · answered by Olive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋