Need suggestions on how to prevent lover from getting pregnant. It does not matter if the pregnancy is for reasons of love or financial gain
Please do not include abstaince, vasectomy ,condoms or find a new girl.
Are there any legal agreements that I can have her sign to accomplish this end.?
2007-07-04 07:25:14 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
okay, i totally understand where you're coming from. some women just really want to have a baby, and will go to weird extremes to get pregnant... involving you. but when you don't want a baby and you do what you can to prevent it, what she's doing is completely unfair. but you must love her, you just aren't ready for that kind of commitment/ responsibility. i guess what you could do is explain to her that having a baby is permanent. on top of that, the physical changes you go through during pregnancy will make you completely self-conscious... and being pregnant is just all around uncomfortable. although the sex is wwwaaaaaaaaaaaaayyy better for both of you during pregnancy, the chances of actually remaining sexually active are slim to none. then there's your relationship with eachother, which will change dramatically... usually for the worst, especially if one of you aren't ready for a kid... and her hormones (will make her a PSYCHO), which she can't control... and will end up making you want to leave her. there are so many more things i can list under the emotional/physical changes, but you can email me if you really want to know...
financially, it's almost impossible... especially if the two of you aren't married. my husband and i weren't married when i found out i was pregnant, and ended up having to pay $337/mo. just for doctor's visits... then we would have had to pay another $2-3,000 for the delivery. and i had insurance! really good insurance!! but luckily we got married (we were engaged before anyway), and now it's been lowered to $50/mo. and the delivery is paid for. but i got lucky, he wanted to start a family with me, and wanted to marry me... i can't imagine how terrible the financial situation would be if he wanted out... and didn't want a baby.
as far as love goes, she needs to realize that by having a baby, you aren't going to love her more! in fact, having a baby opens up many possibilities for you two not having a romantic relationship at all. especially if she knows that you don't want to have a baby, and she does it anyway.
but if i were you, i'd buy a box of condoms and HIDE THEM. because my close guy-friend's girlfriend wanted to have his kid so badly that she took a sewing needle to every one of his condoms. she just stuck the needle about three or four times right through the plastic wrapper... and got pregnant. it can happen to anybody. girls are psycho. but just make sure you're doing everything in YOUR power to not get her pregnant.
good luck!
2007-07-04 07:46:49 · answer #1 · answered by termite choking on the splinters 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I can't believe your question.
First of all, YOU need to be responsible and take action if YOU don't want to impregnate her. Remember YOU make up half of getting pregnant here, do you at least know that?
Second, how dare you think that it's all her responsibility. A "legal agreement"...lol, you are kidding I hope.
Third, I suggest you grow up and mature before you sleep with any woman. If you aren't willing to take the responsibility, don't play with the merchandise.
2007-07-04 14:34:45 · answer #2 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but what the heck are you asking us here? Ways to avoid getting pregnant, but without mentioning birth control or abstinence? That makes no sense.
No, you cannot make someone sign a legal agreement to not get pregnant if you're not using birth control!
Sheesh.
2007-07-04 14:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by It's Me 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sooner or later if you are having unprotected sex, she will get pregnant either by accident or not. No legal documents can help you. Grow up!!! It's absurd to think that she can or cannot get pregnant just by thinking about it. Take some responsibility for your actions. If you don't want her to get pregnant but she wants to, then you have some serious problems that won't go away.
2007-07-04 14:35:59 · answer #4 · answered by chelebeee 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have sex, you're bound to have a baby. Abstaince is the 100% effective way. Condoms are a good way to protect yourself if you don't want to get pregnant. If you trust her that she's on birth control.....that's in no way 100%...especially if you suspect she wants a baby, she might trap you by not taking her pills like she's supposed to. There's no legal agreements, if she gets pregnant you WILL be paying child support.....soooooo is sex with it? That's for you to decide!
2007-07-04 14:34:15 · answer #5 · answered by ~*Isabel*~ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If a guy asked me to sign a legal document to not get pregnant I'd paper cut him to death.
If you don't want to get a girl pregnant and not use birth control, your only obvious choice is start having sex with guys.
2007-07-04 14:38:30 · answer #6 · answered by Mandiex 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I doubt there is legal way to force her to never get pregnant. Contact a lawyer about that though.
Sounds like counseling is the way to go. If you don't want kids but she does and you want to save your relationship, that's the only way.
2007-07-04 16:02:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Because they are all null and void in the event of a pregnancy. You are half responsible.
If you are so stupid, you surely shouldn't reproduce. Get a vasectomy and spare the world of your progeny.
2007-07-04 14:36:30 · answer #8 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No such legal document exists. Plus I would think if you drew something up like that you'd lose your lover from the sheer distaste of the idea of it.
2007-07-04 14:29:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I'm sorry but your obviously not suited to each other you should go your separate ways and find other partners
you don't want the same things if she wants baby's and you don't then you should let her find someone that does its not fair to make her give up the chance to have a baby she will end up resenting you in the end
2007-07-04 14:54:06 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ mum of 4 ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋