i made friends with my nieighbour and her husband when i moved into my new house, however i now find she copies everything i do, and wants all the things i want and usually ends up getting them before i do, why is she like this does she not like me?
2007-07-04 06:50:58 · 36 answers · asked by spoogie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She probably just has no true sense of self or who she is, she is trying to find that by copying what you do.
She probably has low self esteem cause by something in her life now or previously, and to try to fit in and be accepted she needs to do what she sees 'normal' people doing.
Good luck!
2007-07-04 06:54:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well.. I guess you could look at this 2 different ways..
as a form of flattery- you must have it going on, & she
obviously admires your choices & wants to emulate them.
I'm guessing she's not her 'own person' but acts as if she is?
If thats the case, why not be more closed mouth on certain things, & she see & find out your personal choices as they come along. Maybe she needs a confidence boast in her
choices- it sounds like that would mean alot coming from
you. On the other hand, you might want to keep an eye on
her, wanting what is Yours, I'm talking about coveting your
things, you have & like, because then, jelously can also come into the picture, in that case, which does not equal a true freind.
2007-07-04 07:10:14 · answer #2 · answered by Sheree ; ) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is typically called "Keepin' up with the Jones' or the Smiths"...Your neighbor probably considers you a friend, and subconsciously is trying to match your material standing, or social status. Even in her going out and purchasing things which you've made mention you were interested in buying for your home or family, doesn't mean she is doing it to be spiteful or ugly. She may not even realize it is affecting you. A friendly suggestion to you dear- stop telling her what you are interested in buying, or something with a little humor...pick out something gawdy, and clashy and tell her you just HAVE to go get it....see if she copies that.
If you feel comfortable enough with her to speak freely-ask her where she does her shopping and gets her ideas...tell her in a joking manner-that you would like to swipe some good ideas from her occasionally! Don't ruin a decent friendship with your neighbors if they are good and decent people. This too shall pass!
2007-07-04 07:44:51 · answer #3 · answered by Pookie Pie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that she actually likes you a lot and to the point of trying to be you. And has maybe lost her own identity. The only thing i can suggest is to sit down and have a gentle chat with her. Its not that she is copying you that is the concern. Its why she has lost herself. Maybe she has some underlining problems and needs escape. Being someone else is a good way to do this. Be a friend to her and tell her you are only thinking of her in the long run. Good luck..
2007-07-04 06:59:13 · answer #4 · answered by Twinkle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. but it's really annoying, keep clear, dont let her know too much about you and your likes or dislikes, hopes, goals etc. She is like this because she is sad and has no life, she is being a parasite and boosting her own self esteem by getting one up on you. Dont entertain ideas of a friendship here, too close for comfort.
2007-07-04 09:21:38 · answer #5 · answered by lillibet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also have the same thing. I have a friend and she likes to copy me. Well she likes you. She likes your personality and stuff. So just tell her that its bothering you a little
2007-07-04 07:13:48 · answer #6 · answered by Arra L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is going to be really annoying but she looks up too you. she is probably jealous of what a great person you are and she wants to be like that too.........there's a girl who does the same to me. what you should really try to do is ask her if something is going on. explain to her that you aren't comfortable with her acting that way. maybe she didn't even realize she was doing anything wrong. good luck!
xoxo
PrincessN
2007-07-04 06:58:51 · answer #7 · answered by justagirl. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has nothing to do with whether she likes you or not, it has to do with her own insecurities. She will not even be aware that her actions upset you, or if she is, she does not have the tools to make herself stop. Do not worry about what she has or why she has it. Only pray for her that she will find a cure for her insecurities and find true happiness.
2007-07-04 06:59:07 · answer #8 · answered by itchy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has no sense of her own identity,is too lazy to try and figure out who she truly is inside,doesn't want to think and so takes everything that you are and do.She sounds kind of petty and small minded especially for a fully grown married woman.Ditch the chick!Ditch!Ditch!I find theses types of women rather irksome!
2007-07-04 06:57:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i had this problem once...with a girl so called friend...I stopped telling her what i really like and I started to show her some crap things claiming that I like those. Hehe, at one shopping session she ended it up dressed like a clown...she chosed exactly the clothes, shoes and bag i told her that " I like". I felt really good about that, she was my masterpiece lol
2007-07-04 06:59:35 · answer #10 · answered by Thea 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋