We filed for divorce because he still had a girlfriend and is living with her. He told his parents about our divorce but not about the girlfriend. They knew about her a year ago, but thought she was gone. Why can't he tell them the truth?
2007-07-04 06:44:11 · 17 answers · asked by blue eyes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They probably already know the truth in themselves. He probably isn't telling them because they probably would not have approved it. He is hiding her because he is ashamed and guilty and doesn't want to hear it! If he felt right about this woman in his life he would be honest about them being together. This will all come out in the end and his parents will eventually put it all together. When all is said and done the parents will probably accept what he choose to do because if they don't they would fear losing a relationship with their son. They may not like it but what choice do they have? I am so sorry that your husband hurt you like he did. Someday this will pass and a new door will open and the right person will come along. He was not right to you and you deserve so much better. He will more than likely fail in time with his new relationship to. He does not seem to be a man of commitment. Karma will take care of him you wait and see! I went through almost the same thing with my ex some years ago and it caught up with him!!! You take care of yourself and know that sometimes in life you have to go through all of the bad to get to the good. I wish the very best in life for you so hang in there it will come now!
2007-07-04 08:01:01 · answer #1 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If I were in your situation I would do everything I can to fix the situation or remove myself from it. If you believe your marriage is worth saving then try counseling and whatever else you need to. If not, then you need to find a way out. First of all the children should always have adequate food, shelter, and clothing above all else and BOTH parents should be doing their part to provide it. No one should have to be asked to provide these things as a child should never have to ask, they should be a constant. Although, not being allowed to buy a toy at the mall may or may not be stingy depending on why he's deciding not to get anything there. Secondly, I'm not sure where you live but in many states, by law, you are required to have at least a two bedroom apartment etc if there are 3 tenants (any child over the age of one is considered a tenant even if they're not on the lease). Children can not share a room with parents and siblings of opposite gender need separate bedrooms- at least where I live. Lastly, Are you and your children happy? If not then you should re-evaluate the situation. Children will benefit most from an environment where all basic needs are being met and they can be happy. That all being said, there is a difference between being stingy and not providing for your children and their well-being. If he's just cheap then split the cost of all necessities and that will free you up to use your personal account for the extra things you would like to do with your kids.
2016-05-18 00:46:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it a concern of yours? You and he are no longer together. Move on with your life, and do not worry about what he tells his parents!
Perhaps that fact that you wanted to be involved in issues that did not directly involve you caused him to seek someone else in the first place! I do not know what the issues were between you, but you will be much happier if you move on, and quit worrying about him.
2007-07-04 07:31:21 · answer #3 · answered by fire4511 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Afraid of letting his parents down, of them disapproving of his actions, of them thinking less of him. The list is quite long.
Why would someone tell someone something that would make them view them in a lesser way?
I'm not saying what he did is right, but I feel lots of people would have done the same thing.
2007-07-04 06:49:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
FUNNY ! look at your question"my husband"
You must still have some sort of feelings or you are really, really, really hurt! Forget about the jackass if he isnt man enough to be honest to his own MOTHER, you want to stay away from this so called man and get rid of him from your mind! To answer your question he did not tell his parents because he is not MAN enough!!!! WHAT A POS!!
(piece of s***)
2007-07-04 06:59:40 · answer #5 · answered by lasdoom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are divorced now, why does it matter to you what he does or does not tell HIS parents? He no longer has to be accountable to you, so let it go.
2007-07-04 07:21:30 · answer #6 · answered by littlevivi 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because it will confirm what a loser they have for a son and no parent wants to hear that so he's sparing them from the truth about himself.
2007-07-04 06:59:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No one wants to take responsibility for a failed relationship (at least not formally, and admitting it to family is as formal as it gets). No one is likely to have much sympathy for a cheater who allowed that behavior to destroy a marriage, so it's understandable (if lamentable) that he would omit that detail.
2007-07-04 06:51:29 · answer #8 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they think she's out of the picture, it makes him look terrible and at fault for still having her...and who wants to look horrible in front of their parents?
2007-07-04 07:49:34 · answer #9 · answered by its about time 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because he knows he's in the wrong and a real jack@ss, and doesn't want his parents to think badly of him.
2007-07-04 06:50:40 · answer #10 · answered by James L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋