i am in a predicament. I am a buddhist, and cannot hurt any living creature as long as i draw a breath. how can i get away from being the butt of everyone's jokes without fighting back?
2007-07-04 06:34:53 · 9 answers · asked by dr.macgruder 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You can fight back without fighting. First, make a fortress in your heart with four walls and a moat around it and put ferocious-appearing protectors at each entrance. In your mind, you can wield a four-pronged thunderbolt that easily refutes any attack from any opponent with clarity and compassion, understanding that their attacks are motivated by the deepest rooted ignorance. Then you can walk quietly among any beings because you know that they are suffering and that you won't hurt them, even in spite of their attacks. You see that it is motivated by the darkness of confusion. As for you, you must keep it to yourself that you are secretly taking on their suffering through this exchange, and giving them your happiness and all future roots of virtue. This is a tremendous opportunity to practice love and compassion. With your compassion, take all of their suffering from them in the form of their derogatory comments and jokes; and with your love, give them happiness. This exchange is done in secret. You must not tell them you are doing it, because you are not doing it for recognition, or hope for reward. Remember, with the proper motivation, all of this negativity can be turned to extremely powerful and positive results. Lastly, "you" are not the butt of "everyone's" jokes. You must study the four noble truths again and again. You must think about them again and again. You have to ascertain the meaning of the four noble truths for yourself. Why are they noble? Why are they truths? What order were they taught and why? You must understand cause and effect, or at least study these things. No buddhist has any true realization without study and reflection as a foundation for meditation. You should be doing copious amounts of analysis on these topics. What is being attacked or insulted in the first place, buddhist? "You?" "Your Self?" There is nothing to be found there that exists by way of its own independence. In other words, it is a collection that has this name "Dr. Whateveritis." This does not mean that you are not there, that would be a nihilistic view; it just means that, conventionally, you are there and you perform a function and you have a job to do and so forth, but ultimately, on analysis, you are not there - independent of this collection of many, many things and you are named and you are a buddhist, a son, a friend, whatever...In other words, don't take it personally. And study. Then study more. Then when you are done with that, study some more. But be methodical, study, think about it, meditate on it, then study more, think about it, then meditate on that. There is no doubt that you can make good progress in this way and have swift realizations in your practice. As for "them," they are getting the best of you, for now, but you must act quickly and apply the antidotes to these mistaken views that they have some intrinsic existence beyond your labelling them "this" or "that."
2007-07-05 02:30:09 · answer #1 · answered by shrill alarmist, I'm sure 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The meanest thing that a person operating with a system or high morals or ethics can do is to "love" those that cause you distress. There is no defense on the part of the people bothering you to your being kind and being nice to them. Don't dodge them, live your life as you plan and follow the above simple rules and things will dissipate.
2007-07-04 09:20:24 · answer #2 · answered by Polyhistor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way you can overcome this problem is that you become insensitive to their wild remarks. Your carefree attitude will baffle them. You don't have to deride or mock at them, just laugh in your sleeve and forget their foolishness as fast as you can. Occasionally, speak out the truth. It will have an impact on them however meekly you express.
2007-07-04 17:13:39 · answer #3 · answered by Ishan26 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Acceptence of those people who make the jokes. inner peace that what you beleive is worth not stooping to there level. Not talking to people who make the jokes. Laughng with them beause the fac they want to spend time hurting you is ridiculous... I hope one of these will help you find an answer
2007-07-04 06:40:24 · answer #4 · answered by STL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them to stop, if they were really your friends they would respect your wishes, and your religion. If they continue to be so rude, just don't hang around them anymore, they don't deserve your company, find new people who respect you, who are actually worth your time.
Good Luck!
:)
2007-07-04 06:39:17 · answer #5 · answered by little.miss.hot.lips 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away when you can & when you can't use your faith & ignore them or laugh with them. Once they know they can't get to you, they'll get bored & find something or someone else to pick on.
2007-07-04 07:22:57 · answer #6 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grass/plants are alive. You are hurting them when you walk across them. You fail.
2007-07-04 06:45:12 · answer #7 · answered by srsly 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't listen to them
2007-07-04 06:39:30 · answer #8 · answered by Golly Geewiz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol you need to slow down on the pot bro.
2007-07-04 06:39:07 · answer #9 · answered by Criss_Mousse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋