she told me the other day. the boy/man told her it was over
2007-07-04 05:55:08 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
oh god to be honest I have seen worst
my cousin who was only 13 years old when she
got pregnant was with a 20 year old. The first
thing my aunt did was take her to the hospital to
see if she was pregnant when the tests came in
they said she was pregnant. They called the police
on her "boy friend" which is illegal because he is over
18 years old. She was told by so many people to abort
think about adoption. Well she didnt she took care of it
went to school on the day and her mom worked in the night
so she took care of him in the night. It was very tough but shes
hanging on there she in now 16 and the baby is two years
old. If you love your daughter you will help her through everything. Instead of playing with dolls as most 13 year olds
she was forced to grow up and be a mother. But dont accuse
yourself or your daughter it was the 20 year olds fault for being such a heartless jerk. By the way my aunt called the cops on the boy friend and the sicko is still in jail for rape and getting a 13 year old pregnant. This is not your fault because your daughter decided to have sex. And its not her fault because she is too young to be making decisions on wether to not or to have sex. Theres only one person left to blame. So dont worry you will do just fine while that jerks in prison.
2007-07-04 06:09:58 · answer #1 · answered by John 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray and then call him urself and tell him u wanna talk to him and would love the meet him and discussion things on a adult level.When he gets their u tell him the truth my daughter is 15 and she doesnt deserve the way ur treating her. She only 15 yrs old u had no reason missing with her in the first place. Ask them together what do they want to do about the baby and respect their wishes and be their for ur daughter if it u have to raise this baby as ur our whil she finish school. let her know ur there for her and shes not alone. But he will be there whether he likes it or not. Good Luck and God Bless and also take him and her to the doctors together and u stay and watch things .Now its ur chance. If he skips out on her and leave her make sure while ur be friendly to get all his information so u can call the local police and report it.
2007-07-04 06:06:40 · answer #2 · answered by victori757 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in this same situation. Go take her to get tested. If hes gone then he not going to come back most likely just help you daughter. Im 16 and i was with this 22 year old but i wanted to get pregnant and i woent to my mom 4 time saying i might be pregnant and i acted scared but i wanted it. Shes 15 years old and she doesnt need a baby i just found out i was pregnant yesterday and now im devistated i cant even go to college because of this. also you shouldnt let your daughter be with a man thats 20 years old. Shes a child she needs to think have a boy her own age if any boy at all. Please dont take any of this offensive im just telling you my mom let me do stuff like that and i had a really hard life and now its even harder now that i have a child coming into this world. Good luck to you both
2007-07-04 08:13:38 · answer #3 · answered by mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all, why was she allowed around a 20 year old? Is she mature for her age? I can understand allowing your daughter to associate with an older man if you have known the young man since he was little etc. but not if she came home and said "hey mom, guess what? I met a older man"
You are her mother. In most states it is against the law for someone to have a sexual relationship with a minor even if the minor agreed. I dont agree with some of the stipulations of that law but my point is, do you want to ruin another life by calling the police and having the possibility of that child not having any part of his/her fathers life?
You know your daughter. Is she "fast"? Did YOU know about the relationship? If you did, WHY not put her on birth control? And I dont want to hear that she didn't want to, it is NOT her decision, I dont care what the law says cause if I had a daughter screwing believe me, I will hold her little *** down and shove the pill down her throat.
Now you have to sit and make a decision. You are going to have to figure out what she wants to do about the baby, the man and her life.
I have always said that if my daughter came home prego she will HAVE to do the following:
stay in school with a mandatory 2.5 GPA.
participate in one afterschool activity and have a part-time job.
She is only 15. You are going to have to financially help her and this man. If the man is willing to be in his childs life, except him as a good man and let him do just that.
The age is irrelevant now. It is about that baby. Period. What is best for that innocent life.
2007-07-04 06:26:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I got pregnant when i was 15 to a 20 year old male.. we ended it soon after i got pregnant because he was a dick.. I am way better off without him in my life, i have my friends and family & child support from him.. now im 16 years old, have a beautiful daughter, and i still have a teenage life once in a while & love lives.
2007-07-04 06:20:09 · answer #5 · answered by Michila Noell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is going to be harsh, but if the dude got her pregnant and then dumped her (and if he knew her age...you know? if she didn't claim she was older than she was), call the police and put the dude in prison. make him have to register the rest of his life as a sex offender!
My attitude would be different if the dude was taking responsibility, if he actually loved her. In the whole scheme of things, 5 years isn't that big of an age difference. But this guy sounds like he's a jerk, and he seems to think that he can get away with screwing a teen ager and not have to take responsibility. Guess what? You can fix that little misconception of his, can't you? I hear sex offenders have a real rough time in prison...
2007-07-04 06:04:29 · answer #6 · answered by trustedhacker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First press charges on the man ! Especially if he's "over" your daughter and don't try to play nice- it doesn't work... I would seriously consider giving the baby up for adoption- a 15 yr.old has no business trying to care for a baby.. It would be better for her and you if the baby was loved and cared for by people who want a child, but can't have one of their own.. I know that this seems harsh and I don't care if I get a thumbs down, but this happened to my sister and my parents should've had the "b astrd" that my sister was with put in jail, then she wouldn't have gotten pregnant... So, he needs to take responsibility for what he has done... Good luck and if/when she has a baby- get her on BC pronto..
2007-07-04 06:01:04 · answer #7 · answered by pebblespro 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Make sure he has a good job so he can pay child support. Impress upon him the need to be a good father. Make it easy for him to be a good person about it. He's still very young, so expect that (like this situation) he will make mistakes. If he doesn't agree with that, call the police and he can think about it in jail. My point being, sending him to jail won't create the optimal situation for the baby to grow up in.
I have to say, I am pro-choice for adults, but I do not recommend making her get an abortion. She will not get over it for the rest of her life, and she may blame you for her suffering. If she and you decide to not keep the baby, please consider adoption, because there are many people who would love to raise that child.
2007-07-04 06:01:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a big deision. Talk to your daughter... She how she feels. If she is old enough to have sex, she is old enoughto face the consequences Don' be mad (I know its hard noto be)... Conse her, help her throuh this, as I'm sure this is scary for her...
Abortion may be the best option. My ex gf aborted my kid when we were together both 19 and I never forgave her and split up wit her months later... But this situation is different.
I would call the police... Do you want this to happen to another young girl and her parents to be in your position??
Good luck
2007-07-04 06:14:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hahaha, I am sorry but I am not going to sugar coat it for you. I am not going to tell you everything is going to be all right and jolly. This is a very big problem and a big change. This will definitely affect your relationship between you and your daughter. Her boyfriend has every right to leave her. Rarely would the father stay with a teen mother to take care of the baby. So, it's no surprise. He is wrong. And he's still responsible for her and the baby. Your daughter just threw her life away and you will have to spend a fortune. But what I CAN advise you to do is let your daughter decide what she wants to do with her baby. You deciding for her will make things worst. It give her a taste of her consequences. She will learn her lesson. Good luck.
2007-07-04 06:03:13 · answer #10 · answered by Kimberly C 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋