has been meeting her wihout us knowing. We have told him tthat it was not appropriate for him to even talk to her on the phone let alone see her like that. What is his problem?
2007-07-04 05:22:45 · 16 answers · asked by wondering253 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You have to scare him sh*tless over this. He has to understand that this is considered a misdemeanor and that he could end up in jail if they meet and do things together. You need to put your foot down, otherwise it will get way out of hand. If he lives under your roof, he must follow your rules. And if he's seeing this girl behind your backs, get in contact with her parents as well. They need to know what their daughter is doing as well. Good luck!
I didn't realize this was your stepson. You need to have his father talk to him. Or if his mother is around, talk to her and have her talk to her son.
2007-07-04 05:30:56 · answer #1 · answered by Devika P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From a Father
First make sure he understands the law.
At 18 he is an adult and Very responsible for all his actions in society.
She being 13 is still a child under the Law. Even if she looks older. That may be part the problem.
She looks and acts older. NOT blaming the girl, just stating a possible fact.
If you know the girl and her parents talk to them.
Get them involved.
If they have a crush on each other better for both sets of parents to monitor the situation and talk
not yell or go nuts over this.
Extreme attitude may only push them together instead of installing common sense.
2007-07-04 05:46:09 · answer #2 · answered by Judd 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What he is doing is not illegal ...Yet. Let him know that if he "get's with her" then he will be prosecuted just as though he was an old man sleeping with a young child and he will have to register as a sexual predator for the rest of his life. He will face jail time. I agree that you should also contact her parents and let them know about the situation. They may not be aware of what is going on. If you all show a united front hopefully you will get somewhere. He has just recently become an adult and may not be aware that all of the rules have changed to the adult rules now. I went through almost the same thing with my son and told him that if he was going to continue then he had to move out. I would rather lose him and know that he wasn't in jail than to lose him to prison and never really get a chance to see him. It really made him stop and think and the behavior ceased.
2007-07-04 05:43:27 · answer #3 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has no problem, he is simply being a young man. However, the fact that the girl is 13 is certainly problematic. Ask to meet her and meet her parents. They should be made aware of the fact that he is 18. You may be pleasantly surprised, who knows. It is best to be aware of what they are doing, rather than having your son sneak behind your back. Part of an old quote: It is better to know thine enemy. While I realize young girls are more mature now than ever before, if their relationship develops beyond talking for hours and meeting, there is also the possibility of serious legal issues since he is an adult and she is a minor. Discuss their relationship openly with your son and the girl. The more you fight it, the worse it will be.
2007-07-04 05:43:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you ask him then. What his problem is I mean. Just try and figure out more about this girl and what their current relationship is (ie. just phone-friends, secret bf an gf...etc etc) Find out how and where they met, try to find out for sure if they have met up before. Question both of them and let them know the dangers. He is an adult already, he needs someone more his own age. You might say it is sick (I certainly would) that an 18 yr old would want anything to do with a 13 yr old (unless they were family of course).
2007-07-04 05:36:40 · answer #5 · answered by Kaidra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's turning into a man, so it's natural that he likes this girl. You should let him make his own mistakes, I'm not saying you're not to be concerned, talk to him though about the consequences he'll atain if he goes too far, so he doesn't got too far, but if he's still not listening, I guess you should probably talk to the thirteen year old's parents and see what you can do.
2007-07-04 05:34:14 · answer #6 · answered by xan_wes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let him know its not only imappropriate BUT if her parents cathc them together- even if they arent ummmm doing the WRONG thing they can always have him arrested! Yrue its only a 5 year difference in ages, and they may just b talking to each other but it can lead to other things and can make the girls parents nervous so he needs to b extremely careful what he is doing because it could be his future!
2007-07-04 12:28:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Press charges of sexual abuse against your son. It's illegal for a 13 year old to date an 18 year old because of the huge age difference.
2007-07-04 08:16:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U can only tell him and talk to u. But its up to him to listen. But try telling him that if hes missing with her he could face jail time and mess up his life.Or go talk to the girl's parents and let them know shes calling ur house and u want her to stop and tell them u think she likes ur son who is much older than her.U do have control of that sitution.Good luck and God Bless.
2007-07-04 05:31:40 · answer #9 · answered by victori757 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not a parent but i'm 13..and i've been in that situation, it was really hard for me to understand why at first, but you really have to get it through there head that this could be a very dangerous situation. Once i knew that, i've been screening his calls, &i don't talk to him at all anymore. It may take a while, but soon enough they'll learn. just keep on trying.
2007-07-04 05:52:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋