I have a good friend, "Jen." She called my cell and asked me to see "Ratatouille" with her. I said: "sure, just pick me up at this address:***" Then she said: "I need to call my mom and then I will call you back, ok? Also the movie starts at 1:30 so we will pick you up at 1:00." So I waited for her call. Nothing, nothing, nothing. 12:55 and no call. So I call her mom asking where Jen was and her mom said: "oh, I just dropped the girls off at the movie theater. Why?" So I was mad and I told her mom what happend. She said: "Omg! I am so sorry that Jen Forgot! Her grandma who is from Northcarolina is here. and she was so excited..." So later I called Jen and I left a message. Then I called again and Jen picked up her cell and hung it up. I was mad, and she called me later that night and said she was sorry she forgot and that she wanted to have me over. I told Jen I was busy though. So She asked why I was mad at her and I told her why. Now she is freaking out, and is mad at me for being
2007-07-04 03:44:27 · 10 answers · asked by Starshine 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
mad. I am only mad becacuse she is freaking at me, I was mad because she hung up but later she told me she had no service and I am no longer mad at her but she is mad at me! she thinks I am a jerk and my BFF is good friends with her and Jen Is using my BFF to get back at me by using the "Favorite" card!!!!!!!! What do I do?
2007-07-04 03:47:09 · update #1
Neither one of you should be mad and you both need to work this out. Both of you are right and wrong the same. If you are truly friends you can get past this. Jen didn't leave you hanging on purpose and it sounds like she apologized, so you are really the one that started the whole thing. On the other hand, Jen shouldn't be pitting your other friends against you.
Go talk to her, be sincere, apologize, and get over it. Most importantly, when you both make up, never bring it up again. When you forgive someone, that means you promise to forget it.
Good Luck!
2007-07-04 03:58:49 · answer #1 · answered by lchardy70 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You guys are 'tripping' over miscommunication. This should have been easily settled. This is where you dropped the ball - when Jen apologized to you and asked you to come over - you should have. Seeing your friend face to face you would have been able to each tell your side of the story and you would have seen her "eyes" and she, yours. The eyes don't lie. I can imagine that you would have hugged and both would have been sorry for the misunderstanding. It's not too late. Real friends don't let things like this come between them. Make the first move.
2007-07-04 10:56:54 · answer #2 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SHE APOLOGIZED, so instead of letting it go, you lie to her and continue to harp on it. Come on, stuff happens!! As a friend, you have to allow some room for stuff to happen - as long as it isn't done with intention to hurt anyone, we all need to be allowed to make mistakes!! YOU HAD YOUR TIME TO BE "mad", SHE realized her mistake and APOLOGIZED - SHE is mad NOW because YOU won't let it go!!! Holding on to anger and bad feelings about something so minor is NOT right - - She has more reason to be hurt at you refusing to accept her apology - - are you enjoying this? If not, call her and tell her this is all so lame - I'm sorry too.
2007-07-04 11:09:31 · answer #3 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does stink that you missed the movie. She just made a mistake, it sounds like she didn't do this on purpose. Just explain to her again that you were upset that you didn't get to see the movie. Although you understand that she was excited about seeing her grandma that she forgot. I would just re-explain how you felt and maybe she'll take it differently.
2007-07-04 11:34:03 · answer #4 · answered by wsgrl7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your soo called friend Jen that you are sorry... That you aren't mad anymore and you want to be friends again
2007-07-04 10:50:23 · answer #5 · answered by Bina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that would depend on what you said when you left the message. She forgot cut her some slack unless she does this often, I would not worry. People are not perfect and they make mistakes and they forget, but somehow I am guessing you were ugly on your message and then in that case you should apologies letting her know your feelings were hurt and you are sorry you overreacted.
2007-07-04 10:49:18 · answer #6 · answered by Petra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go to her house and talk to her, she had no right to not pick you up for the movie, and she had no right to hang up on you. You need to sit her down and talk to her, work things out. Or write her a letter and say that it hurts your feelings to not be included in something she invited you to. well i hope i helped! And just remember to be nice but if that dosent work then leave her alone and be really nice to her she will be wanting to become your frined again.
2007-07-04 10:53:53 · answer #7 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't buy that she just forgot to pick you up. She probably decided to ask someone else and there wasn't enough room for all of you. You have a right to be mad. She was inconsiderate.
2007-07-04 10:53:27 · answer #8 · answered by Funny Girl 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its all a misunderstanding just forgive and forget i know its gonna be hard but maybe its the best decision. Talk to her about the situation.
2007-07-04 11:10:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look for new friends.Jen is a control freak.I saw that movie at 1:30 yesterday.It was fantastic...Loved it!
2007-07-04 10:50:46 · answer #10 · answered by waterlover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋