Giving Birth....... Advice Wanted?

Question

I know that giving birth ig going to hurt, no doubt about it.... but if you was to describe it to a certain type of pain what would it be and on a scale of 1 to 10, 10 being to highest how painfull would it be?

Thanks in advance guys

XxX

Currently 28 weeks pregnant with a boy

Answer 1

Beautiful, amazing, humbling, frightening, awing, powerful -

Like swimming in the middle of the ocean: you have no idea how deep or expansive it is. You have no comprehension of what is in store for you - it is sometimes overwhelming when the waves crash over you and you are not sure if you will reach the surface. But then you do! And you breath deep - and you wait for the next one.

Try not to listen to the horror stories - it only propagates more fear and pain. Listen to the good stories, the 'MY Body Rocks' stories, the stories of triumph and power!

I am not going to lie, labor is hard work. And, just like with any really hard work, your muscle can fatigue and cramp - creating discomfort. But you get breaks between contractions - just take one at a time. And it is not that horrible, or the human race would have died out long ago. It is AMAZING. It is POWERFUL. It is something you cannot control or harness, and the sooner we learn that, the smoother our labors will be.

Go into labor, not expecting pain, but expecting it to be the most demanding work your body will ever do. Ride each wave like a wave on the ocean - not fighting it, or you will begin to sink, but floating on top of it, no matter where it carries you. You are in for the journey of your life, and you cannot chart it, plan it, see the route you will take, or otherwise control it - you can only ride with it, trusting you know the destination!

Good luck!

Answer 2

I love how women are always ready to tell an expecting mother that the pain was the worst thing in the world and it was unbearable.. I've never figured that one out yet..

First of all you still have a little ways to go before you need to be worrying about the pains of childbirth, however, it is only as bad as you let it be. Too many times women these days are not prepared properly for childbirth (although there are more classes and programs now than ever before) they are not told why there is pain and how important it is for the birth of their child. Also doctors are now more than ever pushing the drugs and robbing the laboring woman of the experience and knowledge that SHE gave birth. Sadly birth today is treated much like a heart attack.. it needs medications, constant doctors presence and to be done as quickly and with as little trouble to the doctor as possible.

I'm not going to lie to you and say it doesn't hurt. The truth of the matter is that it IS going to hurt, and it may hurt a little or alot depending on how much pain you can tolerate. But the pain is really worth it for two reasons.. first of all the pain is what is telling your body what it needs to do to deliver the baby.. There are many many studies that show when drugs are given it slows and prolongs labor. It also increases the chances that you will need further medical treatments such as forceps or vaccum to help deliver your baby because you cannot push properly anymore and/or delivery by c-section because of prolonged labor and possible complications. The second reason is spiritual.. ask any woman who's had a completely natural childbirth how she felt afterwards and she will probably tell you it was the most incredible and challenging thing she's every accomplished in her life. Of course you may really want to have drugs once your in labor and decide that it's more pain than you can bear, which is why you should talk to your OBGYN about the options available to you and really think about what you want and don't want and share this with your doctor..

P.s. as a mother of 2 I can tell you that both of my labors were different but neither one would I ever regret and I look forward to many more in the future.. Like alot of women have said if it were really THAT bad, there wouldn't be any women having more that one baby.

Answer 3

Pain well lets just say it hurts but it is not something that is unbearable. The pain comes and goes (contractions) for the most part so you get a little break in between. On a scale of 1 to 10 I would put the most painful part at about a 7. Keeping in mind that it is not always that bad for the most part it is about a 5.

I had back labor which is more painful. The pressure in my back hurt.......a lot but it only lasted for a short time and then I felt alright.

Something to ponder, if giving birth was really that bad, would any woman have more than one kid?

Answer 4

I enjoyed every moment of being pregnant. I wish I could be pregnant forever. It is so wonderful and beautiful. The experience is different for everyone, but everyone I know says that it was worth it...and I absolutely agree. There is nothing in the world like feeling your child move inside your belly and watching your belly grow. As for labor and delivery, that wasn't bad either. I took it with a grain of salt, I had to do it, why stress and panic about it? I thought of it as I did everything else I had to do...I had to pee everyday, I had to eat, go to work, sleep, and give birth. It was not bad at all. I would do it again in a heartbeat.

I know most people don't believe that you can be as easy going about labor and delivery as I was...but I honestly was, and I'm so glad. It really made things A LOT easier. The more you stress, panic and worry, the worse it's going to be. Try to relax, and picture yourself going through it. Do you want to be freaking out while your bringing your beautiful baby into the world? Probably not.

Try to stay as calm about it as you can, and when you begin to have contraction pain that is too uncomfortable to you ask the doctor for an epidural. It will help take a way the pain, and it will also help you relax and move your labor along faster. If you want to try to go natural...go for it. I waited as long as I could for the epidural because I wanted to go without, but it just didn't happen...and that's OK.

Remember that every woman, pregnancy, labor, and delivery is diferent. Talk to your doctor and ask all of the questions you have...you'll feel better and more prepared.

I wish you peace, luck, health, and happieness.

Good Luck!!

Answer 5

I keep asking my friends this question. They tell me that the pain is like a desperate for a number two pain coupled with period pain. It comes in waves and when you are having a contraction, you can think about nothing else for those moments until the pain passes.

They have also described it as the pain that you have with a stomach upset, with the hot welling up feeling.

My friends have said that the worst moment is when the baby is crowning, but there reaches a point where it just can't hurt any more and your body kicks in with natural pain killers and the pain stops.

Everyone without exception has said that as soon as that baby is placed in your arms, you stop remembering anything about the pain and would go through it all again just to have that new baby feeling.

Answer 6

Like you have to poop really really bad X 100.

I was determained to have a natural childbirth with my son. My water broke and I had to be induced which causes worse contractions. I used a breathing method and a tens machine on my back which really helped. After going through about 14 hours of this, the dr. suggested I have an epidural or I wouldn't have any energy left for pushing. I agreed, but I didn't dialate the whole way and had to have a c-section after 22 hours of labor.

Thank goodness that women has something in our bodies that helps us forget the pain of childbirth - it makes us want to have more children. I always tell people that the pain wasn't that bad, but then my husband dissagrees and says that I was in a lot of pain.

Don't worry though - when you reach the end of your pregnancy you will want that baby out a lot more than you will be scared of childbirth.

Answer 7

I would say it was more of a discomfort pain rather than a painful pain, if that makes sense. Its not a pain that makes you want to cry, it is hard to explain. The worst bit is one the head is crowning, it feels like a strong burning and that you are going to rip apart, but as soon as the head is out it all stops, and when the entire baby is out all the pain seems to just vanish. So stop worrying you will be fine, you body will know what to do at the time, and midwifes are good a guiding you through it all. Cos I give it another couple of years and you will be having another one, so it can't be that bad. Besides you are a woman and we can handle anything that is thrown at us!!!

Answer 8

It depends on whether you elect to have pain medication. I'm not able to have an epidural (due to a spinal fracture) and so I decided to go without any meds. That being said, I felt each and everything contraction and everything that happens while giving birth with both my children. Without pain meds I would rate it a 10 in terms of pain level. I will say though that as painful as it was, it didn't prevent me from deciding to get pregnant again! Good luck.

Answer 9

I had a 9 pound boy and I have no tolerance for pain and it honestly wasn't bad!!! The pushing and when they come out doesn't hurt at all....its the contractions. I actually slept for the last hour of labor with an epidural!
Don't worry about it too much....our bodies are made to handle the pain!

Answer 10

Well, it kind of depends. I didn't have a normal pregnancy and my daughter was stuck face up. So at about 2 centimeters dialated I think I would have preferred to die, but I would rate it about an 8. I will also definetly say having gall stones and then having gall bladder surgery is much worse as I had that a month after having her. I also had a c-section and I have heard that woman who have normal vaginal birth it hurts a lot less, but I don't know. I hope this helps a little bit.