my whole life i've been running/hiding/avoiding from something.
here are some examples:
at school i faked a stomach ache to avoid a teacher.
at work, i quit because i couldn't handle the stress, complaints.
in relationships, i can't handle arguments, rejections therefore i walk away. and i also shut certain people off from my life. i know its a terrible thing to do. i have a very short temper and i can't help it. and i don't have anyone(like a bestfriend) to confide to give me moral support/something motivational. sometimes i wish to be stronger like everybody else. right now i'm thinking of moving to another country, away from the people i see everyday. what is wrong with me?
2007-07-04 01:53:40 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I went through a time in my life like that, too. I just couldn't handle facing things and I definitely couldn't handle stress. I didn't answer the phone, return messages or see any of my friends. I felt like I had just had it & didn't feel like I fit anywhere anymore. Needless to say, I was depressed & unhappy with my life. I finally gave in & went to see the Dr. He put me on antidepressants (which I didn't want to take) and within a couple of weeks I started to feel a little more like myself. It took about a month before I felt like I had come out of a fog & could handle things better. It wasn't magic, I also went to a few counseling sessions to help me work through my feelings & make some decisions. I also ended up moving to another city & started over again in a new environment. That was the ticket. A fresh start was great & I highly recommend you see a Dr., a counselor (especially since you don't have anyone to confide in) & rethink your job and surroundings. Can you be happy where you are now? Maybe it's time to look for a new job or find a hobby you can get into. Sometimes change is good! I wish you the best & hope you will find peace.
2007-07-04 05:24:38 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's so much easier to run away and hide. We don't have to face things and we don't have to deal with it. But when something massive happens (eg the death of an important person to you) you wont be able to fake a sick day or quit.
If I think you should stop and think when something like this happens again. Eg. the teacher. Just say to yourself, what is the worst that could possibly happen? Then just take some deep breaths and follow through with it.
It's important to have someone to confide in. If you've got no one then you could write. I also suggest this website. It's very helpful, people are very nice and you can post discussions and talk to people who feel the same way.
dailystrength.org
As for moving (I think i've emailed you about this earlier) I think you should. You have to move out of your comfort zone. Away from your parents to live by yourself. Good luck.
P.S. It's ment to snow in Dunedin tonight. We had a good 30cm dumping the other weekend!!
Email me if you like!!
xx
2007-07-04 09:10:22 · answer #2 · answered by ★☆✿❀ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be under the impression that running is always a bad thing. Sometimes it preserves your sanity. But this kind of judgment is solely situational. Running from relationships is an obvious problem that will continue until you meet the person you cannot run away from. This person will "make sense." I speak from experience when I tell you that facing your fears, your pain, your anger, your feelings, your lack of happiness, your losses, will not be easy. But you grow. Be sincere... that is my best advice. When you say you are going to do something, do it. Keep your word. It seems small, but this helps you gain confidence through loyalty- loyalty to yourself and others. And last but not least, Confide in the people that love you. They know you best. Don't forget about them. Being forgot about hurts. You might have walked away from people in the past, but doesn't the thought of them forgetting you hurt? People want to be remembered. Good luck.
2007-07-04 09:13:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't withstand any form of a confrontal situation. What you're lacking is deligence and determination, and what do you do...you run. But guess what you CAN'T run, because no matter where you go, there will always be some form of stress, it's just apart of LIFE. My advice if you don't have some to talk to, go see an expert, a Therapist.
2007-07-04 09:06:48 · answer #4 · answered by R.S. 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you feel excatly like i feel sometimes. I think your feeling this because deep down your not happy in your life and your trying to search happiness. You are starting to feel alone. The reson you start to fight with others is because you are afraid they will hurt you and leave you so you figure if you fight with them then they leave and will never wnat to talk to you again this way you won't be hurt a lot and they won't get a chance to hurt you. Try to find out the reasons your not happy and think of way to changer it. I know everyday I try to change this behavior I have and its not easy. I think when I pray it helps a lot. Something has happened in your past.
2007-07-04 08:59:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
nothing wrong w/ u.. u're just a loser.. (sorry mayb its rude to say) yeap, cuz u always avoid problem u have everyday. thats why ur not happy..just think.. ull let ppls those have problem w/ u (if yes) stay, happily in ur place rite now meanwhile u're sadly, not spirited move to another country? im sure moving to another country'll take lots of money..start from rite now.. no, dun let ur life be like that all the time. n dun wishing all the time that u r stronger like anyone else.. make that wish come true.. u can do it.. believe w/ ur self.. learn, to face problems u have.. ull not growing mature if u're always avoid ur problem.. pray for strenght.. i have tips so u can b spirited.. every morning, try to smile to the mirror n think that today will b good day..
2007-07-04 09:13:47 · answer #6 · answered by chelsea♥rz17 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
you are non confrontational. A lot of people are. Not a good time in the world to be that way you should probably try to change that I think. Take some classes or something that will help you overcome it.
2007-07-04 08:56:50 · answer #7 · answered by eldude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Basically you suffer from low self esteem, and a personality disorder this could become a serious problem if it is not treated soon you need to speak to some one see your GP and ask him to refer you to a speciallist.
2007-07-04 08:57:51 · answer #8 · answered by cormucus 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wht i'll say... this is lil disbalance... u better know urself more... start writing... a daily entry... whtever u think... or if u do tht already... then start knowing urself...
and girl... make URSELF ur best frnd... dnt seek in others a "best frnd". and try not being selfish... understnd other's views listen to them...
keep telling urself "am cool calm collected; none is above me and none is below me"
will work if u'll believe....
takecare.
2007-07-06 05:45:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hoo..dia, this is a big problem but donot worry it can be solved. first of all u need to pray, u know better ur religon, secondly u need to pratice love for friends starting right now. everything is possible with God
2007-07-04 09:18:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋