I want to leave my husband and move to another state. I don't have a drivers license but have transportation there but now I need help in housing etc. I am selling everything here to get money so will have some but been married 36 years and don't know where to start on being on my own. p.s. I am taking my 20 year old daughter with me.
2007-07-04 01:41:31 · 6 answers · asked by perfectmom88 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
First thing to do is check out employment in the state you desire to move to and have a job waiting for you when you get there. That is if you plan to work even part time.
Check crime areas and where rent is high-if you are trying to save your pennies and want to be safe at the same time-this is a must.
Call the Better Business Bureau in the chosen city-they can be a great help. Get maps of the city/area you are going to.
Call churches too-they can be a ton of help.
Also if bus transportation is in the desired area-being that you don't have a driver's license.
Striking out on your own can be a nerve racking experience even if you've made a move several times-been there done that. But not to worry! It just seems scary.
I am 62 and have moved several times over the years, either state to state or within a state. Look at it as an adventure into a new life and setting. New folks to meet and things to do and places to see. I am planning on moving myself, to another apartment soon, with a bigger area for me and my small dog.
Being on your own, even with a 20 yr. old daughter with you, can and should be a wonderful experience.
Like the commercial says: "Just do it!"
2007-07-04 02:07:44 · answer #1 · answered by dragon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure your not angry any longer, get on the Internet and punch in "House Sitters", then choose a state that will be warm, find out who wants a house sitter and the length of time matters, it will take at least 3 months to find, job, subsidized housing etc. You will need several good references, say your banker, Pastor, best friend, keep good and positive thoughts, YOU CAN DO THIS!
2007-07-04 06:10:16 · answer #2 · answered by Conrey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I strongly suggest you let your 20 year old make the journey first , find a house/apartment to rent in an area that will please you both...let her set things up, then you follow. There is no reason for you to do this by yourself. If you have settled on a city/area, go there first, rent month to month until you know the area, then make the decision as to where you want to rent/buy. Please do not rush into a decision that will effect your life for years. Good luck
2007-07-04 04:40:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can get help from senior citisant places, or city hall. call out of state newspapers offices, realitors from that other state. what i did was go to the state and get a room and look over the town, news office apts for rent. jobs ads. houses, banks. just ask people they will tell you. good luck
2007-07-08 02:03:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there are assets in the marriage, half (as a general rule) belong to you. Are you in physical danger? No relatives of yours (or his for that matter) that might help? Do you have a senior center in your area? Inquire there.
2007-07-04 01:58:03 · answer #5 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself a lawyer immediately. You must protect your assets and your future.
If you are leaving your husband, you have to consult a lawyer to find out your rights. She can help you with all your other questions and tell you which agencies can help.
2007-07-08 09:50:11 · answer #6 · answered by Yarnlady_needsyarn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋