when someone offers you an opportunity your heart says one thing and head another how do you decide?

Question

I have been given an opportunity to change my destiny with the possibilty to changing jobs, but unsure whether to pursue this. I need advise as to what the best course of decision making is to ensure I do not regret it.

Answer 1

Your heart and your mind are there to help you decide, but are not there to dictate what you should do. Your heart and mind are tools that can be extremely valuable in making your decision because they store important info that affects and influences your final decision.

Make sure you weigh all the information your heart and your head tell you and then visualize your final decision.

Don't limit yourself to just using your own heart and mind. Asking others what they think can also be a great resource and can give you perspective that you might have overlooked. You may have to give out some of the details that are personal, though, and that may or may not be difficult for you. Others can sometimes tell you right away,"Oh, don't do that because it's a scam, and here's exactly why it's a scam,", or "Have you thought of this?"

With life changing decisions, you usually have to step outside your comfort zone, so, try to ancipate how much you can safely handle, and try to confirm that you can return to altleast where you were before, if things do not work out. Not that they won't work out, but it's good to prepare for different scenarios, depending on how things work out.

After using all these resources to decide, you'll often find the final decision was something you already thought of and considered - Keep it simple!!!!!!!!!!!

Hope you get a chance to "go for it" and,
Good luck, I hope this helps. :)

Answer 2

Anything is one of a million paths. Therefore you must always keep in mind that a path is only a path; if you feel you should not follow it, you must not stay with it under any conditions. To have such clarity you must lead a disciplined life. Only then will you know that any path is only a path and there is no affront, to oneself or to others, in dropping it if that is what your heart tells you to do. But your decision to keep on the path or to leave it must be free of fear or ambition. I warn you. Look at every path closely and deliberately. Try it as many times as you think necessary.
This question is one that only a very old man asks. Does this path have a heart? All paths are the same: they lead nowhere. They are paths going through the bush, or into the bush. In my own life I could say I have traversed long long paths, but I am not anywhere. Does this path have a heart? If it does, the path is good; if it doesn't, it is of no use. Both paths lead nowhere; but one has a heart, the other doesn't. One makes for a joyful journey; as long as you follow it, you are one with it. The other will make you curse your life. One makes you strong; the other weakens you.


Before you embark on any path ask the question: Does this path have a heart? If the answer is no, you will know it, and then you must choose another path. The trouble is nobody asks the question; and when a man finally realizes that he has taken a path without a heart, the path is ready to kill him. At that point very few men can stop to deliberate, and leave the path. A path without a heart is never enjoyable. You have to work hard even to take it. On the other hand, a path with heart is easy; it does not make you work at liking it.


I have told you that to choose a path you must be free from fear and ambition. The desire to learn is not ambition. It is our lot as men to want to know.


The path without a heart will turn against men and destroy them. It does not take much to die, and to seek death is to seek nothing.
For me there is only the traveling on the paths that have a heart, on any path that may have a heart. There I travel, and the only worthwhile challenge for me is to traverse its full length. And there I travel-looking, looking, breathlessly.

Answer 3

Hello friend,

Do not be confussed, we all have our life to live. Nobody should decide your life for you. However, when opportunity come knocking at your door, do not be ignorant of its presence and this boil down to what you really desired in life anyway.

In making the right decision, you need to apply your senses in making the right judgement. Apply ethics, reasoning and wise decision making in your day to day activities, this is because opportunity might be either positive or negative, you have the right to say NO! to a negative offer.

Opportunity therefore is a favourable combination of circumstances, suitable occassion or time and taking the best of every situation.

I wish you perfect deliberation.

Answer 4

Ben Franklin would solve it this way:

Take a piece of paper, make a large T on it.

On the left, write down all the reasons to do it.
On the right, write down all the reasons not to.

Count 'em up. Longer list wins.

Short cut: Flip a coin. How you respond to the result indicates how you really feel.

Whatever you decide, write down what happened, what you're thinking and feeling at the end of every day. Keep it in a safe place.

There's nothing worse than making a choice and then going over and over it again. Handle each piece of paper once..

Answer 5

You must ask yourself, will this job be more beneficial to me in the long run? Is it something that I truely want to do? How does it differ from the job I currently have? Does it have more ups than downs when compaired? I think you can use a little heart and mind in this decision. Best of luck to you.

Answer 6

How much is your "heart" telling you to change jobs? Is it a strong desire? You know, unless we try...we never really know what we are able to achieve.

In cases like these, if there is no danger to my personal health, I always listen to my heart. For 53 years, it has always been my best guide.

Remember the ole saying? "Nothing ventured, nothing gained." If you don't try...than you will never know if it was the right thing for you to do.

I vote to listen to your heart....

Best of luck in whatever you decide...REALLY!

Answer 7

Sit quietly in a room alone for several minutes and clear your head. Then ask yourself the question. The answer you get first is your answer. Even if you get the answer before you've asked then entire question.
Good luck!