i am a mature age guy and so is mywife! but yet we both didnt have any physical contact we both live in our own parents home but and we cant make physical contact ,we got married just coz we both wanted to marry so we cant leave each other and can talk anyway we wan but we both wonder if we make love or not behind our parents back coz we have hid our marriage but we dont wanna hide our physical relationship ,but still we wann to do it but we aint sure if its right to do or not?
2007-07-04 00:09:06 · 17 answers · asked by msd_kahoo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
my marriage is real!it dosent mean i fmy parents were invited so it aint real and i am an egyptian,we are just confused to have physical relationship or not?
2007-07-04 01:58:05 · update #1
now lets clarify some little things, its not as simple as this,its not a matter of wanting,its matter of being ABLE to,ya i know that "if u wanna do something serious so u can get it done"i know this but not always as soon as u want,so the main thing here is that im studying,i have nothing from my OWN,our life isnt bad my parents can affort a good normal life,but to start a life i think its clear that u at least need some basics,its not that im scared or what,the thing is i litterally have nothing from myself and havent earned 1$ even,but we fell in love since we both didnt want to fool around only,we both had marriage thought in our head,and 1thing makes a significant difference in our case and thats we are far apart,how we fell in love has its own story but the problem now is we both have difficulty to go to eachother's country,and2nd problem as i said is that i cant affort a life by my own YET,and we religiously have made the marriage promise,our families KNOW we want eachother...
2007-07-06 05:08:21 · update #2
you are from a middle eastren country, maybe egypt
it seems you have what is called zawaj urfi, your Marriage is not real and is not accepted if you don't tell your parents Especially your wifes family, then your marriage is not right,
you should not have sex with her, untill her family accepts your marriage, do not be Stupid and Wake up
if you really love her do it right, go to her family and ask her hand for Marriage the proper way, or face your god in Judgment day, it is not worth to go to hell for the wrong way of marriage
2007-07-04 00:22:29 · answer #1 · answered by lastinv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I there,
I'm sure you are both mature adults and that you are old enough to be able to "do it". So, please don't feel bad or don't hesitate to have any physical contact with to each of you.
Don't you forget you are married or you have each other.
As I would say to you or anybody else in other words ...:
"Whatever you wanted to do, do it. It's no body's business but yours". Because, it's your life and not theirs. So, forget what the others would say toward your situation.
But, "just enjoy it", while you can. At first it may look strange but, it will end up just fine, I guarantie you. As the song would say ...: "Don't worry, Be Happy". And as I would say in other words ...: "It's with the practice, that makes perfect".
Anyways, good luck in your decisions.
2007-07-04 09:49:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see nothing wrong with you making love to your spouse. That is a big part of marriage. I understand that your parents don't' know about the marriage , but that does not make it any less real. Make love to your wife, I see no reason why your parents would mind.
2007-07-11 21:42:12 · answer #3 · answered by seymoretowns 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the distance is a problem and it appears you have cultural customs you feel need to be followed. If you are truely in love with you wife and want to be with her: You need to start earning and saving money so you can go and be with her. If you are afraid of hurting your parents, keep it a secret until you go, but be prepared to be disowned or shunned. Good luck!
2007-07-08 23:13:00 · answer #4 · answered by Southerngrrrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a mature age guy, then why hide that you are married? Both of you need to tell your parents that you eloped and now you are moving in together to get on with your marriage. They may get mad, but will get over it, they are probably looking forward to getting their mature age son out of their house and get some grandchildren!
2007-07-04 07:12:29 · answer #5 · answered by harleychic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is going on with you two? Man, we people have sex the first night we got married. That's why people get married. So we can enjoy the physical contact, have children and build a life. Tell the truth to mum and dad and get on with it. Don't waste time!
2007-07-11 21:57:08 · answer #6 · answered by Young Uncle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i'm confused! u r of a mature age (as u claimed) but you act like a kid. r u muslim cuz as far as i know u cant marry the without her dad's consent. u live with your parents u havent earn your own money...and u eloped???
mmm talking about such immature decisons from 2 mature people..
my advice get off your parents pocket get a job and own your marriage. what u r doing now is taking advantage off ur parents and ur wife.
sex is definitely NOT THE PROBLEM here.....
2007-07-09 23:09:48 · answer #7 · answered by Dewi Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what? are you serious? if your married why would you not have sex? and if you are both adults why are you still living at your parents? but the most important question is, why dont your families know your married?
2007-07-04 07:12:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are legaly married then there is no reason why you shouldn't. infact a marriage isn't considered legal until you have sex. you can still get the marriage annuled or canceled if you don't have sex.
2007-07-04 07:11:57 · answer #9 · answered by Maya's_Mama 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are so confused! Get a life
2007-07-04 07:11:28 · answer #10 · answered by frescocomolluvias 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋