We have sex and sometimes she does not finish but says it was great is this possible?
2007-07-03 20:52:50 · 12 answers · asked by Pride 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Female pleasure from sex isn't dependant on an orgasm as it is with men. In fact, if we don't get ours then we become more tense and stressed than when we began, but many women get pleasure out of sex without every having a true orgasm. Granted, sex becomes a chore to some of these women, understandably.
If it bothers you, do some research on the erogenous zones, clitoral stimulation, etc. If you want her to receive, you'll have to give.
2007-07-03 20:58:26 · answer #1 · answered by Xander Crews 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
When a woman has sex with a man, a lot of acitivity includes sticking it in and moving the penis back and forth within her vagina. However, if you let a woman masturbate to an orgasm, you will notice that she concentrates only on the clitoris. Clitoral stimulation is the only way to achieve an orgasm for a woman. There are some positions in which the clitoris gets stimulated at the same time that the man gets his favorite in and out action, but nevertheless, it is not the most likely way to get a woman to orgasm. Here is what you need to do, and she will love you more than she ever loved before:
go down on her. You probably did already, but not the right way. When you go down on her, she thinks that you are selfishly trying to warm her up for your own favorite penetration action. Even if she enjoys what you do there, having been raised in the patriarchal society makes her feel guilty about making you spend too much time there. She will be constantly worried about when you are going to end that and she will likely pull you up and ask to penetrate her, and no orgasm will happen again. What you need to do is to make sure that she knows that you are not coming up for a while. Tell her that you love licking her, and that you love it so much that you will not allow her to stop licking her for, e.g., 30 minutes. It can be 15, 20, 25 minutes, whatever, but the real time. Like, " I will keep licking you till 10:15, and you are not allowed to come", so that she does not feel that pressure that actually ruins the enjoyment. I guarantee you that she will come before the time is over, but what you need to make sure is happening, is that she is just there, not worried, and just taking it. You can do it after you come yourself, for example, that would ensure that she is not worried about your own satisfaction. While you are at it, try this other trick, but keep it secret from her: write an alphabet on her c lit oris with your tongue. Spell it out, all over it, use a lot of saliva, and spell spell spell. Listen to her, if she likes a particular letter more then others, repeat it about 10 times, then go on to other letters.
It's possible she likes it without orgasms, but, come on, who does not like to come, really? many women do it just to please men, and men are usually not any good at it, and so women lose interest and feel as if it is chore. Don't let that happen to you.
2007-07-05 12:01:46 · answer #2 · answered by Yara K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is normal if you and your wife haven't been married long.slow down when you feel as if your ready,Stop, wait on her.remember foreplay starts in the a.m. hours and as the day goes on. before sex maybe your should buy a new toy for the bedroom or try oral.when you feel you are going to climax stop,remove your (you know)kiss her touch go oral again.there have been many times for my husbands sake we've had sex an really i didn't want to.but i also didn't want him mad.so I'd do it just to keep peace.an allot of times i did finish.so sometimes when we are having sex do our partners really want to or is it just to keep peace?this may not be the case an none of this may work for you.however it will help you think.
2007-07-04 04:16:12 · answer #3 · answered by terry s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely. Men and women have COMPLETELY different attitudes about sex. When men have sex, they are totally focused on the climax. When women have sex, they are focused on being intimate with the man they love. Don't feel that you're dissapointing her just because she doesn't finish. She isn't lying to you about saying it was great.
2007-07-04 04:02:29 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This may fall under the gray area of *don't ask me any questions and I'll you no lies*. Communication and the duration of the sex act are sometimes closely related. You may want to prolong foreplay-and if she says no to that-AHEM... it'll be time to hit the books or ask her to guide you more in what SHE wants.
2007-07-04 03:57:54 · answer #5 · answered by NotSweetOnGates 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so your saying she didnt' reach her orgasm . perhaps you finnished to quickly and she was just starting up and after a few in and outs you were done.
Try more foreplay then and please her for a while if you know your a fast shooter. and then try prolonging yourself when you do want to finnish. try and last longer for her if you can. try thinking of something else.
women can have many orgasm so the longer you can the last the better
2007-07-04 04:39:59 · answer #6 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's her responsibility to tell you what she likes, if she is not satisfied, and mostly her responsibility to make herself reach orgasm as long as you will move the way she wants.
Tell her to guide you with words or with putting her hands on your hips.
I can't believe safetyhat...hahahahaha...this is a guy, and he thinks that he can decide that women don't need to orgasm? GIVE ME A BREAK! LOL...
2007-07-04 10:06:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
oral in the right spot b-4 sex should do the trick. lick it b-4 you stick it..
2007-07-04 03:57:52 · answer #8 · answered by I Bleed Black & Gold 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Woman need direct stimulation of the clitoris.
2007-07-04 04:16:16 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you busted a nut why are you still awake to think about this.. take a nap while she makes you a sandwich
2007-07-04 03:55:46 · answer #10 · answered by answers928 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋