When I talk to a certain friend, and I try to explain things to him, he always tells me I suck at explaining. And I feel like I do, when I'm around him. But when I'm around other people, I explain things so well, with vivid detail. What might be wrong with me... or him?
2007-07-03 20:02:25 · 5 answers · asked by mrchief77 2 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
If you had the same reaction with everyone, then it would be your problem. However, it sounds like it's his. Maybe you've heard it from him so much that you believe it and so it comes true with him. Tell him in the future you won't explain things to him and then follow that rule. Who needs to be insulted?
2007-07-03 20:14:21 · answer #1 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understood your explanation and description perfectly and I would say you're blessed with at least narrowing it to two human factors, you and him. Perhaps you are subconsciously insecure around this man. Or perhaps as a result of one mistake in a story told a while ago he criticized you and you internalized it and are shaken and distracted by his presence every time you tell a story.
Similar to many comedians and orators who have bad experiences in certain venues, stages, or rooms will still shake with nervousness and trepidation upon being booked for certain events. They may even experience insomnia or sporadic light panic attacks where the thought consumes their minds- though they are consummate professionals.
One thing is for certain. You may overcome this by continuing to expose yourself to the possibility of failure in his presence and simply accept it as a possibility not a probability. In time, it could function like the psychological conditioning methods therapists are using to sometimes "reprogram" traumatic events in Combat Veteran's memories, and subconsciously in dreams to have better outcomes and thereby alleviate associated stress and other impacts stemming from the disorder. Sounds like you may have a stress complex that was initiated, and updated by this one man.
2007-07-03 20:20:04 · answer #2 · answered by Davis Wylde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're talking about one person, who may or may not mean much to you.
Some people process and understand things differently than others. It may be that how you explain things is difficult for him to grasp. I run into this myself at times. I have a slower way of formulating my thoughts and this can be frustrating to some people.
2007-07-06 21:05:03 · answer #3 · answered by Josh P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the problem may be your friend and not how you explain things....maybe he makes you feel uncomfortable and you cant completely express yourself OR he just does not think you explain things the way he would like for you too...just remember to always be true to who you are and not what others what you to be...:)
2007-07-03 20:35:21 · answer #4 · answered by leave me alone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
r u gay? do u like him?
2007-07-07 16:52:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋