Im only 15 but I really want to get pregnant,what should I do?

Question

Im engaged....and me and my fiancee really want a baby now but im only 15.

Answer 1

If you really want to become a mom I am assuming that you also want to be a good mom. If so do what is best for your future child and WAIT! Don't you want your baby to have a mommy who graduated from high school? A Daddy who is going to stick around? Don't you want your baby to have parents who are old enough to provide him/her with a home?
You are not even old enough to get an apartment were will your baby live? Think about it huny. Your baby deserves the best you can give him or her. Right now you are just not old enough to give your baby your best.

add on: I just read the previous answer and the writer makes a good point about welfare but in addition to that you are not eligible to receive welfare until you are 18 your parents can receive it on your behalf but only if they meet the guide lines so if you were thinking welfare think again.

Answer 2

Do you know how much is really involved with having a baby? You are too young to be tied down so early in life. What kind of life would you being giving this child. You, as a 15 year old are still growing and maturing. Don't make the mistake of having a child at such an early age. Babies are wonderful when you have them at the right age. I am 34 and had my first baby last year. She is almost 8 months old now. Go into babies R US and take a look at the prices of things you would need to buy all the time. ...i.e. diapers, formula, wipes. Do you know how expensive all of that stuff is?


Do you know how much it is to deliver a baby? Let me tell you... before health insurance kicked in the whole bill was about $71,000. That is all of the dr's, hospital stay, my daughter had to stay in the NICU because she was 7 weeks early. A visit from the NICU dr. was $650 A DAY!!!!!
I guareentee you and your BF don't have that kind of money.

Be a kid and enjoy it while you have it. Think about high school and all of the activities and experiences that come with that. Prom, grad.etc.

If you want to see what it is like to have a baby, carry around a baby doll every where you go and see how you feel about it.
Please think about all of these things before bringing an innocent baby into this world. I would not want to hear about some news story about a young girl who couldn't handle having a baby and dumped it in a trash can.

Answer 3

You are only 15 yrs.old and you are engaged and you want to get pregnant? Girl you have not lived your life yet and neither has your boyfriend and if he was a good boyfriend he will come to his senses and tell you that you should wait.There are a lot of young girls out here who thought the same thing and when they did have the baby where was the guy up and gone. So think before you both make that decision that you can never change.What you both plan on growing up with the baby? There is not a place that is going to give either one of you a job because you are both under age.And it is against the law for and employer to do so.And besides I am sure that your parents are not pleased with the both you .Think about finishing school first and maybe college it will be hard to do.What you think that your parents are going to raised that baby while you go to school,work,or even try to sleep no they will not .And you won;t be able to hang out with you friends like you used to so see you both have a LOT TO THINK ABOUT and I hope the two of you make the right decision.

Answer 4

Do you know any grown-up women who had a baby in their teens? Ask them if they think it is a smart idea.

There's this "doll" called "Baby-Think-It-Over." It's about the size of an actual baby and it simulates baby behavior like crying, spitting up, and pooping. It has sensors inside that can detect if you abuse it in any way. You should try out one of those for a while. See if there's a teen program in your area that uses Baby Think It Over. If not, order one for yourself at www.realityworks.com. I'm not sure what they cost, but it has to be cheaper than raising a child, so if you can't afford it, you can't afford a baby either.

Also, before you get married at the tender age of 15, you should find a Catholic Church in your area and ask if you can attend Pre Cana classes. Explain your situation, and I'd be willing to bet they would let you in even if you're not Catholic. These classes are for marriage preparation, and among other things, they will teach you about the practical matters of being married like living on a tight budget, setting priorities for spending and for saving.

How do you and your fiance plan to support yourselves? It's hard enough to make a living with a college degree, never mind as a high school drop out. And if you're thinking about welfare, think again. There's a five-year limit on welfare benefits, and even if there wasn't, you'd barely survive on a welfare check.

What should you do if you really want to get pregnant at 15? Wear a chastity belt until you and your fiance have completed your educations, gotten well-paying jobs, purchased a house, and put away a LOT of money for a rainy day.

Answer 5

You yourself had written you are 'ONLY' 15. So, you yourself knew very well that this is not the age to have a baby. Your bf may want a baby because he is not going to have those pains and problems. Being a mother at 15 is very bad and will certainly worsen your entire life. Your are not physically and mentally prepared to be a mother. Your Bf is not very genuine, If he is genuine and good, he should certainly consider your goodness and will not ask for a baby now. His main motive should be just fukcing you. May be, he proposed in a decent way 'having a baby'.

You also wrote you are engaged? How come? Then it is child marriage. I dont think any country law permits marriage below 18 years. Its against law and if u marry now, then you, your bf and your parents may be under cops.

Never think of becoming pregnant now. I even dont advice you to have sex before you are really married. You should atleast wait until you turn 18 to get married.

Answer 6

Get a hobby sweetheart. I can guarantee you that any hobby you pick will be less expensive and less exhausting than a baby.

I also wanted to have a baby young. I found out I was pregnant with my first baby 4 days before my 16th birthday. I had to make a lot of sacrifices for my child, there was never enough money, going out with your friends comes to a screeching halt, and finishing school becomes a great obstacle. You have so much time to have a baby. Your life and your future child's life will be so much better if you get your life straightened out first. That means finishing school and getting financially stable.

Besides, "love" often disappears when you are a teenager. Who knows whether or not this fiance will stick around after you are pregnant? Men can plant the seeds and walk away. Women are often the ones who get stuck with the responsibility.

Make smart decisions with your head not with your heart.

Answer 7

If you really want to be a mother, you need to think about your future children. Being raised by teenage parents who have not had a chance to finish school, not allowing you to get good jobs, will lead to being raised in a family who is in serious financial struggle. You will likely be under constant stress, probably have to go on welfare, will loose your social life (which is important at your age), and your marriage will have a hard time surviving. I'm sure the last thing you'd want to do is give your child a rough start in life on purpose.

I'd say finish school, have some fun with your friends, wait until after you are married, and have some financial stability, and give your future child the best start in life that you can.

Answer 8

Id say wait untill your at least 16. There are so many teen mothers! At 15 I wouldnt plan on your fiance sticking around, just wait a little longer! Make sure he really loves you. How old is he anyways? If you really want a baby do it! Just at leat wait untill your at the age you can have a job! Dont depend on your parents either. If your gonna have a baby do it all yourself! If you are going to dro out of school get your GED as soon as possible! Babies are a big responsability. All these girls I know who are younger than me and had babies and then pin them on there parents!? That is just stupid. Sure there is welfare and stuff, but you shouldnt count on that. Your baby would deserve better! Babies cost alot. At least wait untill your 16, preferably almost 18. I wanted a baby when I was 16 w/ my BF and im glad it never happened. We tried for 9 months. Now im happy I didnt get pregnant! We had a bad break up and I moved on. Now I plan on getting pregnant in a couple months. Im 17 and in love. I have my GED and a stable job. Im still living w/ my parents but just untill John comes home. I cant wait for my boy to finally come home! Only 33 more days! =]

Answer 9

I think you are way too young to be engaged let alone pregnant.. This is something you will regret later..
I would not even think of letting my girls get engaged at that age .. are you not still under your parents care?
Education is the thing that should be on your mind right now.. not babies..
I don't mean to sound harsh but you are making a big mistake!!

Answer 10

Engaged at 15?? Puhlease. And now you think you want a baby. LOL.
Go straight to the welfare queue silly little girl.
You should be thinking about educating yourself so you can get a good job and be able to better yourself and provide a good environment for your future children.
What is the deal in America with all these teen parents? It is ridiculous. That kinda stuff just does not happen in Australia, everyone wants better for their children and their childrens' children.
It's just crap.