i think my husband is cheating not really sure?

Question

married 5 years, have 3 young kids, yes he's done it before! i asked him he said NO! (not like he's really going to say yes anyway why ask) but i did!...now i cant help but ask him everyday more and more call him all day all night when he's not here heck he could be with her i look at his cell bill online every 5 minutes i am going insane any suggestions?

Answer 1

I am so sorry you have to go through this. It is not easy to believe someone who has lied and cheated on you in the past. You really need to decide if you found out he was cheating would you leave him? If so, then keep your eyes open, but you need to limit yourself. But, if you think for one minute that you would try to stay and work it out if you found out about it, then stop your insanity - it is a waste of your time and try to believe in him.

Answer 2

Leave the relationship. He's not worth sacrificing your happiness. You forgave him once and he's doing it again? That's enough.

If you don't know where he is at night or even the day, he's hiding something from you. It also shows you don't have one of the most important elements for a healthy, lasting marriage -- communication.

Also, don't use your kids as an excuse to stay in the marriage. They aren't going to do well in a tense, unhappy environment. And they don't need a mother who is "going insane." They may be young, but turmoil at a young age has lasting effects. Give them a better life by ending the relationship with their father.

Answer 3

Stop focusing on him. Focus on re-building your self esteem. Don't go searching for information on him but have a plan in mind if you DO find out he's cheating. Having a clear plan of action to take will settle this in your mind a little. If he's not cheating, and you focus on it, you run the risk of pushing him away. Work on yourself. You will drive yourself insane checking up on him every minute of the day. You took him back after cheating, you know what he's capable of. Make the decision on how you would handle that kind of behavior again. Spend the time you are wasting being a private detective on you. Learn how to feel good about yourself again. It will give you the chance to salvage this relationship or become stronger if you ever need to get out. Good luck :)

Answer 4

l know from experience how hard it is to trust again once you have been cheated on. What makes you think he is cheating now ? And yes you are right, he's hardly going to admit to cheating. My hubby didn't even when all the evidence stacked up against him. All l can suggest is go with your gut instinct within reason of course. Stop driving yourself crazy about it. lf you get proof that he's doing it again, just pack up your things and get the hell out of there. My hubby and l chose to give our marriage another chance. We had been married for 30yrs and felt there was enough love between us to work through our problems. l love him with all my heart and don't believe he would ever cheat again but if he did, believe me LOVE or NO LOVE he'd be out the door. l wish you lots of luck as know this is certainly not an easy time for you.

Answer 5

Get a friend of yours and go to his job and wait until he comes out and following him if he is cheating on you he will lead you right to her. 9of10 affairs are with a co-worker and if so i bet you know who it would be with.Have you gone through his car a lot of husbands think that's a good place to hide things.Go through his truck and look in where the spare tire is kept.Another thing you can do is get a voice activated tape recorder and put it under the seat of his car and don't forget to use a camcorder if you have one turn it on and put it where you know he can't see it go out and leave him alone in the house with it on.Use it when you take a shower .My husband would call his girlfriend when i was in the shower so you can bet your husband does the same thing.

Answer 6

What is giving you the idea he's cheating?

I would hate for my man to keep at me asking if I'm cheating on him - I'd be really hurt. And then it'd eventually turn to anger and no doubt fighting. You better sort this out before things blow up hun. Good luck.

Answer 7

I think you should call that show cheaters, they can tail him and catch him for you. Good luck and take care of yourself. Being cheated on is hard and very hurtful, but you need to be strong for yourself and your children. If you do not want to get the show involved they sell vehicle trackers online but they are kind of costly. Be very careful because he is endangering you and your health by cheating.

Answer 8

He may be cheating, he may not be. I don't know. What I do know is that you are hurting yourself, not him by obsessing over it. If he is having an affair, you checking his cell phone bill isn't going to change anything.

Answer 9

Call the SHOW CHEATERS! or go to Maury and have him take a lie dectector...... if your gut feeling tells you that he's cheating, then your 100% right, as I knew my guy, Dave A. was with Katie L., Sept. 21, 2004, she had hit on every guy at the bonfire, Propositioned every guy, except my Dave, and she also gave Dave's other younger brother a BJ, that night, their cousin Lucy walked in on them as she is engaged to his younger brother, but he was out of town, I left bonfire at 2a.m. to go to work, at 5:19a.m. I came home from work..... and his truck was not in the garage, and I had this AWFUL GUT feeling, and I just knew........ I went over to her trailor (yep, you guessed it trailor trash) his truck was there, and I knocked on door, no one there, I heard voices coming from back bedroom & the radio on, so I walked to the back and saw for myself, that they were just beginning, I saw them both from her broken blinds, I got close to the window and I said, Nice, are you two having fun? Open the F@@KING DOOR NOW! Dave grabbed up his clothes (they were oddly folded in a neat pile) and he came to the door, dressed, shoes off still opened the inside door, and left the screen door locked, I said, you said, you didn't cheat! He said, 1st time... (yeah right!) he opened the door, I went to go confront Katie L. she pretended to be past out drunk, she wasn't....... and so I came back to the living room, sat down and I spoke to Dave A. I asked him, did he F@@K her, he said, NO.... I asked "Should I leave so he can finish the job"? He said, NO. I asked why not? I then said, now what? he said, I guess go home... I yelled, Where is home? he said, with me.. I asked, then why are you here with her??? He said, it just happened... I was STUPID, I let him come home with me... "3 days later", we went driving, to talk more about what happened, ( we had been talking all along, but we needed some road trip time to talk ) You know what he said, AFTER ONLY 3 DAYS, he said, "I Didn't Trust Him".......... WELL, DUH!!!! of course there is no trust... how stupid was he to think & say that... ? but I ended it not too long ago, as I realized, I need and deserve better!!!! It took me awhile, but I want better for me..... Now, he's at his apt. crying to his friends and family that I won't take him back..... and they are all happy about that too... because I was TOO GOOD TO HIM! I enjoyed being good to him, but he wasn't good to me. WHY DO MEN & WOMEN CHEAT??? I just don't understand it, You say you love me, but if your going to feel badly and cry and ask for forgiveness, if you really love the one your with, you wouldn't stray...... It's sad, as the grass is not greener on the other side... it's only a hole, your cheating with...... a Hole!

Answer 10

how can u enjoy and feel the love of loving the person, and
how can u say you love the person if u doubted him. don't be so paranoid.
To ease that feeling, if he is cheating, confront him and if he say he wasn't, then let him assure u of his love to you. Believe and TRUST him.
GOOD LUCK!