with him. We have two dogs. The younger one is undeniably my dog. He picked me, you either know what I mean or you don't. We had the other dog longer, and she is close to both of us. We split up once before we got the younger dog and there was no question I would keep the dog we had, call her Lady.
Now that we have two dogs he wants me to leave Lady with him. At first I was going along with this, I don't want to be a you-know-what. I love my dog, but I know the younger one needs me more and if there is a decision to be made well... Thing is, I have 2 cats too, had them from before the bf. I moved out 8 days ago, and I took all the pets except for Lady. I think it broke her heart. I picked her up today and brought her to my place because the bf is going out of town. She is happy to see the pets, but I can tell she is mad at me, and I don't think she has been eating well. I really want to do the right thing. Do I choose my dog's feelings or my ex's. My ex has bad anger issues. more comi
2007-07-03 18:55:19 · 6 answers · asked by sage 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He would never hurt Lady, and as long as he is single it won't come up much I don't think. But I know she is really sensitive, she always hid when he would get angry. Is it fair to leave her in that environment when I won't stay in it? Or is it fair of me to take 4 pets and leave him with none, even if I can legitimately argue that each one is truly "mine". What would you do. I know no one can answer this for me, but I really don't know what to do and I need some perspective.
2007-07-03 18:57:55 · update #1
Lady has "forgiven" me. She finally greeted me the way I am used to her doing when I first come through the door. I think I hurt her feelings. Thanks for the input guys.
2007-07-03 19:55:33 · update #2
all i can say is i feel your pain. me and my ex husband got our dog chip when he was a puppy and he is 9 now. last summer ( when he was 8) my ex husband gave me two days to move out he had found a new girlfreind and stuff. so i had to move. i wound up getting an apartment that doestn take dogs becuase i did not have time to shop around ( as he only gave me 2 days) and wound up losing my dog in the divorce becuase i coudlnt get him sincei had no place for him to stay. anyway my dog liekd me better and my ex husbadn was neglectful and abusive, and i feel horrible every day whenn i miss my dog or worry about hima nd i feel guilty that i left him there. even though there was nothing i could do. i cant go geth im or ill probably go t jail ( ex is vindictive liek that) and i just know the dog loved me more and is being neglected/abused right now. the whole thing makes me sad. i am sorry i feel your pain i dont know what to tel you if theres a way for you to get the dog, go for it.
2007-07-03 19:01:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a dog lover myself, I fully understand what you are going through. For a start, I don't think Lady was angry with you. She could be unwell that is why she is not eating. Better take her to the vet for a check up if you are not sure. On the other hand, as for your boyfriend, he needs to realise that since the pets can't do without you, you should consider keeping them all. If you can accommodate all, please keep them. Your pets will feel very sad if you were to leave them with strangers and I think you should know what I mean.
2007-07-03 19:03:37 · answer #2 · answered by happy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With my little adventure there's no superb anti-dote than to chat and talk and talk approximately issues and themes which you think of are there. there is two issues expensive - if he's into some thing else (like an affair which i wish not) then the artwork is little not basic yet in any different case if the themes are which you the two are loosing the spark there are probable thousand of issues you're able to do. yet to start with attempt to comprehend the place the difficulty is - is he under pressure at artwork? does he fantastic you much less alluring? does he think of you have much less time now which you have a toddler? are there economic issues? discover the difficulty first.
2016-09-29 01:14:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"But I know she is really sensitive, she always hid when he would get angry. Is it fair to leave her in that environment when I won't stay in it?"
I think that you have already answered it! No, don't leave her with him! Lady needs you and her furry friends. Let him get his own dog if he wants one. You say your ex has bad anger issues---you can't be sure he won't do something to Lady. Keep her with you!
2007-07-03 20:34:36 · answer #4 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your dog stays with you! There is no way in hell anyone could separate me from my dog's - plus, Lady and your younger dog are probably great mates and one could yearn for the other....
2007-07-03 19:43:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lady wants to be with her animal family, and I am sure she doesn't like the upset/change in her human family.
She needs to be with you.
2007-07-03 19:01:53 · answer #6 · answered by Mr.G's wife 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋