that she had 3 good weeks the 4th week she did not know me or her grand kids the 5th week she had a seizure and never woke again my mom died june 23 i buried her on june 26 i was strong for my kids and my family but now it just hit me my mom is gone i want her back i dont know what to do someone please help me
2007-07-03 18:45:48 · 15 answers · asked by Reggie R 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Goodness. I wish there was something that I could say to help. I am so sorry for your loss.
2007-07-03 18:50:11 · answer #1 · answered by Kate v.7.0 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss, really.....i've had so many family members and friends die of cancer....and its been almost a year since my grandfather died from it and i'm still not over it.......my grandpa was just fine, he went to get a check up, and a few seconds later we find out he had cancer......after that he is moved to a hospice and the doctors gave up hope on him.....i was furious...he was given months to live, yet he barely lived 3 days...it was all so sudden.....the whole didnt really hit me until later..........just give it time.
........i learned to let go of all the anger, fear, and sadness and focused more on the happy moments i shared with my grandfather and how he made me a better person.
...it was hard to look at things from a different perspective, but i started thinking that now he's in a better place, free of the suffering he would've endured here.
I hope you feel better
2007-07-03 18:53:54 · answer #2 · answered by GIR's Doom Song 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I`m so sorry for ur loss. U must allow urself time to grieve, that is a normal process. U were strong for ur kids and family, now it`s time for u to have ur mourning period. There is only one thing I can tell u, time heals all wounds and it will heal urs too. Ur mother will always be in ur heart and the time will come when u will be able to talk about her without crying and even laugh and tell ur children stories of their grandma. It just takes time to accept the loss of someone so dear. So go ahead, cry and grieve and then turn ur attention to ur family and when a year has passed, u`ll find less tears and more nice memories to think about and share. Peace to you.
2007-07-03 19:17:20 · answer #3 · answered by flamingo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish i could help you, sorry but nothing will. they say time heals but i still hurt from the lost of my grand mother 2 years ago. she had a heart attach, she was fine. i cry just thinking about it. i visit her grave and talk to her all the time, i look at her photos and remember the good times we had. i know she is waiting and watching me. i laugh thinking of what she is going to say to me.
i am sorry for the pain you are in, and wish i could help you feel better. the only thing i can say that might help is try to forget the pain and live in the joy you shared. keep being strong for you family. and tomorrow is another day to think of the great things you and your mom did together.
do you have a scrap book or photo album of her? if not make one with your kids, write down things you did.
god bless you and yours.
2007-07-03 18:58:18 · answer #4 · answered by jennyforrich 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be glad for the 3 good weeks and all of the good times you and her grandkids had with her before her passing and take comfort in the fact that she is no longer suffering, as hard as that may be. I'm very sorry for your loss and will say a prayer for you and your family. Always remember the good times, I'm sure she would rather you did that.
2007-07-03 18:58:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so very sorry, I went through the same thing with my husband cancer too. All I can say is as time goes on it will get better as you remember the good times and slowly forget the painful memories. What you are going through now is normal. Good luck to you and God bless.
2007-07-03 18:52:34 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Fuzzy Bottoms 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw thats so sad! I'm VERY sorry for your loss. Just know she is in a better place with God. She's happy and she's finally home. She's not gone she's just moved to another address in heaven. She is in your heart forever. I can't say I know how you feel because I don't and I'm sorry I couldn't help more but just love your kids and be there for them do all you can for them while you're here like your mother probably did for you. Again I'm sorry for you loss she died a day before my 16th birthday...
2007-07-03 18:51:26 · answer #7 · answered by powerpuffcutie24™ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lost my father to cancer too. All I can say is to love everybody like it's yours and their last days, because it comes too soon for a lot of people. I am very sorry to hear this and wish I could do more.
2007-07-03 18:51:11 · answer #8 · answered by Sheriff of Yahoo! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry darling it is so hard to lose your mum i lost mine too the pain will lessen as time goes by .talk to her i amsure she will be listening .talk to her about the good things you shared.tell her everything you are going through.keep busy.talk to god.concentrate on your health eat healthy do some exercise.get out in the garden if you have one .
2007-07-03 18:57:30 · answer #9 · answered by bess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my wife and me lost my mother in law to cancer also and we just stuck to family and friends,they helped out alot.good luck and sorry for your loss,remember your kids still need you and they will be your best support.
2007-07-03 18:56:38 · answer #10 · answered by wildchild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my step dad had died alittle while ago
It helped me to talk about all the good times we had together. I loved him but u can' t help when god says it is time for them to go it is time. Just try to talk about her, it helped me maybe it will help u
2007-07-03 18:52:37 · answer #11 · answered by softballgirl5_2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋