2 years ago.we couldnt work so many hours6 am to 9 pm,we are 27 and 25, so i sold it 2 her parents for a real bargain,i also refinanced their home so they could get the loan for the restaurant,and got them a 5 % fixed mortgage,they are doing really well .they havent said thank you,for anything i done,i feel really bad about it,i dont know if i should say something ,my parents are really mad for all the things ive done for this family also,we come from different nacionalities,i dont know if thats normal for them,or they think because im married 2 her daughter they deserve that and more,please help
2007-07-03 18:13:21 · 10 answers · asked by LUI C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You do far too much for them.
You need to rethink your priorities
2007-07-03 18:28:32 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What are your nationalities? Every culture is different but it does seem like her parents are taking you for granted. How is your wife's reaction to this situation? Maybe you should open up the conversation with her parents and ask about the restaurant business and the excellent 5% interest rate you got for them especially rates are constantly rising.
2007-07-03 18:18:34 · answer #2 · answered by single_n_hopeful 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not to sound harsh, but maybe you should of told them you wanted them to say thank you up front before doing all this stuff.
for me. i never do things and expect anything, not even thank you. i do things for people cause i want to and i want to help them and i want to do it were it comes from the heart and not have expectations. i dont' put but, or well, or how ever behind that.
it would have been a nice gesture for them to say thank you at least, but if it had been your own parents you were born to, would you expect a thank you. if they were in the exact same situation, would you expect something for them, or do it from your heart cause they are kin.
have you talked to your partner about this? how does she feel? if you really need the thank you, then talk to your partner and try to find a resolution. maybe there are things about them you still don't understand about beliefs, background, upbringing etc that you still don't understand. talk and don't follow assumptions. communication.......key to all.
before you do any, i would think on the reason behind it. what gratification to you get from it now? does it warm your heart to see them doing better and you know you were a part in helping that process? think on it more before what could be creating conflict
2007-07-03 18:23:08 · answer #3 · answered by Jody SweetG 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You evidently helped them. However, they've helped you in return for taking the business off your hands. + They're definitely working long, hard hours. So it's not like they've not used your efforts and turned them into something successful.
That should be thanx enough. How would you feel if they had allowed the business to go down the tubes???
2007-07-03 18:20:49 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are right. They should be mad. Obviously your wifes parents took you for a long ride. Your parents are now wondering how they raised someone so ultimately stupid. Yes...I would say something...in a very loud voice. very loud. Nationality has nothing to do with stupid. You personally have totally muffed up.
2007-07-03 18:38:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best place to start is to talk with you wife about how you feel. She may agree with you and if needed you two together could talk with her parents about the situation. They may have an entirely different perspective about what happened--perhaps thinking that they did you a favor and deserve thanks themselves.
In short, communication is the best policy, and it often defuses conflicts before they ever happen.
2007-07-03 18:20:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like a great son in law , to bad they don't get it , your wife could always ask them if they appreciate what you have done for them maybe it would wake them up a bit ., some people just take others for granted.
2007-07-03 18:22:41 · answer #7 · answered by lorie v 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should NEVER do things just for recognition or reward.
If you did, that's very selfish on your part.
If you did it purely out of the goodness of your heart and because you wanted to... then what is the issue?
2007-07-03 18:30:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you loved your wife and you did everything for the other folks and they haven't say thank you "SO WHAT"! as long as you know you did something good in life. BE A MAN AND DON'T BRAG ABOUT IT! QLKM!!!!!!!!!
2007-07-03 18:23:06 · answer #9 · answered by Dongfeng!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
seem.s like they are taking you for granted. in my opion?
2007-07-03 18:34:29 · answer #10 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋