I've been working a little over 20 years now. I went to college and chose a profession, which I've been working at now for 10 years. I chose a profession in the medical field because it is a tradition in my family.However, I've always been miserable in my career.
I've discovered that going out in the workforce is not partiicularly for me. I am married with 2 boys. My husband is just starting off in his career now, and since I pretty much support the family now, we would have to downsize in every aspect of our lives if I leave my job. I am very depressed now, because its a big decision. What would people think, my mom, brothers sisters? Would people look down on me for leaving my career? My husband supports my decision, he just tells me that it's going to be hard at first. I really feel the pressure. Its really scary because I haven't depended on anyone for almost 20 yrs now
2007-07-03 18:05:13 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if your career really makes you un-happy quit sure it will be diffiucult at first but it is better to be happy then crazy rich good luck :)
2007-07-03 18:11:08 · answer #1 · answered by cutie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By guessing your age of around 40 plus, you are likely in your mid life crisis. It can happen to men and women.
This is the time when you question why you did this or that, or whether you have missed out on certain things, or the "real" career that you truly wanted deep down. And you also wonder if you have married the right person, if you are happy, etc. And the desperate desire to change something sounds so right. Indeed, many people in their 40s make career and/or marriage changes as results of these crises. Some just suck it up, buy some toys, or join the gym.
Before you change career, try expand your service horizon to see if you can reap rewards. Example is to volunteer. You are already equipped to help those in needs. You can pick a cause.
And there are people who change professions to start new companies from the entrepreneurial itch. Nothing is guaranteed and I am sure you know.
This country is all about marketing and presentation. If you are sensitve to what people think, you could prepare a storyline that makes you feel better. America is about explorations and doing something innovative, all of which involve risks. And that's what America is all about. We are all afraid of failures so you follow a plan that can reduce the risk but not totally eliminate them.
I say this because I have changed field 3 times and each has turned out ok. I have seen the world (most of it), lived overseas, and considered very seasoned by my peers. Each time, I had doubts but I had done enough ground work that the change was more natural and inevitable.
Good luck
2007-07-03 18:34:33 · answer #2 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your husband and kids support you that is all that matter. Have you thought about what you want to do if you leave your job?? I would have a plan in place like would you go back to school for something else of find a different job or do you want to be a stay home mom. These are the thing you need to decide before you quit your job. As for your family (mom, brothers and sisters) if they don't understand your reasoning then that is there own problem not your. Good luck in your decision.
2007-07-03 18:11:14 · answer #3 · answered by Midnight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your husband supports your idea it must not be that bad. If you can make it and it is right for you then you need to do it. I would think of the kids first. Are they going to suffer? If things are going to be too tough then I wouldn't do it. Can you handle things with less $? Otherwise if you can handle it and work some more and save up some $ that might not be a bad idea. Then you can see how your husband is doing in his career. If you can't handle it anymore then you can't. You got to live with you. I would tell everyone in my family that it wasn't working out and I just couldn't do it anymore. Your family might be mad and it might just take them some time to get used to the idea.
2007-07-03 18:17:26 · answer #4 · answered by Kodycat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ease into this change so as to not put too much of a financial burden on your family. It will work out, just don't jump into or out of anything you think you might regret.
It is not a decision your family should be judging you on so don't let that bother you so much. If you and your husband are in agreement and you feel this is best for your family go for it.
Children grow up so fast, staying home and raising them is an important job and an investment in their future.
2007-07-03 18:12:16 · answer #5 · answered by hazel b grand 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be happy with what your doing or you will be miserable for the rest of your life. The way i see it you have two choices. One you can keep doing what your doing and give your husband a little time to get settled in his new career then make a change, or two you can make the sacrifices that you need to change now. As far as your family they should be happy if what your doing makes you happy. Remember that they love you. Hang in there everthing will eventually work out. Good Luck!!!!!
2007-07-03 18:18:13 · answer #6 · answered by DONNA P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this would put a financial strain on your household, which could lead to other problems. If it is possible, seek an employer that would let you work part time. It would give your household some income and give you a lot of time with the kids. Most middle class households need 2 incomes in today's world. You sound like a wonderful wife and mom. Best of luck to you!
2007-07-03 18:17:16 · answer #7 · answered by Tex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would/Could you consider working part time? That way, you wouldnt be abandoning your career. + You wouldnt feel completely dependent on another. + It would help your current financial situation. Sounds like a win-win to me. Of course you need to question why you hate it so. Perhaps a minor change in your field would be an improvement. In my opinion, anything having to do with medical seems a very secure career.
2007-07-03 18:13:24 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! This is tough. I know because I did it. I wanted to pursue my dreams of obtaining my master's degree and with the added responsibility of school - on top of work and family, I could never do it. My husband fully supported my decision to quit working. his family on the other hand cannot understand why the financial burden is on him.
I say follow your heart and everything will be fine.
Good luck
2007-07-03 18:47:44 · answer #9 · answered by MS L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, after 20 years, don't you think it's time to worry about YOURSELF? You tried to please your family, and being in the medical field, you helped lots of people, so now, it's time to do what YOU want to do. You are lucky to have a supportive husband. Go for it girl! Go be yourself for a change! Good luck!
2007-07-03 18:17:33 · answer #10 · answered by che_rae_gra53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a big decision, but if you feel you could be a better wife and mother by staying home...do it. That means so much more than money.
As far as depending on someone, well, you still have your degree and could still use it if you need to later.
Good luck to you.
2007-07-03 19:08:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋