okay its dumb of me i know already but im just wondering if anybody knows what i should do, me and my bf have been together long enough and he already says he'll help me all the way and i trust him we just werent smart about condoms..hes 17 though and he knows the consiquences if anyone finds out..we have places too go if i runaway or something but should i or should i be smarter and just tell my mom just what?im planning on getting a pg test but im like a month and a 1/2 late. help please!=]
2007-07-03 17:57:08 · 29 answers · asked by emo_zombies 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Walk, no RUN, into your nearest Planned Parenthood office (see the links below). Everything is free. There are wonderful, caring adults there that will help you.
Don't make any decisions until you know. Get tested. But do it FAST -- if you are over 2 months pregnant as you might be if you are this late, your options won't be the same soon.
If you don't feel comfortable talking to your parents, there will be someone there who can help.
2007-07-03 18:13:42 · answer #1 · answered by neoplop 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow sweetie the best thing to do is take a test, find out for sure that you are and then talk to your mom. I got pregnant with my daughter when i was 14 as well and now have a beautiful 15 year old daughter. I would not suggest anyone your age to have a child but believe that the only way i was able to do it was with the help of my family. I hope you will discuss this as quickly as possible with an adult you trust. My thoughts are with you and should you have any more questions you can email me at stamcswain@sbcglobal.net.
2007-07-04 01:04:34 · answer #2 · answered by stacy m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay I was with the same guy since I was 14 years old, and at this point in time you feel in love and you think its forever... we ended up spending 10 more years together. I got pregnant when I was 16 but I had an abortion because I wanted to go to college and have a good career, and it was a good choice for me although I had a child on our 9th year together when I was already 23 and then boom we broke up. And now that I'm not with him and married to another man I realize that my taste is different then what it was before and that my ex and I would have never worked out, although we do have a child.
Remeber your 14, you have your life ahead of you and you have to think at this point if you guys break up are you going to be happy being a single mom. Is the time right??? Remember there are choices although I'm unsure about how you feel about those type of situations.
I never told my Mom about my abortion when I was 16, just because I'm not close with my parents like that and didn't feel it was necessary since I can receive services by myself. Although I did tell a friend and so if anything went wrong I told her then she must tell my parents. But everything went well and I continued to live my life.
Good luck.... but don't run away... sit down with yourself and make a choice.
2007-07-04 01:15:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't runaway! This will only cause more stress and problems for the two of you. I was 17 when I found out I was pregnant (I'm now 23). My husband and I are still together awaiting the arrival of our 2nd child (any day), but it was hard for us to take care of a child so young. You are younger then we were and still have to finish school, so it will be a hard road to travel, but it can be done. I'm not for abortions in the case of teenagers being stupid (rape would be a different story), but there is also adoption if you don't feel that you are ready for a baby. If you decide that you are going to keep the baby, then I would advise you to tell your family.
2007-07-04 01:11:57 · answer #4 · answered by Amber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go get a pregnancy test (they even sell them at dollar tree now and yes those are the real deal I know doctors that use them when they are in-between shipments)
IF it is +: tell your mother right away
(I know it will be hard, but if you are planning on parenting a child you need to face the fact that there will be ALOT of hard actions that you will HAVE to take in order to ensure the well being of your child! What better way to start being a good parent than to involve your parent)
IF it is -: contact your local planned parenthood and talk to a counselor about how to protect yourself from ever having to go through this scare again. Now when I say protect yourself, I don't mean they go over how to use a condom or how to use the pill (I was and have a 14yr old, lol, I know what they say) but what I mean by protect yourself is addressing the psychological aspect of you as a young lady dealing with your relationship and emerging sexuality. Safer sex isn't just an act (or action) it is a state of mind that you have to be committed to, and the staff at planned parenthood (or another agency like that) are trained to tackle those "softer" issues. They are also available to help you talk to your mother about whats going on with you. Again, I know its not easy, but try to look at it this way...
At one point your mother carried you in her body (the same way you may be carrying your child now) and all of the love you feel for that child (if you are pregnant) is the same as all the love your mother feels for you. She may not be happy (you are quite young) but she will love you and stand by you no matter what (can YOU think of anything your child could do that would make you turn your back on them??? I can't.) because you are flesh of her flesh, blood of her blood, bone of her bone, and nothing (NOTHING) will ever change that.
Take care of yourself!!!
God Bless and Good Luck!!!
PS DON'T run! If the two of you are ready to be parents then take the first step and step up to BE parents.
2007-07-04 01:21:01 · answer #5 · answered by Lookin4Neo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're in quite a bind.
While it's possible that you're not pregnant, circumstances favor pregnancy. As that is the case, and assuming you do not wish to abort the baby, you really, really, really, really, REALLY need to tell mom. Yes, she might be angry. However, unless she's proven herself to be callous and unloving, her anger will make way for help and support--and you need both of those. She will also be able to advise you and your boyfriend on how to handle the possible statutory rape charges.
At fourteen, your body is not prepared to have a child. Not only will it come as a shock to your growing system (you're still growing and developing into an adult, which takes lots of energy and nutrients), but I'll go out on a limb and say that you weren't take prenatal vitamins. Therefore, you are in especial need of prenatal care from a *highly* qualified OB/GYN.
If you're pregnant, your life is about to change dramatically. But keep in mind that others have gone through this before you and, with the right support system, you (and your little one) can also thrive.
2007-07-04 01:08:57 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, get tested at a clinic. If you are pregnant you will need regular check-ups.
Talk to your parents or a trusted adult.
Do not give birth in a public bathroom.
Also, maybe its just me but I don't see what a 17 year old wants with a 14 year old. I understand that you love each other now, blah, blah, blah. I just think that there is too big of an age gap at your stages in life.
2007-07-04 01:07:44 · answer #7 · answered by jellybean 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is 17 and you are 14. ??
First you need to know that NO matter what he says now things can and WILL change the minute that baby shows up. He may right now want to help and says he will help but in all reality he wont.. I will be just and the baby.
when you are with him for 20 or 30 year then you can say that you have been with him long enough. Your 14 and unles you started dating him when you were 1 you have NOT been together long enough.
Get your test first then talk to you parents...
Good Luck.
2007-07-04 01:04:00 · answer #8 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well just get a test and then worry about the rest later. And how stupid are you to go out with a 17 years old guy. He must be stupid to not us a condom when he knows that you can get pregnant. But take a test then if it is positive then tell your mom. I think she will be mad but you will get over it. If you are pregnant then you just ruined your whole life. I am 14 almost 15 to. However I am not stupid enough to have sex yet. I am smarter then that. GOOD LUCK!!!!!
2007-07-04 01:04:49 · answer #9 · answered by damarshallkitty 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Take a test NOW, then if it's positive it's time for you to grow up. Be mature. Tell your mom, and go to the dcotor. You're not a little kid anymore if you're pregnant...you're someone's MOM. Running away is a little kid thing. Being responsible and honest and getting medical care for your baby is mature. You need to take a test...and then tell your mom. ASAP. Running away will not help ANYTHING, especially not your baby, who is the number one person you have to worry about nw. Congratulations!
2007-07-04 01:01:47 · answer #10 · answered by grayhare 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋