the reason why i ask is because he always thought he was too old to have another kid when he's daughter is 25, and 29 yrs old.
2007-07-03 16:17:32 · 29 answers · asked by lynda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If this man is your husband this could be your only opportunity to have children, but temper that thought with the fact that there's a good chance that by the time that any children you might have together get to be your age, their father will be deceased.
2007-07-03 16:32:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love each other and want to start a family then I yes, I think it is okay. But you gotta look at all sides of it. Obviously people dont live forever, and if Daddy is 55 years old when Baby is born- how many quality years will Daddy and Baby really get to have? You gotta figure that Daddy isnt gonna be physically able to play catch with a 10 year old boy when Daddy is like 60-something. And should Daddy live to be a good old age of 80's your child will only be in his/her twenties- just at the peak of when all monumental life milestones occur like marriage and starting of their own families. But follow your heart- only you two know what is best for your particular situation.
2007-07-03 23:25:50 · answer #2 · answered by SHAWNA L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a great idea. Ultimately, only you can answer this question. It depends on a number of factors, including your man's health and financial stability. He'd would probably be a more patient father than he was with his first kids, just being older.
Do the math though. When your child is 18 the father would be 73. Chances are that by the time your child would graduate college his/her father would have died. Is this fair to the child?
2007-07-03 23:25:38 · answer #3 · answered by Army mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my fiance and I, just had a daughter a little over six months ago. I am almost 21 and he will be 37 in a few days. He has three other kids that are 13,12, and 8. We have handled it fine. I think if you love someone enough to want to have kids with then do it. I have no regrets at all. And since I have seen how his kids are i know he has done a good job and I have no worries with our little girl. Hope this helps you!
2007-07-03 23:24:28 · answer #4 · answered by wvgal1986 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, don't have a baby for an old 55 year old man... like my grandmama always told me, you have a baby by an old man, your child comes out looking old; and I've seen it on more than one occasion... and what in the heck does he want another baby for when his girls are 25 and 29 years old, he should be preparing for grandchildren... look you're still young; and if you're not married, I'm sure you will one day, to someone close to your age; and you don't want to be taking no old man's child into a relationship... good luck w/this one.
2007-07-03 23:23:00 · answer #5 · answered by A Lady @ ALL Times 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are never physiologically too old to father a child but you can be too old to be a father. Unless he is rich, he won't have energy to play with the child, to wake up in the middle of the night to feed, change diapers, piggyback rides, and play ball when the child reaches 4-5. The efforts are just too much for an average man in his late 50s. And good chance he won't be around to attend his college graduation.
2007-07-03 23:26:57 · answer #6 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children are a gift from God, something I hope to experience one day. There are a few men who never had children with their wives, for one reason or another. I am 51 and have seen a lot of change over the years. It seems that restricting you choice of fathers doesn't matter much anymore since a lot of fathers split anyway. You must be truthful with yourself as to your motivation to have a baby, w/old guy or young. If you're looking to go on welfare, forget it. But, if you have a sincere love to give, age doesn't matter. I know this sounds biased, coming from me, but as the saying goes, I wish I knew then what I (think I) know now..
2007-07-03 23:34:13 · answer #7 · answered by nars 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he thinks he's too old believe him. You two aren't on the same page with having kids.
However, I just met a couple - kid you not, the man is 70 and she's 30 something, they have a 10 month old.
2007-07-03 23:35:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are healthy and married to this guy...and you both want a child...go for it. Just realize that you may be caring for an elderly husband and your child at the same time in about 10-15 years.
2007-07-03 23:51:04 · answer #9 · answered by krebskat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about ruining a guy's retirement. The guy is going to have to work until he is 77 years old to get the kid out of college!!!!!! Does that answer your question?
2007-07-03 23:21:07 · answer #10 · answered by P B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋