I have been married for 12 years. Several years ago my husband and I were having some difficulties and we separated for a few months. During this time, the wife of my husband's best friend introduced my H to another woman. My H began seeing the woman. I know it wasn't a serious relationship, but I was still deeply hurt. I was also hurt because the best friend's wife has/is always been VERY rude to me and I don't know why. Fast forward to present day, my husband and I are getting along and trying to put the past behind us. However, he continues to hang around with his bf, bf's wife and many of the people who used to know the other woman. I don't know what to do because this makes me very uncomfortable. I try to be pleasant whenever I am around these people, but I always feel embarassed. I often find myself starting an argument with my husband so I don't have to attend any of his friends's parties/trips..and ultimately I just end up alone. should I just get over it..wwyd..thanks
2007-07-03 15:57:18 · 8 answers · asked by Molly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Other woman was only in the picture for a couple of months. Husband has been faithful.
2007-07-03 15:59:58 · update #1
I would put myself up front and very visible with these people, especially this piece of work who did this "favor" for your husband. If you act like a whipped dog she will get the idea that it was ok. Hopefully you have told her what you think of her mean and underhanded behavior. I would also tell her that you intend to return the favor.
Your husband needs to lose these folks, but he probably won't. Never let him go alone, and stay right by his side. Don't give that "b**ch" the opportunity to hurt you again.
2007-07-03 16:04:58 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do think it's just time to get past it. It seems that some time has passed. If he hasn't kept in contact with the women and the bf's wife isn't trying to hook them up I don't think that there should be a problem. If you keep making it an issue it could cause more problems for the two of you.
2007-07-03 16:06:55 · answer #2 · answered by booberann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband and explain to him what you've just explained to a bunch of strangers on the internet. Tell him you just cannot be around these people anymore with any comfort. Ask him to see them without you, if he must, but on a limited basis.
2007-07-03 16:02:13 · answer #3 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's between 2 women, you and the friend's wife. Nothing to do with the guys. You want your husband to deal with this with his best friend? Why do women want the men to handle things they are afraid to do?
2007-07-03 16:16:47 · answer #4 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your husband how uncomfortable it makes you to be around the other couple, explain to him why. Ask him to limit the amount of time he spends with them, or suggest other activities for the two of you to do together.
2007-07-03 16:09:22 · answer #5 · answered by kah35 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest the two of you get into marriage counseling, it is very apparent his dating someone while you were separated has affected your marriage - and your view of him...you also need to learn ways of feeling more secure around people he knows.
2007-07-03 16:02:42 · answer #6 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
suck it up unless you want a divorce
2007-07-03 16:02:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have some wine, you'll feel better
2007-07-03 16:02:04 · answer #8 · answered by dog lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋