she, for some reason, has this insane thought that i only want to be with my boyfriend (who i have been in love with since day one and we have been dating for 3 years and plan on getting married in the next 3 years) for money. she tells him that i am only with him so that when we get married i can divorce him and take all of his money. she also told him that i am probably trying to purposely get pregnant so that i can hit him up for child support for the rest of his life. WHAT THE HELL IS HER PROBLEM? i have never done anything wrong to her or to my boyfriend. we have an amazingly perfect relationship..except when she opens her mouth... he knows not to believe her, but it really bothers me that she doesn't trust me and doesnt think that my bf should trust me either!
what do i do?
2007-07-03 15:56:04 · 19 answers · asked by tam d 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he is completely whole hearted in his defense of me...i need advice please!!
2007-07-04 16:35:08 · update #1
Just continue to be the upstanding, honest woman that you are. Moms with lots of money are always paranoid. There really isn't much you could say to her, unless you get downright rude and stupid......but that would be below you.
You could ask your boyfriend to say something to her, but it probably won't do much good.
She's just trying to scare you off in case you're a gold digger.
2007-07-11 03:26:45 · answer #1 · answered by Ophelia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has your boyfriend's mother ever been party to an ugly divorce situation? Maybe she has witnessed this kind of behavior and is paranoid that her son could be burned. Is your boyfriend an only child? She might be an overprotective mother and will never change her ways. Do you work? Are you self-sufficient? Have you given her the impression that you might be overly dependant on her son?
Talk with her and put her mind at ease. Tell her how much you love her son and that you only want what is good for the relationship. Try and befriend her. Find out why she is making these accusations and tell her not to worry.
2007-07-03 16:05:56 · answer #2 · answered by Crispy_Frog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, did SHE say this to you or did your boyfriend tell you this?
if your boyfriend is telling you this, he's an ar se! He shoudn't be saying things like that that would possibly upset you. I'd question why he told you in the first place and what his motive were behind all of that.
And if his mother doesn't like you, and she's got no reason not to like you like you say.. I don't buy that. There's got to be some reason behind it. You must've done something. Either that or she's psycho.
Just remember when you marry someone you marry the family too. He comes in a package.
2007-07-11 07:16:42 · answer #3 · answered by Caroline M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like his mom is jealous of your relationship and wants to break it up. If your relationship is as good as you say it is, maybe his mom is upset that he found a great woman and doesn't want him to get married yet. Maybe she feels threatened by you. Sad, yes, because you don't want to drive a wedge between him and his mom, but then you can't commit to a relationship with a psycho mom! Have you tried talking to her? Maybe ask her out to lunch in a nice setting and just give her a chance to get to know you, and let her know how much you love her son? Otherwise, I hate to say it, but the relationship may just not work...either you live with a nutty MIL who makes your life miserable, or he quietly blames you for keeping his mother away from your lives.
2007-07-11 05:56:48 · answer #4 · answered by answergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your bf mother's negative and non of her business attitude ruin what you and your bf have together. It sounds like this Mother needs to get a life of her own and butt out of you and your bf. life. You say your bf supports and loves you and that is all that should matter between you. Nobody can predict the future and you both just need to live for now and continue to plan your futures together. It's hard to ignoree someone like this Mother but you need to ignor her comments and kill her with kindness and live your life. Good Luck.
2007-07-11 15:24:42 · answer #5 · answered by katship 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem...we were togther for 5 years. When we broke up she was so happy. I saw her about 10 years later and she told me that she wished I would of stayed with him because his life was totally messed up afterwards, in ten years he had 3 marriages and 4 kids... So you need to show her that you two belong together, whether she likes you or not.
It is his decision.
2007-07-09 15:16:53 · answer #6 · answered by browneyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do nothing, ignore her. This is just the way some potential inlaws are. Your boyfriend will have to confront her and tell her to mind her own business. My mother was very much against my wife in the beginning but I married her anyway.
2007-07-08 18:46:07 · answer #7 · answered by paul s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriends Mon hated me also. I thought it would be alright once we got married, (youth) but the question is how tight are the apron strings?? Does he tell him Mon not to bad talk you OR does he just tolerate it?? There is your answer Sis, If he tries to stop it then it will be OK if he just lets her continue....GET YOIUR TRACK SHOES ON AND RUN because you will just get run off in the end. He has to MAN up to her or you will just get hurt, Oh ya I had 10 years of this and I finally got fed up and left.
2007-07-03 16:04:48 · answer #8 · answered by Cheri Bomb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She feels inside that she is losing him.The sense of the motherly instinct.She is worried about him.You need to sit down with her and have a heart to heart.Let her know how you feel about him.Reassure her that you are not out for his money.Make sure you talk to her one on one.So she doesn't try anything while her son is there.
2007-07-11 13:06:00 · answer #9 · answered by yenteramanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let her get to you- she has no business in your relationship and what's even better is that your bf supports you and doesn't want to listen to his mom...you and your bf know what is right and her opinion shouldnt affect your relationship
but if you are really into getting her trust- try talking to her, prove to her that you are totally worth her son's time and attention
good luck
2007-07-11 06:10:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋