He seems unable to leave his exgirlfriend although she abuses him and his mother. I AM PREFERRED BY HIS MOTHER AND BROTHERS. i am the one who gets invited to major family events i.e awards and weddings.
He wants me there but is still seeing the girl.
2007-07-03 15:31:02 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He desperately needs counseling to find out why he feels he AND his mother deserve to be abused. I think your continued relationship with him should be contingent on him getting professional help to deal with why he allows an abusive relationship that also results in abuse to his mother. This is dysfunctional and will only result in misery for you.
2007-07-03 15:36:07 · answer #1 · answered by Yo' Mama 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So clear - you are his patcher. I will leave him even though I love him so very much. I have to but I've got to do what I've got to do, for me, right? If you will stay - that's a signal that it's OK to be just a foot rest - I don't think you like that. Leave him and if he misses you and comes back to you - make sure that you are the one he misses and not the other one. Leave peacefully and nicely. Act maturely and not like a child that you will nag on him because he doesn't love you ar whatever. This is how to know if he really loves the memory of the girl or you. Make him feel that you are more important than that girl's memory. Sometimes people don't know and will not know how important a thing, a person is to them until this thing or person is not in their hands anymore and they have no control over that anymore. So the reason of leaving him is so the control will be in your hands and not in his, and if he don't follow you, you didn't lose him because he was never your's.
2007-07-03 15:41:23 · answer #2 · answered by earth angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop him like a hot potatoe! Hun plz listen to me..guys like him will NEVER get over ex's....once in love ALWAYS IN LOVE!! I seriously have NEVER met a guy who still liked his ex and ever got over her! You have to realize that he once had a thing with that chick and still by the looks of it still does! Honey you deserve a guy who will love you with his heart and soul.... a guy who will do most any thing for you and never thinks of ANY girl better prettier smarter or even skinnier ( lol jk ) than you!! You also deserve a guy with a family with as much passion for you and your bf does right now!! Hope it helped im really feelin for yah rite now!! But first you need to let him know b/c he may think that what he is doing isnt bothering you so.. 1. Let him know EXACTLY whats on your mind...2. If he wants to slpit up then dont feel down..look ahead to your long future..3. i know you will find a better guy!!
2007-07-03 15:41:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have already been gone.. You can still be friends andd hang out with his family member but why in your right mind would you proceed to have a relationship with someone that is seeing another girl ... Victim forever of a cheating man if you dont leave
2007-07-03 15:44:48 · answer #4 · answered by Charlotte Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are sharing a man with someone else. Special. Obviously you aren't good enough for him, no matter what his family wants. If that's what you want for yourself, then by all means, lay back down and keep on being that doormat he's walking all over.
2007-07-03 15:45:33 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny...time for you to realize that you are not dating his mother or his brother...or any of his family...
You need to move on and quick...dont get yourself tied up in a triangle because you will never win...especially if he is still seeing this girl.
YOU NEED TO BE #1...
You need to be the priority NOT the option!
Good luck hun...You know in your heart what you need to do.
2007-07-03 15:38:00 · answer #6 · answered by Tanya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it doesn't totally seem like he has left his ex yet....if his family likes U and U like him and he likes being around U, take advantage of the invitations and spending time with the family....eventually he will really get TIRED of the ex....naggin or hangin around, or U will....enjoy it while it last in the mean time....
2007-07-03 15:38:15 · answer #7 · answered by SuasGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before you leave, give him a choose tell him it is her or you. And explain why you feel this why. If he choose you then tell him that you would prefer if he didn't see her anymore. You should wait for him. but be prepared if he decided to choose her to walk way. Good luck. You best choose is to talk to him and find out what is going on. Does he see you as a friend or more.
2007-07-03 15:36:41 · answer #8 · answered by Midnight 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would say leave him. Why be with someone that is still hung up on there ex? You may be close with the family and thats good but being involved with him definitly isnt.
2007-07-03 15:35:15 · answer #9 · answered by italiangurl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he is still with his ex girlfriend, she is not his EX. Who cares who is mother and brothers prefer. It's who HE prefers that counts. It seems that HE likes the other girl. If I were you, I'd dump him and move on.
2007-07-03 15:36:49 · answer #10 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋