Whats makes you a recluse or non-social?

Question

If you're a recluse or somone who doesn't really like people, why is that? Now I know being an introvert has a lot to do with it.But is there something that makes you wanna step away from people and being social?Because for me,I've kind of just grown tired of modern cultures ways.Whether it be friendships or the sad state of "romantic" relationships and or ect.So for me Its more or else what people do and how people are that turns me off. And also I'm an introvert as well.. WHAT IS IT FOR YOU?

Answer 1

I'm an introvert. I love my books and the quiet time I get with them. I've always been this way. I have noticed, though, that as I get older, I really like people less and less.

The reasons for me are pretty simple. Modern society disgusts me.
For example, I go out and I see women walking around half naked everywhere. That makes me the odd one out and unfashionable at that because I'm decently dressed and covered.
Also, you go into a club or bar, and people are practically having sex on the tables! So, it makes me uncomfortable to try to go out with the girls and have a drink . It puts us in a situation where no one wants to talk to us because we aren't putting out.
If I take my kids to the park, I have to worry about my babies walking up on two guys making out under a tree or someone smoking weed.
So, no, I don't really like people in general. For the most part, those I meet have no morality or decency for they will do what ever makes them happiest and they don't care who sees.

Answer 2

It sounds like you've already answered your own question ;)

I think a lot of it is simply feeling "better" than the rest of the world. When you go out in public, you are surrounded by: idiots, "dirty" people, and a general uncaring society that you want NO part of.

I know that I feel this way from time to time - but the thing that has stopped me from becoming a total recluse is that I am the sort of person who still TRIES to help with societies problems (that is the main reason I joined Y!A in the first place).

That - and my girlfriend would dump my @ss for sure ;););)

Besides - sometimes it's nice to have a conversation where at least SOMEBODY is listening - even it's only yourself :)

Answer 3

When I was growing up I was very quiet and withdrawn and it all had to do with low self-esteem. I grew up around a very negative family and was never taught to believe in myself or believe I could accomplish anything and in many ways, I never did reach my goals because I was taught I wouldn't.

Thankfully some of that changed as time went on. I was very active at church which helped a lot and after I started working, I gained more and more confidence. Today I don't know a stranger (well, 99% of the time anyway) and enjoy meeting new people but there are many ways I am still very uncomfortable about doing certain things. I don't let that side of me show to others much but I know the insecurites are still there.

Answer 4

There can be many reasons but for sure a lack of knowing who you are and what you need is standing in the way of finding a solution. Most of us are in a situation that does not suit our personality. That is why the happiest people are those who moved to find a different surrounding in which they felt more at home. This sense of belonging is at the very heart of happiness and contentment. For instance, there are many Americans today who get sick of the harshness of the way North Americans tend to deal with each other: impatient, unkind and extremely distant. Many have moved to countries where kindness is still valued and voilá, they feel at home. Helping them to succeed better too - in whatever they undertake at whatever level. I´d say find out what you would like from interaction with others, learn what you can contribute to the building of satisfying relationships (better people skills for instance such as rapport building skills) and what kind of culture would suit your temperament better? Even taking a job in another company or sector can make a difference.

Answer 5

Or, it could be the fear factor of getting too close and your heart being open to them. Its a vulnerable state and if you hadn't grown up with open, demonstrative love, you really don't know what to expect. If only one person disappoints you, you want to just shut down to the whole human race, if you are that sensitive. You are afraid, then, to do it again because it didn't work the first time, yet all life is a chance and we need to take that chance on living, daily. Else, why are we living?

Answer 6

I haven't the ability to handle the public. Friends yes ...to an extent. But people in general can be a real hurt on me. I'm bipolar, and this affects me a lot. It can get to the point where even a dog is a bother to me. Thankfully ... I have a faith in God, the Christ and what is taught in the testaments. It does enable me to handle a lot of anxiety ridden moments with whom I consider knaves & fools.
So mostly I just stay home and do things for my wife. Like build a 1200 litre pond in the backyard. Or landscaping for her pleasure. A lot of painting of the canvas, things that she enjoys. This keeps me occupied by myself and I don't have to account to strangers or acquaintences.
When on a high then I can go see friends, and even handle strangers with some form of decorum. But that is when I get out to see friends, and family, when I'm not depressed.
There you go. Hope this helps your curiosity.

Answer 7

I work with the public and they wear you out. The last thing you need in your off time is to deal with more of them. It is best to find things you enjoy doing by yourself and stay away. Even too much time with people you are friends with can be a burden if too much time is spent with them.

Answer 8

i think people might not like me
i think they'll talk about me behind my back
secretly mock me and laugh at me and make fun of me
that they'll feel obliged to hang out with me even though they dont want to
that i'll trap them in a "friendship" they do not want to be in
that we'll grow apart and end up hating each other
i dont think much of myself, maybe they'll pick up on that - that would be embarrassing
people are just strange
i dont get them
they dont get me
its hard to bridge the gap

Answer 9

I don't like people because I've had too many negative experiences with them. People (especially women, it seems) are sneaky, two-faced, rude and superficial. To me it just isn't worth the pain and suffering and annoyance you have to put up with in order to be social in today's society.

Answer 10

i am absolutely disgusted with people who pretend to be your friend but take two weeks to return your call. that DEFINATELY makes me drop people like a hot rock.....