2007-07-03 14:54:22 · 27 answers · asked by beatlegal 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its really up to you, but i would ,you will never have the trust and intimacy you used to have .. you could try counseling but you are always going to have that image in your head.. it might be better for you two to separate for the sake of the new baby .. that really sucks that that happened!!i hope everything works out
2007-07-03 15:03:08 · answer #1 · answered by MarineWife 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes!!! There are no ifs, ands or buts here, honey. That is despicable. Any man who cheats, even if it is not with the sister of his wife cannot be trusted again. I know this from experience. I tried trusting again because I was told it would absolutely never happen again. It happened over and over again. Even if you wanted to give him another chance, most likely the proximity of your sister would incite problems again and again. You could divorce your sister (She did a despicable thing too) and try again, but I doubt whether he is worth a second chance. Sorry.
Children can be raised and raised well without a father. I know, I raised four of them, all grown up now, all on their own and doing very well.
2007-07-03 22:10:51 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara E 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont really think that it is a yes or no answer to this, there are alot more dtails to be got through, there is a child involved now, its not all about the two of you, i would have a talk to him, see what he is willing to do to make things rite, and prove his trust to you, if he is not even willing to try, i wouldnt bother, the child will be unhappy in the environment.I think you also need to ask yourself, can you trust him again, do you actualy want him back or in your life at all, and do you think you can move on from this and be a happy family together.
However my initial answer is yes, someone who not only cheats on you but cheats on you with your own sister, not a nice man(nor is your sister a nice person)
2007-07-03 22:05:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, before you do you have to get some questions answered. First, why did he cheat? Second, why did your sister do this to you? Third, if it's his baby, do you want his child to know his father? If your husband is truly sorry, cut your sis out of your life and stay married. If he is not so sorry, maybe divorce is the best thing.
2007-07-03 21:58:34 · answer #4 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you going to divorce your sister too?
Your pregnancy should not be the decision factor in this case either.
However, you should work this out with him. Men are all bastards. I have not met a man who can resist not biting into the meat delivered to his mouth. Its how he avoid those situations that matters. See if he is willing to work out on avoiding those situations.
The tough part in your case is that its your sister who have done the deed.
But you should not just jump to the easy conclusion of divorcing your husband without trying any remedy to the relationship. After all, its not like you are going to divorce your sister, are you?
2007-07-03 22:02:33 · answer #5 · answered by Shawn W 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well if he will cheat with your sister here, then who's he doing while gone? I mean, that you cannot in any way trust this guy (nor can you trust your sister) My vote goes with having papers delivered to him while he is gone. Drop this guy now before he tries to get to your mother and grand-mother. He's a looser.
2007-07-03 22:30:55 · answer #6 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait until he comes back. Not because he might die, but it will be better for everyone. You will be taken care of by the military if you should get divorced, but don't let that be the factor.
Good luck!
2007-07-03 22:07:29 · answer #7 · answered by under pressure 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you what to do, but I would divorce him and disown my sister. I wouldn't want the cheater any more. What a dog. Your sister is a dog too.
2007-07-03 22:33:07 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who cheats will do it again... I would say divorce him and move on with your life. How is the relationship with your sister... that has got to be difficult. I would move on...
2007-07-03 22:09:08 · answer #9 · answered by manymeese 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its time to do some clear thinking this is horrible but i would not devorce him while he is overseas what if he don't make it back? but after he returns all bets is off i would slam him with all i had and get all the money i could out of this rotton guy all the women in the world he just had to fool around with your sister he's not to be trusted
2007-07-03 22:07:40 · answer #10 · answered by mishoney 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋