Abortion..?

Question

Ok, so, Ive been pro life, ever since i heard about abortion, i knew it was wrong, and my sister even confirmed that it was a terrible thing. she siad no matter what, the baby should have a chance, even if it was rape, or if the mother would get hurt. and ive always learned alot from my sister. but than, my cousin, whos already had one kid, was going to have another child, but the child had no lungs, liver and alot of other internal organs, so she had to get an abortion because she might have health problems. ii asked my sister if this was ok, and she said that the child had a 0% chance of living, and if my cousin got hurt..so it was ok. but i just cant beleive it came out of her mouth, when she was always my sister of wisdom. do you think that it was ok to have an abortion in this situation?

Answer 1

I would get a second opinion from a doctor that I knew to be pro-life. Too often doctors are wrong and cavalier with life. My cousin was told twice that she would have daughters. Both times she had sons.

Furthermore, from a legal standpoint it's safer for a doctor to recommend abortion than to try to save a difficult pregnancy. Doctors can be sued if they don't warn of the risks that a child will be born sick. It's nearly impossible to sue doctors for recommending an abortion even if their diagnosis is wrong.

As more people abort sick children there's less interest in trying to cure them.

Before I'd recommend an abortion, I'd want all the facts and at least a second opinion. I'm not opposed to abortion if it's to save a mother's life, but I oppose it otherwise. I just don't see the point of a surgical procedure to terminate a sickly child. I think that nature should be permitted to take its course when possible with sickly children.

Once I had all the facts, then I'd evaluate the risks, and recommend the option that seemed best for the preservation of life. Hopefully, both lives could be preserved. Of course, with the miracles of modern medicine, it's possible for children born 2-3 months early to survive. So it might be possible to have the child early and spare the mother's life that way.

Answer 2

I think that in that situation, where the child probably wouldnt have been viable for long, an abortion would bring the pregnancy to an end and would have kept your cousin from getting sick. I think your sister probably meant that if the baby has no problems that would prevent it from living on its own, an abortion would be out of the question. Sometimes, when a baby is formed, it can take root in the fallopian tubes and not in the uterus where it should be. In cases like that, an ectopic pregnancy, the baby will almost allways die and it will make the mother sick and can die too. In cases like that, it is best for the mother to end the pregnancy. I respect that you admire your sister so if you are confused by what she says, just ask her! Sisters can be pretty understanding. Hope this helps!

Answer 3

If the Dr actaully told her that the child had a 0% chance of living, then I think that that situation is definitely and exception. It is a terrible thing for a mother to have to hold a child for 9 months when she knows it will not have any chance of living. There is no reason a woman should have to go through with that. This is just my opinion though. I am trying to conceive right now, and if I found out that my child had a 0% chance of living, then I don't think it would be fair to anyone to have to go through something like that. It is a horrible situation, and I don't think you should hold anything against your sister.

Answer 4

I believe in that situation it is alright.. the baby had no chance of living outside of the womb. Why put the mother and the baby through the torture of growing and then around 20 weeks when it's a pound or more in weight and looks like a baby be deceased in the womb and having to go into pre-mature labor to give birth to a still born baby. That would be horrible.. I'd rather send the baby to be an angel than have to let it grow and deform and die inside the womb after so long.

Answer 5

I agree, I am PROLIFE 100% but if the baby is already dead, or has a 0% of living (even if it were 5% I wouldn't do it, but 0%...) and there was a good chance this was going to hurt your sister than I believe this abortion was ok, it was kind of like having a stillborn baby, nothing you could really do about it, it was already in God's hands.
Hope this helps!!!
Toni Lynne ;)

Answer 6

Yes. I am pro choice too. My ex-aunt had an child that pretty much has its inside on the outside as well as a few other things wrong. even though he was born he will not survive, he will not feel aor learn anything but pain, and she has 2 very young children that will not understand why he is gone. I think she should have ahd an abortion.

Answer 7

The baby had no lungs, no liver, etc so there was 0% chance of it surviving. Why should she carry it to term when it wouldn't have made it anyway? I think it was ok to have an abortion in that situation.

Answer 8

I'm not one to judge, but my opinion is to let God make the decision of who lives and who dies; the decision is not ours to make. Yes, I know that it would have had terrible health problems and the truth is that it probably would of died anyways. The doctors may not tell you this, but in years ahead, there is a high rate of depression in those who have had abortion. I personally know a little girl that had a rare disease and numerous health problems such 1 lung, body deformities, she had to sleep with a respirator, had a trache, and had a feeding tube. Today, she is about 4 years old. The feeding tube has been removed, and the trache and she no longer needs a respirator. Her real mother gave her away, but she was adopted into a wonderful family with a new Mom that loves her very much. She is such a pleasant little girl and brings much joy to all that are near her. To me, an abortion is killing, and I would not feel comfortable doing that. I know that it was a hard decision for her to make. During those times we do need God's guidance and His strength.

Answer 9

Many women who otherwise wouldn't choose abortion for themselves, will do so if there are major fetal defects or if their life or health is affected. I'm in that camp.

I think a woman can choose an abortion in any situation. Government or religious groups do not have the right to say whether a woman should carry a fetus to term. That is a choice for the woman alone to make.

Answer 10

That's a really tough question, because I, too am very pro-life.

On one hand, the baby wouldn't have ever made it (I hope she got a second opinion on that though?), and it might have been even harder on her to see and hold and actual baby that was dying in her arms, then to go through an aborition.

On the other, if it was me, I would have carried the baby to term and prayed the doctors were wrong.

For me, it think that in a situation like this one, there really isn't a right answer, because she was taking a life that was already doomed to be taken, and prevented sufering for the baby and for herself.