How can I avoid the temptation of adultery with my wife away for months?

Question

My wife is on the other side of the world with my son for business and to find herself and there's the nascent possibility of a flirtation I have w/ a good looking woman I have a connection with here. I know it's SO wrong so how do I avoid the temptation of committing infidelity while there's this void of my family gone for months on end? How do I keep the love of my wife and family strong in absentia? I keep busy but I work close to this woman and it's easy to find a connection here when my wife's absence leaves me with none. So how do I get over this and move on until my wife and son return?

Answer 1

Pray for strength against this temptation. Go to Church or join a men's community club. Good luck!

Answer 2

It appears that the temptation has been there already and you may be looking for an excuse to do something about it. I don't think it is so much that your wife and son is away, but the battle within yourself that you may want to endulge yourself.

From what you said you work close with this woman and just because your wife is away, it appears the "connection" is there even when she is not away.

So, how do you get over this? You'll have to make a decision and hopefully it is in favor of your wife and stick with it. Your wife did not leave your with no choice; the choice is yours. I'm not sure what "void" you are speaking of. Many spouses are separated these days with the military and I would think most of them are virtious.

I think you need to get over this temptation by your own self-respect, honesty and the fact that you are married. If you give in to your temptation, I think you will regret it. A romp in the hay with another is certainly tempting, but where will it get you and how will you feel about it when you look into your wife's eyes the next time you see her?

I think your wife will know, even if you don't tell her. But how about you? Will you feel comfortable with your actions if you take advantage of something that seems to have already been there?

My advice is to admire this woman as you seem to always have. Enjoy that fact, because if you take advantage of it, you will feel guilt forever and the small accomplishment you think you will have had will seem very small in comparison to what you have with your wife and your family.

Answer 3

Sorry to be harsh but this is it. Grow up, imagine that your son is in the opposite situation in the future and how would you like his wife to treat him?

If you think that your son would deserve to be hurt, humiliated and treated with the utmost disrespect than by all means go for it.

After all I bet it would never come out into the open and your wife and son will probably think that you deserved a little release while they were gone even if it did cost you a marriage and your sons chance at a two parent family.

I have never been cheated on but would also never tolerate it even if I left or he left because they needed a break.

Take a breath and call your wife and child........

Answer 4

Tell your wife to come home. Why on earth did the two of you decide that it would be a good idea to separate your family for months at a time?? Not only is the separation bad for your marriage (you're having thoughts of cheating), but your son is missing out on being with his father. Be honest with your wife. Tell her this separation is putting a strain on your marriage, and that it could do permanent damage, if it goes on much longer. No job is that important.

Answer 5

Did you say your wife was gone trying to find herself? Look If she has been gone for a long time are you sure she is coming back. You really need to find out whats going on in your marriage cause if the temptation is there for some one else your love for wife is slipping into nothing.
I went through the same thing and i missed out on alot waiting for my husband to return. ( He found someone else) catch my drift.

Answer 6

hhmmm, sexual harrassment charges?
ask for a reassignment?
take a vacation by yourself?
say your great aunt died in another country and
go to her funeral?
wear stinky cologne?
do not go out with that women you think you have a
connection with, at all, ever. have you already.....?????
with the hopes of your loving family returning should be
a strong enough love connection. focus on her, see your
wife standing in your heart when you are with that other
woman. speak or use the internet with y our family if you can every day, use webcam. take up some classes to occupy your time off work. best wishes.

Answer 7

How much money could she be making for that to be worth it? I couldn't be away from my wife for that long. She just had surgery, and I won't sleep in the same bed with her because I'm afraid I'll knee her, or something. I see her everyday, and I still miss her. Talk to her about it. If money is still more important to her than your feelings, then maybe you shouldn't be married to her. I think its great that you are trying not to cheat. It shows others that not all men are pigs.

Answer 8

You stay away from temptation and remember that you made a vow to be faithful. Right now there are lots of husbands and wives away from their spouses (some off fighting wars), and they are finding a way to remain faithful. Go in the bathroom with your Playboy magazine and be faithful to your wife.

Answer 9

DUDE I SAW UR ANSWER TO - "What are the best bars to meet good looking single women in Honolulu/Waikiki?"

from that answer u look like u try and find ways to cheat everyday. well if im wrong then u can explain ur self. man just beat off or somthing u got a family.

Answer 10

if you can do it while your wife is around then you are trying to make up a reason to do it.avoid anything more then a quick conversation with the other women and be a man and stiffen up your back and be strong.family is more important then getting you dic* wet. go home and relieve your self...men do that you know?what would you do if your wife divorced you?think about that one........