He says they are just friends but everywhere I turn there's myspace, emails a few calls on his cell phone and work call log. He says nothing is going on and she is his ex for a reason, he can be nice to anyone and forgive anyone and that there is is no reason to shun anyone, no matter who they are. Dispite my voiceing my concerns, she seems to pop up every now and then...should i be concerned?
2007-07-03 14:27:38 · 18 answers · asked by Teena R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
relax and just keep one eye open...........
2007-07-03 14:33:00 · answer #1 · answered by I AM BACK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason she is the ex, the local friend contact should not be an issue. I would really talk to your husband and let him know how you feel. Do it in a calm way don't yell or get all jealous. Your a better woman than I cause I would be doing the jealous thing lol good luck
2007-07-03 14:44:37 · answer #2 · answered by stacy j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should be concerned. Take your husband aside one night and ask him how he would feel about you e-mailing, calling and texting your ex husband (or ex boyfriend)? I doubt that he would appreciate it. You can use the same logic that there is no reason to shun your old boyfriend either. So, if there are no kids involved, I would say you need to make him understand this is not good for a marriage. Good luck.
2007-07-03 14:31:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am happy that you asked this question.
My boyfriend also works in the same building as his ex.
The only reason why they talk is because they share a son.
I have accepted that they will need to talk to discuss the well being etc, of thier son .. BUT, she over does the thing. She always calls him, she is always emailing etc etc. He is really annoyed with it, but doesnt want to hurt her feelings. She cant seem to let go of him. I have voiced my opinion just like you have and he agrees, but he is more STUCK with her.
Your boyfriend is not STUCK with his ex. If you feel uncomfortable with him talking to her, then she should stop, because im sure he would feel umcomfortable if you were talking to your ex all the time. There is no reason to be talking to an ex. EX means PAST and that is exactly what she is. You are his current, and if he doesnt understand that, then he should go back to the misery in his past.
2007-07-03 14:32:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say there is probably nothing to worry about. He is right about there being a reason why she is his ex. He may however still value her as a friend and appreciate the characteristics that attracted him to her in the first place but realizing that they don't work in a relationship. If the communications are not inappropriate or flirty then maybe you need to figure out why you are feeling so insecure.
2007-07-03 14:38:30 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are just some people who get a long better and can be good friends if they are not together. Just because they have contact doesn't mean anything. I am one of many who gets along so well with the ex, that you would think otherwise. But it is true. You can befriends after a relationship. Hold tight there. You'll understand. Who knows, get to know her.
2007-07-03 14:33:41 · answer #6 · answered by Mastershake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. take the chance. it might be a dive off the deep end but you could get lucky, and everyone needs as many friends in life as they can get. if need be then set up an "accidental meeting" with the friend, and bring your man. then take it from there. i´, pretty sure your man will be at least a little mad in the beginning. but afterall you´re only tryiong to make him happy again rigth? explain and he should understand. or he should be able to sit down and tell exactly why he wont reconnect
2016-05-17 21:29:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!!!! He needs to make her realize that he is a married man and that his wife is not comfortable with her calling and popping up. I would get incontact with her and tell her myself if he will not, and if he didnt already after you have voiced your feelings of that, i would tell him that you need some time away from him because he is not taking the marriage serious and that you feel disrespected and see what is his reaction to that.
2007-07-03 14:46:30 · answer #8 · answered by diamond 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You either trust him or you dont. I had an uncle who divorced his wife. They had kids together. He married a woman and they had a child. His ex was one of his best friends and even babysat the child from his new marriage sometimes. When my uncle died he was still married to his second wife 25 years later.
2007-07-03 14:38:53 · answer #9 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should respect your concerns and if nothing is really going on then he should be more than happy to let you come along.
2007-07-03 14:35:14 · answer #10 · answered by prettyblueeyes101010 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell her to get her on dam man and leave your alone and I'd tell him if that is the way he was gonna act he dont need you. He is being disrespectful to you. You are his wife she is the x and there is no reason to contact her.
2007-07-03 14:34:27 · answer #11 · answered by lyttledarlin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋