My mum thinks dad is cheating on her... what should I do?

Question

My dad's been text messaging this lady he claims was seeking marital advice. The lady is supposed to be in an abusive marriage and she doesn't know what to do. Since my father is kind of active in church, she thought he would be a good place to look for advice, but in turn she' actually ruining my parents' marriage.

My mum had always been a suspicious person. This isn't the first time she's accused father of such nonsense. I say "nonsense" because I believe my dad is just doing his "Christian duty".

What should I do to make things better between them? I'd appreciate your help, thanks.

Answer 1

his christian duty is to his wife and family first. let him only text this other woman with his wife around or with her advice too, not just his own. if he refuses than she needs to see the pastor in charge of the church about her concerns or ask her husband to move this woman onto the pastor or another person so it wont ruin your mum and dads marriage.
and if your dad respects and loves his wife more than this woman, he will do anyting to keep the marriage of his own together. remember the family that prays together stays together, I hear that is true

Answer 2

If your parents were each trying to pit you against the other I'd say to stay out of it and not take sides. Since your mother is unjustifiably jealous I'd just try to do my best to persuade her that she has nothing to worry about.
Your dad shouldn't be counseling married women about their marriages though. This is a job for a professional not a parishioner. He should tell her to talk to the Pastor or go to a professional counselor. The problem with your mother is the exact reason why he has no business giving this woman advice. If you can do it without overstepping yourself you should tell your dad to quit with the amateur counseling business already!

Answer 3

A similar thing happend with my parents. My dad was talking to a woman on the internet in France in secret and my mom found out. He stopped talking to her, but she's suspicious of everything my dad does.

I would suggest you stay out of it. I stayed out of it with my parent's problems. I really would suggest you not get involved in it or take sides, it makes it more complicated for your parents. It's hard to watch it, but there's not much else you can do. Don't worry, it will all sort out :)

Answer 4

oh bullshites!
This woman should be seeking help from psychologists, abuse shelters, family, her women friends, etc. She doesn't need the help of your father. I'd be suspicious too. What's up with the text messaging? Are you really falling for this?
I'm not.

Answer 5

Your mother should trust your father. If he can show that he's just helping that woman and being a good Christian, then everything should be fine.

Answer 6

Will your mother listen if you talk sense? If she will, tell her that you believe your father finds her attractive and worthwhile and he isn't cheating. If she won't there isn't much you can do. Do you think she does this to gain attention?

Answer 7

You should tell your mom not to talk to you about it. A child, no matter how old, should not be involved in their parent's relationship in this way. Tell her to get a therapist to talk to instead.

Answer 8

Stay out of this. This is between them.

Answer 9

well talk to ur dad, confront him and tell him to have a clear conv.w.ur mom, peraphs to introduce this lady to ur mom and always that he talks to her have ur mom around, this way she will fell more secure and leave him alone.
GOD bless.

Answer 10

Don't get in the middle. This is their fight, not yours.

The best thing you can do is to just let them work out.