I need support and input on my decision..?

Question

Alright. I'm pregnant. I'm about a month into it. I do think women have the right to choose. However, I don't think it's the right choice for me. I know it's something I would regret.
Therefore, I've decided to go through with the pregnancy. I'm 18, I've just received my ged, and I'm starting college very, very soon. I'd like to get my BA and go on the get an MA and become a therapist.
Though I think keeping a child would make this difficult, I guess it's right for me. I was wondering if it's possible. Can I go through with my dreams? Have a happy life? Support a child?
Has anyone else gone through this? I need some opinions, advice, and ideas.
Thank you..

Answer 1

My mom had me when she was 15. First of all, let me say that we have one of the best mother/daughter relationships I've ever seen, and I'm not just saying that. She is a parent when I need a parent, and a friend when I need a friend - she understands. I think you are making the best choice of your life - I guess that is really what I'm trying to say.

I also think it is great that you haven't given up hope or forgotten about your goals. My mom went on to finish high school, got her Bachelor's, and then her Master's. It was not easy, and she will tell you that, but she had a GREAT support system and went on to have 3 other children and a wonderful life. Although she and my father did not stay together, I grew knowing and being very close to both of my parents and the families.

You are going to be fine. It is not going to be easy, but all worth it in the end. Again, I think you are a wonderful, strong, goal oriented woman, and I congratulate you and wish you luck in all that you do.

Answer 2

I know many women that have. The problem being that in society you face a lot of people who do not believe in you. Believe in yourself. Through the good times and through the bad. You support system will grow as people see you grow. And, you may lose some people you thought were on your side. Be prepared.
I have a friend who is 45 years old and has 6 children ranging in age from 28 to 7. She recently divorced. Moved to a new city, lived in shelters for a while, received training for a job at a hospital that brought her numerous opportunities, opened up her own business with an office location, sent her younger children to military school, bought a house, AND NOW, she's ready to find a nice mate and get married.
This woman faced all kinds of obstacles from the time she had the first child. She claimed, then reclaimed her life and is now ready for a BRIGHT future.
If she can, YOU CAN!

My BEST to you, my friend.

This question has a lot of good answers! They will all help to make you a wiser person.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

Well i had my first son at 18. And then two more after that i had three children by the age of 22. I graduated high school, and i am currently in college. Yeah its very hard but i wouldn't change it for the world. Things may just be a little slower then if you had no children. If you are mature and ready to handle taking care of a baby then go for it. I don't believe in abortion. That to me is killing a child. Although i must say i believe some woman should have to give their babies up for adoption. Thats a different subject. Only you know if its right for you. I would make sure you had lots of support through your family and friends. I couldn't get through it without my parents and my now hubby. Think about it hard only you know whats right for you.

Answer 4

Im 17, had my daughter 4 months ago, and dont regret my decision one bit. as long as you have someone helping you with the baby, like the dad or the grandparents, you'll be able to do everything. having a baby however is very expensive, and might take a lot to pay for school and a baby. i am getting my GED at the end of this year, and i work a full time job, i got married to the father, and we're living happily ever after. i hope thats what will be the same for you. i think you made a great decision and as long as you hold your head high, you can accomplish anything. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 5

I got pregnant with my son at 18. I had thought about adoption but couldn't go through with it. It was the best decision I ever made. Had I not had my son, I probably would have not had the ambition to go to college. Knowing that I needed a good job to support him, I enrolled in nursing school. It was hard but not impossible. I now have my bachelors in nursing and I am working on my masters.
Adoption is a wonderful thing. But if you want to keep the child, then do not adopt out. You shouldn't do anything you might regret.

Answer 6

I went to college at age 22 having two children at home and pregnant with the third. I graduated with my Associates Degree as a Medical Assistant, so it is possible but I will admit it was very hard. I did have to miss classes due to doctors appointments, even though I did try to schedule around them and I had to take a semester off for the delivery (I was due in the middle of the semester). Anything is possible when you put your mind to it. You can go through with your dreams and you will make a better life for your child and yourself by going and finishing school.

Answer 7

Hey there! I just wanted to say that I think it's a wonderful decision that you've made to keep your baby. I'm 20, pregnant, and will be going into my 3rd year of college this fall. It's going to be hard, no doubt about that, but there's always things that can help you make it easier. Have you thought about online classes? That's what I'm going to do the semester that I have my baby, that way I can be around to take care of him/her and still work on my schooling. I'm sure you can do it, and hopefully you have the support of family and friends that can help you out while you're trying to achieve your dreams. Good luck and hope everything works out for the best!

Answer 8

I am currently a single mom and studen raising 2 kids with no child support. The only difference between us is that I am 31, I have 2 kids, and I already have extablished some things.. like I found a town that we love, have a van, and rent a NICE place. Financially, we are the same. Student loans, and doing it alone. Very possible. I like it acutally, it is very fun being a mom. My kids are 7 years old and 11 days old.

Answer 9

I was 18 when I found out I was pregnant with my first child. Was just finishing up my highschool and going to college that fall. I also believe in a woman's right to choose but I know I would never do it myself. I kept my baby and ended up marrying my now husband Dec. 31st that year. I wound up dropping out of school and moving. I got my diploma from adult ed and tried going through distance education to get my Developmental Services Worker degree through college.

Again I dropped out, I was having my first baby and was having a hard time dealing with the changes in my life. But it doesn't end there.

3 months after having the first child we found out we were having another, and now another. (all in about a three year time frame)

Point is, I'm now 21, expecting my third baby (due today in fact) and am a full time student, getting my Personal Support Worker diploma. (They are letting me take time off from my placement to have the baby first) I am going to university next year to get my Bachelor's in Nursing - Obstetrics.

It may be hard to continue and have a happy fullfilling life but it can be done. It's also good for your child to see you going to school and pushing through the pressures of life, it shows them they have a strong mother and it wll one day help them to persevere through life. I am sure you can do it as long as you find the right supports from family, friends or even the community.

Good luck, and congratulations! I hope you make the right decisions for you!

Answer 10

I have seen many women raise their children (more than one even) and still continue on with schooling. It's hard, I won't lie, but it's not impossible or even close to it. It's definitely easier if you have any sort of family support. Work hard, focus on your goals, and not only will you be doing what thousands of other women do every day but you will also be showing your child never to give up on their dreams and to look up to you as a role model and a strong human being.