I've been with this guy for awhile now and things have never been okay with us, he says he loves me and wants to be with me but he never acts like it, he is 30 and i am 21 so obviously, i want to go out and party with my friends, but i get yelled at everytime i do, all he wants to do is family things and stay at home!! i'm not at that moment in my life and i'm tired of getting yelled out for doing things that HE did when he was my age. i dont know if i should leave or stay and try to make things work, i love him very much, but i guess my question is: am i just acting my age or is this guy really not the one for me? should i take the plunge and just move out..or do i stick around and try to ground myself alittle more?!
2007-07-03 13:34:34 · 13 answers · asked by Mother of Pearl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
have your fun u are only young once party till u puke, if he doesn't like it tell him to go fly a kite and find a real man cause this one is just afraid u are going to find u a stud
2007-07-03 13:41:31 · answer #1 · answered by thegeneral345 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to feel ready to be able to have friends that does not drink every minute of everyday and that can respect the fact that your bf does not want you to go out and get drunk.
The only solution is to get your priorities straight and make a decision about what you want in life.
You shouldn't be asking what do we think, what we think doesn't matter to you.
Age is never a problem as long as you agree on the important things in life.
The age gap between my husband and me is 14 years, but we are on the same level with things, we both enjoy staying at home and we are both happy with where we are in life and that is the most important thing in life. You shouldn't feel that you are giving up something or sacrificing something for him, because then you have it all wrong.
There will always be compromises in any relationship, but as soon as you feel as though you are giving up things in life or they feel like a sacrifice, it is time to get out and move on and find someone who wil share the same things in life as you.
If he is not worth giving up your partying streak, then you shouldn't be wasting anymore time on this.
He is already in a stage in his life where he knows who he is and what he is about, and untill you've found the inner you, you can expect things to carry on the way it is.
Hope you find the inner peace you are looking for!
2007-07-03 20:48:24 · answer #2 · answered by fourie_lulu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
30 and 21 isnt too big of a difference. Age matters but to a certain degree you are an adult and should be able to figure this out and you know what rights for you. I like dating older women because they are more mature and more focused. However older people can tend to respect you a little less since you are younger they dont think you are as wise.
Good luck!
2007-07-03 20:40:12 · answer #3 · answered by BMW Lover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you have issues. If you have found a man that you say that you love...then don't go out. Easy as that. If you want to live your early years whoring around then do it. Don't put this guy thru your bs. You will most likely find some guy at a bar and get knocked up and have to deal with an unloving father for the rest of your life. Good luck to you and good luck to the man who is most likely paying your bills. Most...if not all women who go to the bars go out to find a one night stand. Thats real nice of you to do that to your boyfriend. He is 30 years old and should not have to deal with a s**t like you.
2007-07-04 00:35:10 · answer #4 · answered by billy t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is way too mature for you. He has been there and done that and you are still wanting to go there and do that.
If you stay with him you will feel like you missed out on half of life because you will not enjoy the age bracket he is in and when you reach that age he will be in an older one.
Find someone closer to your own age that you can relate to.
2007-07-03 20:44:21 · answer #5 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not follow what you want, eventually there will be a part of you that will resent him because you will always feel that it was because of him that you missed out on doing what you wanted. This tends to lead to people doing this 'partying' at a later age......not a good thing. If you want to get in some partying in your life....do it now. MOVE ON from him.
2007-07-03 20:49:31 · answer #6 · answered by tlbrown42000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he has matured. He's already done all the partying and so now he wants to settle down. By the looks of it, you're still in the partying mood. He has to try to understand it or else it wont work out.
2007-07-03 20:42:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should end the relationship. your 21 and you do not need someone to boos you around and tell you what to do when you should be out partying with your friends. live you r life and have fun. dont watse your time listening to what he says becuase you have all your life to stay in the house and do nothing. hope my advice helps!
2007-07-03 21:06:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the age doesnt matter, but you both are at two different stages of what you want to do with your life at the moment, the relationship isnt going to last long if the both of you cant come up with something that benefits the each of you...
2007-07-04 23:32:24 · answer #9 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've got a good guy with you and you're the one who isn't mature enough to appreciate him.
Go ahead and get messed up with some party-type guys and see where they lead you.
2007-07-03 20:37:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋