Weird Person At Funeral..........?

Question

A lady I hardly knew was at my dad's funeral.

While I was eating she came up to me didn't even say "sorry or anything." She continued on and on at least an hour about her problems and life in general. I was already depressed about my dad and other things. Then a year later after my dad's death she starts following me at my church, and then the store I go to grocery store shopping at and the same laundromat too, and asking me strange questions, about me and my family! She was stalking me, because she lives 20 minutes away and there are plenty of stores and 2 churches where she lives.

Is she crazy or what, and what do you make of this?

She also asked me how much $$ did we get from my Dad, and does my family have to work or anything.........

No, she was not a friend of my dad's, or our family's.
She is a friend just brought along by someone else's relative.

Oldtimer, if I asked you about what was in your house, did you get money from an estate, and very disturbing questions, and she is not related just a stranger, I know she is not concerned about my welfare. I had a terrible feeling when I saw her anywhere. Would you like these questions asked to you and your family when they are grieving????

Patois,
I never heard this before, even though it sounds interesting. I feel if one helps they would give it outright or anonymously. She is harrassing me asking these unusual questions. I ask for nothing, and if she is really interested she could find a way to give money (if you think that is her intention) but I really know it is not the case. Thanks.

Answer 1

I think you should concider her a stalker and you have to go to the authorities before it gets even worse....this could be years of trouble for you, there is a book you should read called the gift of fear, it talks about what to do with problems like that and how to be safe.

Answer 2

I can understand how you feel but not so long a go ( early 60's) it was a show of respect. I recall when I was about 5 or so and my great-grandfather passed someone (don't remember who) insisted that I "must" pay my respects by giving papaw a kiss on the cheek. As time has gone by I've been to way too many funerals and it seems the tradition has gone with the years, but I would say no it's not weird at all especially if it's someone close. It's closure and a way to say goodbye. I personally wouldn't "make" a child or anyone for that matter kiss the corpse but I would certainly understand if I saw someone doing so. When my 23 year old son was killed by a drunk driver, I wanted to hug, kiss and hold him but wasn't allowed to because of how damage had to be hidden, and it was very difficult on myself and his fiancee to not be allowed to touch.

Answer 3

I've been to a few thousand funerals as a hospice nurse and you know what I actually think? Based on what you have stated here, I strongly suspect that she has the financial resources to aid you and your family and is considering doing so. She's tentatively scoping you out to determine if YOU are worthy of her involvement. Many times, even our most casual acquaintances in life surface at our funerals and consider, for whatever reason, the welfare of those we leave behind. It's very common. I myself do that. I very cautiously observe a family after I've lost a friend to determine if there is some wish of my friend's or need in his family that I might fulfill in his honor.

Edit: If you are getting strong bad feelings about this person, Simple, then you should respect those feelings. I recommend discussing this with the police, to begin official documentation of her behavior and possibly to discover if she has a history of stalking.

Answer 4

have you asked her how she knew your dad or your family? next time you see her, I'd start asking more questions. for instance, why does she shop at your grocery store and go to your laundromat? just ask. maybe there are answers that will help you feel more comfortable. at the same time, your questions may be a warning that you are indeed suspicious of her behavior. perhaps then she will back off.

Answer 5

I have met people kind of like what you are talking about, you get a weird sense around them if you try to be nice they get worse. This sounds bad but try being a little sharp with her maybe she will get the hint.If that dosent work then tell her how it is.

Answer 6

wow, mysterious...
I would just confront her and ask her what all the interest in your family and your father is....
seeing that she seems to be "stalking you".trying to find out your fathers "financial status" at the time of his death. however, if you do approach her, make sure that you have someone there with you,
you may be suprised with her answer/s
(only she knows what her perserverance is for) you have to think about this,
what she say's may hurt/anger/puzzle you.....
only she knows her reasoning for stalking you........
if worst comes to worst,
and this continues............
consult with the legal system a lawyer/police/helpline ect

whatever you do...........find out what is up with her.......
good luck

Answer 7

Sounds to me like she might be concerned about your welfare. Did you consider that she might have been a close friend of your Dad? Could be harmless. Why not get the answers from HER!?????????

Answer 8

tell her that if she does not stop bothering her you will go to the police and they will be asking her questions .then I would still alert the police to this woman . good luck dear and be carefull .

Answer 9

I wouldn't tell her anything except that if she doesn't leave you alone, you're getting a restraining order.

Answer 10

show her your genetailia, if she sticks aroud after that, then you could try asking her what it is she wants.