You are friends with a guy. You know he does NOT want to be more than friends with you but still, sometimes you catch him "checking you out". You know he does NOT want to be mroe than friends and after a moment it passes and he never says anything about it. How do you feel about this? Are you flattered? Offended? Uncomfortable? Do you feel it's just human nature taking over and ignore it? Do you just let him look knowing it'll pass and nothing will come of it? Do you try to cover yourself or excuse yourself from the room? Would you ever say anything?
Again, I can't stress enough he doesn not want to change your friendship. Just sometimes he notices how attractive you are and human nature takes over but he remembers that you are just friends and that's all he wants. As good as you are as friends, he knows that the 2 of you would not work as a couple.
2007-07-03 13:09:01 · 15 answers · asked by Bob 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have many guy friends and they check me out all the time. They tell me how good I look and compliment me lots. I never take it to the extreme though because I understand that it is human nature for one to notice what he or she thinks is attractive. My friend Phillip is freaking GAY and he checks me out from time to time. Being friends with them doesn't make you blind....I understand that. Many women understand that but of COURSE there are the others that take things like that seriously and feel as if the guy "wants" you. It's the same with men. I think that LL Cool J is a sexy guy but I would never date him because he's not all that to me. I also think that Shemar Moore is extremly fine but I see from his interviews and things that I probably wouldn't like him as a 'potential relationship type of partner'.
I wouldn't be embarrassed or try to cover myself...I'd just let the guys get their look on because it isn't hurting anyone and you can't help who you are attracted to. Many just need to understand that "attraction" does not necessarily lead to something deeper.
2007-07-03 13:16:19 · answer #1 · answered by crazychill123 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be flattered and actually a Little amused. I would be flattered because even though you want to be just friends you keep checking me out. There are certain relationships that would be better off as just friends. There is nothing wrong with it. It is just human nature, I check some of my guy friends out it's cool. Yes I do just let him look and no I don't leave or anything because we are just friends right? lol
2007-07-03 13:37:46 · answer #2 · answered by smithjjr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends if I actually liked the guy as more than a friend or not. If the dude was attractive than yeah, there would be a slight urge to start a relationship, but i would feel more or less neutral about it. Just be glad to hang out and have fun. Let the good times roll :-P
2007-07-03 13:14:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that I would be glad to have found a friend like that. I already have several guy friends that I trust and tell them everything. We talk about my boyfriend and their girlfriends. They are really good friends. So if all he wants is friendship, then I wouldn't be offended at all if he looks, after all, we're just friends.
2007-07-03 13:34:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if my guy friend were checking me out, I would ask what he was doing and give him an easy out by making a joke about it. If I caught him doing it a lot, then I might get a little uncomfortable, friends or not it is rude, and let him know. If the guy REALLY is her friend and only a friend he should be a little more respectful...sure she may be hot...but his libido is getting in the way of being a true friend.
2007-07-03 13:22:22 · answer #5 · answered by sdannikins 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well then tell him to stop looking. If he is that attracted make up his mind either he wants to be with her or not. If he just wants to be friends then control his staring and be more considerate of the lady feelings.
2007-07-03 13:14:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't say anything or do anything different, I have looked at my male friends admiringly, and sometimes I think "Wow, they look good tonight...but it's just a passing fancy, I would even tell my friend that he looks good. You can admire your friend without it impacting the friendship
2007-07-03 13:17:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I often would feel flattered, if he isnt being a jerk but just checking you out, a lot of girls like it and it makes them feel good about themselves, knowing that they look good.
-Kelly
2007-07-03 13:54:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its sweet but you know that girls aren't typically with guys to sleep with them. Girls are about compassion and caring, we just seek that from guys too. Girls need guys as friends too, and sometimes it is nice to know that something more wont happen!
2007-07-03 13:23:45 · answer #9 · answered by spekie028 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'd be somewhat flattered because he thinks im attractive but as long as hes not thinking anything else and its just once then i think thatd be ok
2007-07-03 13:20:24 · answer #10 · answered by 1DisneyNut 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋