My boyfriend and I have been dating 2 years in September 2007. I cheated on him with different people from May 2006-September 2006 before getting caught. He decided to give me a second chance and I have truly changed. He doesn't take me out on dates anymore. Our phone calls are cut shorter than before I cheated. Our sex life has decreased although he says it has not. He is not patient with me or understanding like before. I love him so Much... its incredible what he has done for me in my life before and after the cheating. He has helped me become a better woman. But the emotional side of our relationship is lacking and I am just so sad and down. He lives now only 50 miles away in a new house and we do not see each other as much before. We meet briefly and it is not fulfilling. I really truly do not want to leave him. I am 100% sure he is not cheating and he does love me..believe me.. but things are just so sad. Everyone else has dates, trust, love...why not me?Should I just be patient?
2007-07-03 13:01:31 · 12 answers · asked by Sincerity 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Move on. He never really forgave your cheating and has been punishing you all this time.
2007-07-03 13:04:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please go to my profile and read what I wrote to a woman about trust and honesty.............Anyway to answer your question :
Your relationship is cracked, not broken. The two things that hold two people together are trust and honesty. Because your were honest in telling him that you cheated on him you must now suffer. He is dealing with his feelings for you. The emotions are damaged. The trust is damaged also. The ball is in his court, sort of speak. There is nothing you can do to change what is going on with him. He has doubt in his mind and heart. All you can do is wait it out and respect his choice. Even if he does decide to come back to you, the relationship will never be the same as it was before. I'm sorry, but that is the way it is. Because of what happened, I think you should move on and learn from your mistake. I hope I helped you with your problem.
2007-07-03 13:51:38 · answer #2 · answered by Rennis Garigin G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly feel that your wonderful times with your guy are over. It is a shame that you had to cheat on him in the first place, and lose his trust then to find out he was the right man for you in the first place. I won't be cruel or thoughtless because of your cheating on him. I really thing he forgave you for what you did, but he can't forget it. That's the part that is eating him up inside. Before you say goodbye to him, I would if I were you take some quality time and sit down and really talk your relationship over with him. Tell him that you Love him, and what he really means to you. Also that you really didn't know just how much he meant to you until you made that mistake. You need to know just how much you hurt him, never keeping in mind it was the passion for the moment. Your intention was never to hurt him, and you have held that guilt within you ever since it happened.You also should ask him if he will ever trust you again, and will he ever let their relations be mended. If he hesitates answering any of these questions, then you really will know its over. I wish you luck, and I believe you are sincere in the way you feel. Now go prove it to him. If he won't accept you for what you did, and love you for courage to save your relationship then I definitely would tell you to move on, and ask God to forgive you.
2007-07-03 17:22:19 · answer #3 · answered by Butch. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant understand why he said he forgive you and to be back with you again but then his action said a different thing. I think is time you should have a heart to heart talk with him. Ask him seriously and tell him his reaction hurt you. Tell him you value the relationship so much after the cheat and ask him if he have 2nd thoughts. Communication is the only way to a better relationship. When one party stop communicating, that's when the relationship would stray. Dont wait, ask him.
2007-07-03 13:14:12 · answer #4 · answered by ANDERSON P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I should'nt answer this because the same thing happened to me. I divorced my wife after 7 years because I just could not bring myself to trust her again, so I know what he is going thru.
He probably will trust you again but the relationship will never be the same, so my advice is to go your seperate ways and try to be friends.My best wishes to both of you...
2007-07-03 13:14:49 · answer #5 · answered by elmer b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he cant,or should i say wont forgive you sweetie.he says he has but his heart is still hurting about this.all of what you said right now,go tell him talk it out and either fix it or move on.you might need some time apart to evaluate the situation.now he might come back and then again he might not just be prepared for whatever happens.take care sweetie and good luck.
2007-07-03 13:14:02 · answer #6 · answered by cyrontae1110 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with violet pearl. Maybe he does love you, I won't say he doesn't, but I do think that he really didn't forgive you. He said he did, but I think that deep inside he's still very hurt and is trying to hurt you too for making him feel like that. If he really can't forgive and forget than I think you should move on.
2007-07-03 13:09:55 · answer #7 · answered by sweetie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its time to move on, he hasnt forgiven you for cheating on him and doesnt have any trust in you and doesnt want to give you 100 % like before because you hurt him and he cant forget what happened, the best thing you can do is move on and try to remain faithful in your next relationship...
2007-07-04 16:10:33 · answer #8 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him. i mean no offence but if it was me... i would have dumped you but he seems like a great guy if he did forgive you so talk to him about how you feel and if it doesnt work out then id say leave him and find sum1 else and DONT CHEAT ON HIM!
2007-07-03 13:07:22 · answer #9 · answered by shortsagitarius 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it over ... if you stay, it'll get worse before it gets better. What made you cheat?
2007-07-03 13:07:15 · answer #10 · answered by danny23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋