Hey everyone, I am 18 weeks pregnant, i will be weeks on thursday.
Well i am 17 years old, And people have been trying to make me feel bad for keeping my baby and not getting an abortion.
I have a great boyfriend that loves me very much, and we just moved in together, he wants to get married when i turn 18. He is very established and succesful to be 19 unlike most young men, and i feel blessed to have him.
Well my family doesnt care about me anymore, they dont call me or anything, and when i do talk to them its always negativity, and it hurts really bad.
I feel like my baby is a gift from GOD and everything happens for a reason.
I have a G.E.D and work part-time. I PLAN to go to school for criminal justice after the baby.
Am i wrong for keeping my baby, I have some support, from my sister and his family but it hurts that mine doesnt like me anymore.
Please help! Thanks!
2007-07-03 12:46:28 · 16 answers · asked by babiilove101 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Let me first start off by letting you know that I am praying for you sister! It's really sounds like you have a lot on your plate but it really sounds like you know what you want and what you're able to accomplish! I'm proud of you for staying in school and giving your baby the chance at life! PRAISE GOD! You've been given this baby for a reason and although some people may not understand the reasoning right now at this point in your life.....there's a reason for everything although sometimes people just don't understand why some people go through what they do! I'll be praying for you sweetie and if you ever need anyone to talk to I'm here for you! I don't know you but I really like the maturity for you 'answers' questions!
2007-07-03 12:52:33 · answer #1 · answered by 1DayLeft 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
NOBODY should ever pressure you into an abortion. I personally am against it, but even if I was pro-choice it should be YOUR choice, no one else's.
Children are wonderful. Just make sure that you're aware of how much work (and how expensive) they are. You've got a tough road ahead - full of lots of ups and downs. The ups are better than anything you've ever experienced, but the downs will be harder than anything you've ever gone through. If you're looking at this clearly and not trying to idealize how life will be and you're sure that you and your boyfriend are able to care for the child and adoption is not a possibility, then focus on the family you're creating. Get married if that's what you want and focus on your baby. If you truly act responsibly and do what is best for your baby then your family should hopefully come around in the future.
Best advice - just don't prove them right. Always think before you act. And realize that however they may feel about you or your actions that led to this, it's not the baby's fault.
2007-07-03 12:56:26 · answer #2 · answered by oklagirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I am neither pro-life nor pro-choice. I do believe that no good comes from an abortion. It leaves the mom open to not being able to have children in the future as a botched AB can have ramifications later. Above all It causes a higher instance of female cancers later in life. Just those two facts alone should make people ask ABORTION? WHY?
The fact that you are keeping the baby and have a wonderful man who apparently loves and supports you is a beautiful thing.
I think however that your family are extremely angry with you. Not for not having the abortion, I tend to think it is because you did not wait till you were married and in a stable relationship before having children.
I bet when you present them with thier grandchild or niece or nephew they will be the typical grandparents and SPOIL THE KIDDIE ROTTEN.
Look up darling, you did the right think for yourself and that is what you should focus on. You can not live your life like everyone else wants you to. You must do what is right for you and from all appeareances you did.
If you were my daughter I would be pretty blooming proud of you. Good luck and if you need a fatherly shoulder to cry on, please feel free to write.
2007-07-03 13:02:05 · answer #3 · answered by mikeae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big (((HUGS)))! That's a tough situation. Unfortunately it's not uncommon, though you do sound like you're more mature than a lot of young women that get pregnant, so I'm surprised your family is being so unforgiving.
To answer your question, no, you are not wrong for keeping your baby if that's what you and your boyfriend decided to do. Like I said, you sound like you have a pretty solid plan, though it won't be easy. (Having a kid, no matter your age, never is!) Sometimes the birth of the baby helps to heal rifts in families, so hopefully that's what will happen in your case. But no matter what, *never* let anyone make you feel bad about your choice. It's your life, not their's, and they may not like it, but that's just tough.
There are many support systems out there for young moms like yourself, from boards to groups. Try looking for a support group you could go to where you live. Also check out this board: http://boards.babycenter.com/n/pfx/forum.aspx?webtag=bcus2564
Good luck to all three of you!
2007-07-03 13:00:12 · answer #4 · answered by alimagmel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in exactly this situation. I was 17 and pregnant, when I got big and walked around my small home town I would get nasty looks from everyone. I moved. I still saw family and it was so much easier to get along when you are not close underfoot, but close enough for frequent visits.
My family was shocked and not very supportive at first. But keep trying ok? You have a baby to look after who needs their family. Who cares about looks. They are your family and sorry to say this, but what has happened has happened, you need to ride this out for a while. Wait while everyone gets used to the idea. They care about you, honestly. Give everyone time, and once bubs arrives things will get easier with your family as they will see what a great mum you will be.
2007-07-03 12:56:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem very responsible and I think that you are doing the right thing. Ignore your family and learn from the situation. Hopefully they will come around and realize that you are doing the right thing. You have a beautiful baby on the way and having a child is the best form of love you will ever experience in your life. I believe that everything happens for a reason as well and everything will work out for you!!! Congrats and I wish you the best of luck! :)
2007-07-03 13:24:57 · answer #6 · answered by ~LYNZ~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't listen to people that are making you feel bad honey,you are brave and you are doing the right thing by keeping it ,i can see why people say that to you ,i mean you are young and you could have waited longer but it happened ,maybe next time you should try to be a little more careful and try to use protection and if your family are not talking to you and treating you different thats probably because they are worried about you and how you will handle eveything.the baby is a gift from god so just enjoy it and take care of yourself and your baby.
2007-07-03 12:55:06 · answer #7 · answered by Pregnant with baby # 2 :) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No youre not wrong for wanting to keep your baby, you made a decision as a woman, not a child. Your family has no place to belittle you because of your choice. In fact you are more mature than they are if you are able to comprehend what a baby means and how special it is to just be able to give it life. You're doing great dont let them drag you down!! Congrats!!
2007-07-03 12:54:59 · answer #8 · answered by romadi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first off, congrats on the wonderfull decision you have made to keep your baby!! Your baby is a gift from god! You are NOT wrong in keeping your baby! Dont let anyone tell you that. Keep your head up girlie.I dont know you, but I support you!
2007-07-03 12:56:48 · answer #9 · answered by Cardinals fan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was 21 and pregnant living with my parents 4 years ago. i know exactly how it is hun!! the first thing my dad said to me was he called me an a**hole and told me that an abortion is my only option. needless to say, i moved out shortly thereafter with my bf. my parents treated me like dirt for most of my pregnancy, but when it was around the time for the baby to come - they started to warm up to me. once the baby was here, i couldn't keep them away :) when there is, like you said, such a sweet little gift from God, no one can turn a cold shoulder to that! now, i know this is very tough for you, but please try to not let it stress you too much...things will get so much better for you hun - i promise you that!!!! btw, i still think about what my dad said about aborting my son, and when i see them laughing and playing together it makes all the hatred disappear :)
2007-07-03 12:59:29 · answer #10 · answered by jilly23810 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋