I wanted to tell my friends before school was over, but at least I got to 3 friends and they accepted me ^-^!!. Now I want to tell the rest of my friends.
Today I just learned that one of my friends are homophobic ='(. I still want her to be my friend, but how to I come out to her and the rest of my friends that I'm gay?
2007-07-03 12:25:53 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Thanks everyone ^-^!!
2007-07-03 12:56:44 · update #1
there is a great website that helped me a ton...
http://www.technodyke.com
2007-07-03 12:29:58 · answer #1 · answered by labbalabbadoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have told some friends, it won't be long until they all know. You don't have to tell them just don't deny it if they ask. That puts you in a position of strength. If they are uncomfortable with you being gay, that is their problem not yours. You never lose friends by coming out but you could lose acquaintances you once thought were friends.
2007-07-03 19:30:37 · answer #2 · answered by tentofield 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell them. you might try some where where you all can have a conversation without others over hearing-just in case it gets emotional. if they are true friends, they will accept you no matter what. could start off by saying you have something important and sensitive to talk to them about. tell them your fears of losing their friendship and then let it come out. Good luck.
2007-07-03 19:50:23 · answer #3 · answered by mclass920 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur friend who is homophobic, well she's probably not gonna be your friend anymore, unless u try to cure her phobia, by talking to her [that has happened before] i wish i could help u, but im not the best at advice, um, just be confident, and if some of ur friends dont accept u for who u are, then forget them and go find REAL friends :]
2007-07-03 19:31:27 · answer #4 · answered by Avinue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Allrite, im not gay, but im ok with being friends with them..some have come out on me and they just tell me, but it actually depends on the person, i mean, yeah you can say taht your are homosexual, but it depends on the person your saying it to, if your friend is nice enough, she wouldn't care, this is how you test true friendships, if she did like you as a friend in the frist place, she wouldn't care at all....
If not, im sorry, and if you're a great guy, then she'd prolly missed out huh...
good luck!
2007-07-03 19:30:15 · answer #5 · answered by Johnny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that girl doesn't accept you for who you really are, she's not actually a friend. Why would you want to keep someone who has such a prejudice against people as a friend anyway?
2007-07-03 20:02:54 · answer #6 · answered by Keyring 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just go out and tell them. Pull then aside and just say it. And if you friend won't accept you because of that, why do you want to be her friend?
2007-07-03 19:29:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have no experience in this matter, but as general advice I would think there's two approaches - big bang and gradual evolution.
if you've managed to gradually explain it to three of your friends, the latter sounds like it could be a safer option.
do you need to tell everyone right now?
2007-07-03 19:29:33 · answer #8 · answered by paraordinate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, homophobes are just insecure about their own sexuality. If you're gay, you're gay. there's nothing wrong with that and you shouldn't be ashamed of youself. If she has a problem with it that sounds like her problem, not yours.
2007-07-03 19:29:02 · answer #9 · answered by YOYOMAMA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell her and if she doesn't accept you she's not a friend but theres a difference between not accepting and and refusing just come out and tell her
2007-07-03 19:32:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them when you are ready. you dont need friends who wont accept you for who you really are, so if she doesn't accept that you are gay, she can easily be replaced with someone who accepts you.
2007-07-03 19:29:13 · answer #11 · answered by ShAmRoCk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋