im goin crazy please help?

Question

i recently found out i was pregnant right after my bf left me i told him the news but he want me to get rid of it coz i think he has another girl im under so much stress i dont wanna get rid of it and i didnt tell my parents coz i live with them and they dont like him please advice me wat to do??

Answer 1

I would tell my parents and keep the baby. Remember the baby has not fault on your decisions.

Answer 2

I think you should sit down and talk to your Mom. Tell her that you need her help right now and stay calm through the conversation.You need help right now to make decisions and see a Dr., have an exam, etc. I think once you tell your Mom you will feel like a weight is off of your shoulders. Don't worry about the ex b/f, he's not worth your time. Deal with him later after the baby comes for child support. You will be alright and I'm sure your family will be supportive. If you feel like you need to talk with someone else first, maybe call a church and talk to a pastor or family planning has a call line. Take care of yourself and I wish you the best.

Answer 3

Girl, this is your life, your decision...i know it's hard, and this situation sucks, but really look in your heart?..what is it telling you?...if you want to keep this baby keep it.....this is a decision you and only you can make, it's your body, your life, your parents are gonna know sooner or later so your gonna have to tell them and they can't force you to do anything, first you have to decide if you keeping it or not...if you don't feel you can take care of it and all it comes with, because kids are hard enough, i have two, but to be single it's even harder, but you can do it, just make sure it's what you want after you have made the decision then next tell your parents, parents love there kids no matter what, i was so scared to tell my parents at 18 that i was pregnant, and they hated the father who had left me also, but i wanted the baby, he's 8 now, and it's the best decision i ever made to keep him....but anyways, i was so so scared to tell my parents, but you have to and there gonna love you no matter what, they will help you through this, they may say things out of anger at first and say well, good luck and this and that but over time if you decide to keep it they'll come around...but tell them...it just depends on what you want to do...i don't beleive in abortion but thats me, everyone is different, if you feel you can't take care of this child or you wont' give it a good life put it up for adoption, but no matter what tell your parents so they can help you thorugh this...and you ex may even come around eventually but this is not his decision it is yours.

Answer 4

I think you need to tell your parents. Whether they like him or not, you are pregnant and they need to know. As for this guy and telling you to get rid of it. That is a natural instinct for a guy to say when he does not want the responsibility. I don't know how old you are and if you are ready for that sort of responsiblity (kids are not easy). I would sit down with your parents and let them know. If they are understanding people, they will try to help you find the best solution to the problem. For now, forget this guy. He wants nothing to do with the issue. If he is over 18 and you decide to keep the baby, make sure you have him give you child support. Either way, mom and dad need to know. Good luck!

Answer 5

You need a good support system first of all. Your parents need to know soon. Face it, you will be showing soon. You may want to consider adoption considering you still live at home and it doesn't sound like you have a secure immediate future financially for your self let alone for a newborn. You need to consider many different things. I can express to you your parents should not have to raise or financially support a child you choose to have and are not prepared to raise and support on your own. That would be unfair. Think of your future and your career. Good luck, and be sure to use birth control in the future until you are able to give the baby all it deserves to have a great start in life.

Answer 6

Whatever you decide, it has a lot to do with your age as well. Its really very tramautic having to go for an abortion when you don't want to but you have to consider the pros and cons. Forget about the guy. Concentrate on what you have to do. Would it help if you tell your parents? Are you close to them? If you decide on an abortion it would leave a permanent scar on your life but you could still carry on. If you decide to keep the child, do you have support, who's to help you out. Could you have the child but no ties with the guy. Wanting something and the ability to do something for someone in the unforeseable future is two different matter. It not only involves you but your child (if you decide to keep it) and your family and friends. I know its stressful but you have to come to terms and make a decision. If you could find a close friend to talk to, to bouch off each other it might help but ultimately it is your choice and it is a difficult choice. I'm sorry you are in this position and I sympatize with you but only you could decide. Take care.

Answer 7

Your ex-bf should help with costs because the pregnancy is half his fault. From the sound of it though - that's not going to happen. And if he's not going to help take responsibility for the child, you need to forget him and move on. You've messed up, now you need to move on with the mistake and manage it as best as possible. Every action has a consequence, and sleeping with this guy has resulted in a child on the way. Now you need to start planning your life with a child. If you're too young or you and your parents don't have the resources to take care of the child, place it up for adoption. Very hard decisions, but that's where you are now.

Answer 8

Don't get rid of the baby, that is a potential life that is about to blossom. There are other alternatives such as adoption if you are unable to care for the baby yourself. and that is a burden you will carry with you foor the rest of your life if you prevent that life from happening. As for the boyfriend, he is half responsible, so he should man up and at least support you. Don't try to have a relationship based on the fact he got you pregnant, it will never be healthy. But you have to look into what is best for your child.

Answer 9

Aww... That ex of yours is no good and keep in mind thats the reason why they are called exes... Dont get rid of your baby no matter what he says. If I were you I would keep him as farout of my life as possible. Some men are better off not being fathers and he seems to be one of them. If that baby isnt important to him now and it isnt even born yet- you may as well just plan your life with just you and your baby...(without him). Tell your parents and make sure they know that he isnt in the picture and that you dont want to be with him. You parents love you and I am sure that it may be difficult to tell them and then they will be as overhelmed as you but dont hold it in. You have something to be proud of. Tell them. Relax and forget about his dumb ***. If another girl is worth more than his child then I would have to say that your parents intuition was right about him and they had great reason for not liking him. So... Be happy that god has given you this gift and dont let him bring you down. Tell your parents that you are pregnant... after all it is their grandchild.

Answer 10

First of all talk with you parents. Being understress while prego will not be good either. The best thing to do if you want to keep the baby is calm down and talk with your parents. It sounds like you two will not be together anymore but your parents hopefully will be supportive no matter what. Also try visiting a plan parent hood clinic for advice. Good Luck to you.

Answer 11

'Getting rid of it' is a decision that you would have to live with the rest of your life, whether you chose abortion or adoption. Certainly adoption would carry less guilt, in my opinion. Could you live with either of those decisions? That baby is yours and it is completely your decision alone, not your parents or your ex-boyfriend's. Your parents might be mad initially, but after the child is born I bet they'd love their new grandchild. My advice is to get some counseling before you make a decision so you can make the best decision for you and your baby. Tell your parents too. They might be more supportive than you think. Your boyfriend will have to accept financial responsibility for the child whether he likes it or not, unless you have him sign away all of his parental rights. Good luck. Follow your heart, and your conscience, not the advice of others.