Does anyone know of a gay couple who were successful with having their own genetic children? By have a surrogate mother? Test tube baby? Me and my bf would like to have children of our own but don't know where to start... Is there a website where one can go to look into different possibilities on having ur own children but being a gay couple?
Sorry if my question is so confusing...
2007-07-03 10:32:06 · 22 answers · asked by J-Craze 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Thanks for all the helpful responses. Well to most of you they have been helpful, to some.. well they have been quite rude.. I really didnt think i would meet that many rude people in this section of questions. yikes..
Thanks again to those you have been kind!!!
2007-07-03 10:50:23 · update #1
There was a couple from the UK that was on TV here on a show, they did surrogacy. They're rich in the UK it seems.
Anyways all you need is a surrogate, it helps if you know a female that would do this out of kindness. If you do know a woman to do it you can just time her cycle so you know when she's ovulating, because women can only get pregnant once per month basically, there's a window, then you just ejaculate in a condom and get her to turn it inside out and insert it.
If you want something more complicated you'll have to pay more. Unless maybe you use an Indian clinic, check the net for that, appearantly people get surrogates there all the time, and it's a huge success for the people and their communities.
2007-07-03 11:06:10 · answer #1 · answered by Luis 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess you would start by looking for a surrogate Mother. I think they have services with women who want to do that there. A couple of my family members have had luck with a girl who gets pregnant and then gives the baby up. They just have the man sign the birth cert. as if he is the natural Father to avoid the adoption process. If you could find a woman willing, maybe you could just do that. Best of luck having a child!
2007-07-03 10:38:54 · answer #2 · answered by wish I were 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, not sure where you live, but perhaps look at listings near your zip code on Yahoo Local for gay and lesbian support groups and organizations. That way you'll have places to go or call and get some tips from your community. Sorry I'm not very helpful, but I did want to say good luck and congrats! And just in case others use this question as an opportunity to bash your decision, just know that others are supportive and happy for you.
2007-07-03 10:38:41 · answer #3 · answered by argosaries 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't know of any websites but I have heard some stories. Usually the surrogate mother is a friend. Also you can not get an egg from a male. So genetically would only be 1 parent. In less you can get a sister or cousin, niece.
2007-07-03 10:37:15 · answer #4 · answered by punch 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't know any personally, but I have heard of a few success stories. I presume that the technologies will work for you; I just don't know what the availability is in your area, or what the laws are regarding that in your state.
It's not at all confusing, but I'm afraid I'm not much help... I only know 3 gay guys and 2 lesbians. Still, good luck! I bet you will be a very happy family!
2007-07-03 10:35:52 · answer #5 · answered by Rat 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Try asking your urologist if you have one ... or you could look in any phone book 'yellow pages' under Social Services ... or you could go through an attorney who does 'child welfare' cases ... they may not be able to 'inform' you but would certainly be happy to 'pass on' any information about places you could call. BE CAREFUL, though ... and remember that even though there are two of you, only ONE of you will be the child's 'biological parent' ... and since there are so many 'unwanted' children out there, you should be able to 'adopt' one or a dozen if you don't have 'too high standards' ... and what you want is a 'good child' and not really 'your own child,' right? Think about it ... and GOOD LUCK!
2007-07-03 10:37:55 · answer #6 · answered by Kris L 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My coworkers sister is in a committed relationship and they decided they wanted to start a family. Since they are female they obviously could carry the baby themselves so they used one of their eggs with a sperm donor. Her sister carried the baby. It will be more involved for you guys as you would need to find a egg donor and a surrogate mother. Here's a article that might interest you. Good luck!
http://www.webmd.com/content/article/3/1680_51225.htm
2007-07-03 10:47:30 · answer #7 · answered by norasmom 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know some, most of whom used a good friend as a surrogate mother. I'd suggest using donor cells from both men, so that no bias can be claimed by either of them. Otherwise, you could advertise in an alternative publication.....might get some wackos to wade through, though!
Good luck to you...I have a gay son, and hope to someday have a grandchild!
2007-07-03 10:37:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
There are thousands upon thousands of children awaiting adoption or foster parenting that truly deserve caring parents. (and you both will probably be better parents than many heteros) If you can get past the obsession of having your own biological child, I would urge you to consider the other options.
"It's not how you are related that is most important, it's how you relate."-Myself, 1992
2007-07-03 10:37:41 · answer #9 · answered by ©2009 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
yep you can go to your doctor and talk about it with him. Oh i am letting you know that there are some people that have answer your question are being very rude. They have problems with you being gay.
2007-07-03 10:38:31 · answer #10 · answered by Hidden Track 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋