My wife left me months ago. And my girlfriend after the separation broke up with me. I thought we were both really happy and did not see her as a rebound but I guess I was wrong. It was abrupt for her to leave and I don't know why. I did everything I knew to do and if I had known she was unhappy I would have tried to change that. Now I can not seem to get over the pain. I have not hurt like this ever before and I can not function or see any hope.
2007-07-03 10:18:42 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was never cheating. Thanks for being so judgemental and understanding. Sometimes the men are faithful in a relationship and sometimes the women are the ones the find someone else.
2007-07-03 10:24:55 · update #1
She WAS a rebound. It might not have felt like it, but it was. You're carrying around way too much baggage right now for that relationship to have succeeded. What you need to do now is heal YOURSELF, and you really need some single time to do that properly. Once your wounds are heeled, then you can show your new girlfriend what you really have to offer!
2007-07-03 10:23:00 · answer #1 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear.. this. I am sure it hurts very much and you are probably feeling lonely and scared. But I'll ask you to do something that is going to be a little hard for now - take a few months for yourself. Do not get into any relationship, just enjoy your own company. Make yourself happy and do things that you never did before.
When you love yourself others will sense it :) Surround yourself with friends and make new friends. Good things will come :) Find out what you want in life :)
2007-07-03 10:29:03 · answer #2 · answered by Centered 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
boy looka here, u seem like a good guy to even worry and care about all of this and not the type to just go out to a strip club as if nothing happened. The ladies who left you werent worht your time anyways, dont dwell on the past and start working on the future, there are like 3 billion women in the world, im sure you could find atleast one more. never ever thing that you arent good enough for some people, if anybody makes yu feel like that then THEY arent good enough for you.
i wish you the best of luck
2007-07-04 02:49:19 · answer #3 · answered by ABANDONED 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had a number of women that were just awful, dreadful people. So cruel and terrible that it's hard to even classify them as human.
It's hard to say what happened to your two ladies. The gf you had might have just been in it to ruin your marriage and then bail....just to even a score from years ago. Women are vengeful, vindictive nasty creatures (not all). They are at least as bad as any man I've heard about....sometimes worse.
They claim to be the big communicators, but often they are not. They think 'communication means....they talk and you listen. Like children.....and pettiness usually comes into the mix too. I met a queen of such qualities in my last gf. She was a liar, cheater, hypocrite and on and on. I"m glad I found out what she was about before we made anything permanent.
Pick up the pieces, keep trying. Sounds like you know how to communicate and attempt a healthy relationship. Your problem...and mine is...we can't find any women that can reciprocate!
Heal....rest....think...and then move on to hopefully a GOOD women. They aren't all skanks and pigs........I hope.
2007-07-03 10:31:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
When we are use to having someone in our life and then they are gone we sometimes move on too quickly. What I had to do was take time for me. I was so use to trying to make someone else happy that I forgot about myself. Yes it got lonely at times, but I made it through and to be honest it was turned out to be the best 3 years of my life! Sure it hurts and a part of you may miss them both, but when the swelling goes down you will be ok. Take this time to do some of the things you've always wanted to do. Get to know yourself better and remember what doesn't kill you will make you stronger.
2007-07-03 11:47:47 · answer #5 · answered by ndd77 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't blame yourself, you are you and that should be enough for someone who loves you, i know it's not all men,,,woman can be just as vicious...apparentley you just haven't found the one that realizes she's lucky yet...as for this girl, if she didn't tell you how she felt, how were you to know, so that's not your fault at all, that's hers...there is hope, don't give up ...not all woman are like that, having your heart broken hurts,,,give it time...but don't let all that happend ruin your self asteem believe me it's so easy to fall into that trap, but that's no good for you, cry it out, be alone for just awhile and get back out there, you'll find the right one..you will, and when that person finally does find you it will be so worth it and you'll realize that your that much stronger. God bless
2007-07-03 11:21:11 · answer #6 · answered by Nita and Michael 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to buck up a bit & take care of yourself. These two ladies were simply not the one for you. It will take some time for you to wade through the hurt & sadness. These are normal feelings. Try to relieve extra pressure & pain with walking about outside, & any activities that keep you busy & focused on you moving forward.
You need to learn to be good enough for you only. Then, when you are not looking, a special, new lady will come along.
2007-07-03 10:27:06 · answer #7 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I feel that I am not good enough for someone...I get up and move on. Life is WAY too short to care about what others think of you. The ex gf may have had issues that have nothing to do with you. Rember that...take some time to figure out who YOU are and what you need.
2007-07-03 10:24:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's called compatability. If you don't have it, then your not going to make it. End of story. Try looking for a more compatable lady. It's really not that hard. Quit feeling sorry for yourself and take life by the horns dude. Don't act or pretend. Just be yourself and your future will present itself. Its not out there waiting for you to find it, It's out there waiting to find you. Take some time off from the dating scene. Relax and wait for the special woman right around the corner.
2007-07-03 10:31:26 · answer #9 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're just going to have to realize that people, even nice people like yourself, get broken hearts. We have all been there and sometimes there is nothing to do but be sad and cry.
Know that it will pass. Then know that it will probably happen again, only this time it will hurt a little less.
The bottom line is, if you keep your heart to yourself, you're going to be very lonely. You have to learn from your lessons, take your time and be choosy before you give your heart. There is hope. Trust me.
2007-07-03 10:24:21 · answer #10 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋