hypothetical question about an affair?

Question

if for example a woman is married, the husband can't perform because of medical reasons but loves her enough to say he wants her to have a physical relationship with someone else, as long as she still loves him, is it wrong hypothetically for her to have an affair, not tell him, but she's also lacking in the cuddles from the husband which is more important to her, but finds all the cuddles she needs from another man who knows the score, that she also loves her husband, and she's also sexual. the affair makes her happier as she feels loved, and shows all the love to her husband still, is it wrong?

Answer 1

No it's not a wrong, at the end of day the husband is happy to let her do that and everyone is benefiting from it. As long as the affair doesnt turn out to be a full blown relationship and she ends up ignoring and not attending to the husband then I think it's fine. Shes not hurting anyone at the end of day.

Answer 2

Seems like quite a complicated question to be hypothetical! If the husband has said that he is okay with her having a physical relationship with another man just for sexual gratification then why would she have an affair and not tell her husband? If the marriage is such that the husband is open to her having a sexual relationship then surely it should be open and comfortable enough to talk about the need and desire to demonstrate the love between husband and wife. If by 'not perform' you mean an inability to sustain an erection, there is still no reason why kisses and cuddles cannot be shared. Too much hypothesis to answer the question fully.

Answer 3

Why is it people base the whole relationship on sex. Sex is only a minor part of a married couple, Sex is used to for fill a gap where your partner fails!!!! I personally don't think the question above is Hypothetical, I think it was written by someone in the hope that people will agree with her. If her husband is not able to perform sex in the normal way, there are plenty of Sex shops in and around the city they could visit and by sexual equipment that will satisfy her just as a normal man would. Yes I do think it is wrong that you are having an affair, if you can not support your husband because of his medical reasons. then get the hell out of there, your lacking cuddles from your husband but finds cuddles from a another man. Darling I think you want your cake and eat it and you want people to believe that this is a hypothetical Question. Get out of the lovers bed lady and smell the Roses.....David

Answer 4

Experience in this area except I didn't get permission. It's important to know that even though the woman's husband gave permission, he would still be hurt if he knew that she had an affair. It sounds like to me that because he know he has a problem and knows that he cannot please this woman sexually, he feels as though he want her to be happy no matter what, so he gave her permission to do this. As far as the other man, he's just a piece of a**. I'm sure that he knows it and may think the same about her. The truth is if the woman feels strongly about the affair thing she need to spare all parties, especially the husband and get a divorce. The other options are sex toys and urologist specialist. If this woman's husband has done nothing but love her then she should do the same. Just because his member is shut off, this doesn't mean his feelings are. Deal with it together.

Answer 5

Hypothetically, I would tell my husband to wake up to himself. While I know he cant perform sexually, there is nothing wrong with him arms and no reason why he can't cuddle me. I would also be telling him that if he expected me to still love him, then he needs to love me back. I would be showing him other ways to satisfy me too. Unless he is a quadraplegic, then there is no reason why he couldnt love me with his body. Maybe I would remind him that he is not just a penis...he is a man and there are a lot of ways to show his woman she is loved. I think the husband in this hypothetical instance has withdrawn all his love, not just the sex. I would be very angry at this hypothetical man. Maybe depression has a lot to do with it.....understandably so..but I would be snapping this hypothetical man to attention and get some help for his depression....otherwise I would be telling him that I couldnt love a man who makes no attempt to satisfy any of my physical needs.

Answer 6

it is always wrong to have an affair and not be honest with your partner. you can have all the cuddles and be creative an have all the trimmings as well if you are both honest and adventurious enough without involving a third party. If you have a different agenda and want the excitement of possibly getting caught in an unapproved affair then go do it but at least be honest with yourself as to your true wants needs and motives.

Answer 7

I think she needs to talk to her husband. He might not be able to perform for medical reasons, but why can't he cuddle? You can still have a fulfilling sex life without penetration.

What man REALLY wants his wife to be sleeping with another man? This will surely make him feel all the more emasculated than he already does.

I was in a similar situation with my ex. He also couldn't "perform". I made the decision to stay with him because he assured me we would make it up in other ways (cuddles and non-penetrative love making). Unfortunately, over the years he just found it too difficult to cope without being able to have full sex with me and ended it so I could find someone else and wouldn't take me back when I assured him I wanted to be with him.

Answer 8

Ever come across the saying ''For Better For Worse"...well, we're in a world that day by day throws the sticks that makes up her moral hedge into the fire. For this reason this saying might not mean anything to some, but if it does to you, then be informed that marriage is for better for worse and no marital infidelity is allowed. The sexual institution in marriage is a sacred one that must not be abused no matter the guise. Your question is indeed thought provoking but the truth is a bitter pill to swallow.

Answer 9

Reminds me of the movie "Breaking the Waves (1996)."

Do you think she can actually maintain the same relationship with the husband with all the baggage she is carrying with the affairs?

I see a doomed relationship with the husband in a short time because this woman put her own desires before the love they share.



g-day!

Answer 10

I guess each person would have to answer that for themselves. but for me, it's still not right. It's still cheating on your spouse and breaking your vows. You vowed to stay together for better or worse, in sickness and in health. That would include a sexual medical problem. That's just my opinion, but you have to decide for yourself if you could live with it and be comfortable looking at your husband when you come home from the other guys house.There are a lot of thigs that can be done to help with erectile dysfunction if that's his problem. He just needs to see a Dr.

Answer 11

I think it is wrong. If you love someone you should be able to harness your sexual tensions. If it is an issue about the cuddling make it an issue with him, not an excuse for you to seek another man. Sex is a part of loving someone but it sounds like the straw that broke the camel's back.