He won't get a job -- he said once we moved he would get a normal job, working 9-5 and start paying half the bills --- we moved and surprise! I am still the only one working -- he works average about 4 days a month, 5 at most with his friend who pays him what and when he wants to -- so I never see that money -- he just keeps taking money from his family (they don;t have it to spare though, really) -- I am very resentful towards him now every minute that I am working and I don't want him near me -- certainly do not want to sleep with him, his laziness is the biggest turn-off i have ever known -- I feel like he is white trash and I don't know what to do
2007-07-03 09:07:08 · 7 answers · asked by Bakes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
is his name bill. i have the same problem and yes i lost respect for him years ago and sex ha ha cant stand to look at him. he wont leave. but heres the plan ill meet you at the border around midnight and we will just run away very far. i dont no what to tell you im in the same boat and anything i say ends up in a fight. personally im thinking of moving out of my place. and let him rot
2007-07-03 09:13:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not lazy, he's a leach. He has no self-respect or respect for others. Your resentment of him and dislike of this particular character flaw seems to have soured your feelings for him. Nobody likes being taken advantage of, and that's what he's doing. Taking advantage of you and his family to support him. Ultimatims aren't usually good for relationships, but if this character flaw doesn't change, then I don't see how the relationship can continue. Stop giving him money. Stop cooking him dinner. Stop doing his laundry. And let him know that you will stop paying to put a roof over his head if he doesn't start contributing to his own upkeep and the upkeep of the home.
2007-07-03 16:14:15 · answer #2 · answered by crjesq 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
myhusband was the same way i after 26 years all dirty style told him to get a job or get out thats when he got off hes lazy butt and got a job
2007-07-03 16:13:56 · answer #3 · answered by CINDYLOU 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like "get a job or get out" time
2007-07-03 16:22:01 · answer #4 · answered by DalamarX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick his lazy a$$ out...do you want to keep him up for the rest of your life?
2007-07-03 21:14:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not happy? You need to be. make what ever steps you need to to get this way. Understand. He is not going to change.
2007-07-03 16:12:28 · answer #6 · answered by ronnny 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
stop cooking for him, stop buying him things, stop giving him sex until he gets motivate to work.
2007-07-03 17:02:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋