has anyone ever felt like this?

Question

im always abundantly generous, always happy for everyone, go out of my way for anyone in need doesnt even have to be someone i know BUT yet i feel like i work really hard to not get anywhere, im always in debt, i ALWAYS show my positive side in situations and always look to the brighter side and all of a sudden it just really hit me....my one friend is engaged to a really nice wealthy man who is very modest & sincere & they travel & live a nice happy life, my other close friend is a stay home mom & just got done building a gorgeous huge home with all new furniture & everything well i all of a sudden snapped & though im happy for them i went home to my small house where i have 2 beautiful children & cried because we are barely making it by & yet me and their father work extremely hard we have nothing to show on top of always fighting about money thats all we ever fight about. i feel jealous & tired & just consumed by it.i want my family to have everything too we work hard enough for it!

Answer 1

I think I understand how you feel! I am married to a man whose family acts & talks like he does no wrong. But, you see, I live with the man!! I KNOW FOR SURE & BECAUSE I AM HIS WIFE THAT HE DOES DO WRONG A LOT!!!! Also, I think there's something wrong with his mind!!! People think really good of my so called husband & he says people don't believe it & they know better than believe me when I say something bad about him!! I sure don't make up lies & tell stories & exaggerate about my husband!!! Even my husbands sister always changes the subject when I start talking about him (her brother). Now, isn't that something? People are trying to make me look like the bad person, but I'm NOT!!! I don't understand what's wrong with people. Has everyone gone crazy? I am a really good person & would do anything that I can to help someone {if I have the means too.} I am compassionate, kind, respectful, caring, friendly,easy going, nice, don't drink or do drugs or anything!! But, I , like everyone else, have my faults, too, because I'm not perfect!! But, I can understand what you are going through. I am able to put myself in someone else's place & feel their pain. I hope things work out for you.

Answer 2

You are experiencing one of the hardest emotions that one can experience. I was just like you & I think I still am. I always give, give, & give. My husband & I worked hard for everything that we have but then I became unable to work in March '05 and was found disabled. We strived to make it on his earnings then he got hurt on the job november '06 then was fired so we didn't have any funds coming in. It was a constant battle, my medication is aroudnd $700 a month & we had no insurance so unfortunately I had to go without my meds at some point in time.
Just remember:
God will get you thru this
You two are teaching your children that sometimes you have to work hard, but in return you are teaching them that they need to be well educated in order to make it further than what you have.
YOU ARE BLESSED TO HAVE TWO BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN.
Yes your friends have money and probally give their children everything they want except for the one thing that you give your children and that is LOVE

Answer 3

Your two beautiful children are riches that trump any of that material stuff. I know it's hard to not be able to give them everything you want to give them. If it helps to hear, I know a child who has every material thing he could possibly want, and he is a spoiled, mean child. As for your always being in debt, consumer credit counseling is free and it helped me immensely. I hope you and your man can find a way to appreciate the things you do have and to stop fighting over money. It's not worth it.

Answer 4

Having money doesn't make you happy. I am sure that your friends have problems behind their smiles, just like you. You should be thankful for the home that you do have and your beautiful children and husband. Make the best of your situation and live your life to the fullest. Try to stop fighting with your husband about money. It doesn't solve the problem and only makes you resent each other.

Answer 5

There's nothing magical about happpiness and having enough money to make ends meet. There is planning, setting goals for finances, retirement, children's education etc. Have you and your husband tried any seminars on financial planning? Dave Ramsey has a radio show, writes books, and does seminars on financial planning. He says that no matter how much money you make, you can get out of debt and start saving. There are other financial leaders out there, but he's one of my favorite. Go to the library if you have to and get some books of his. the main thing is JUST START!!!!! You and your husband have to plan for your future together or it won't work. Good luck!

Answer 6

I feel like that all the time. I don't know how anybody does it. Seems like stuff just falls to some people and we're always struggling. Don't get it. Maybe it will all come together someday?!!??. Remember everybody has their own problems too even if their lives seem so great.
AND it could be worse so just be thankful for the things that are good in your life.

Answer 7

As you explained earlier, you go out of your way to help people. You can't do that all your life!! If someone needs something and you don't have it, say you don't have what they need. If you keep being that nice you'll never reach your goal to make money, because your too busy getting someother person what they want. Be stronger in those situations though, if your running out of money, then now it's your turn to ask for help

Answer 8

discomfort is a wierd element. Burning a finger or stubbing a toe can injury all night, yet when I shattered my wrist into 20 products (bones protruding), i did no longer sense something in any respect. i think i grow to be purely into "operation mode," and that i found out that discomfort could be a incapacity in getting mandatory medical help. i do no longer think of the worst actual discomfort can come close to the psychological discomfort many individuals have suffered. Merry Christmas, and all the final to you and your loved ones. And be careful!

Answer 9

wow thats pretty hard. maybe take a break of work go on a cheap trip llike camping and stuff keep ur mind of the money, you could also get a new job. and if anything try to just take deep breths when u and ur husband fight

Answer 10

Miss toolate, Hi sweetie, You are online so type in legitimate data entry jobs, there is many work at home jobs online ! I am disabled from a motercycle wreck so I did some thinking and found this