Luckily, we haven’t made any major plans for the wedding. However, I have to ask. How do I get over it? He’s always been one to struggle when it came to careers since we have been together. Before me, he has had really good jobs. Granted, he’s kept a job but not a really good one. Well, two months ago, he received the ideal job for him. Then all of the sudden, his interest in me changed. All the times I have been keeping our family (my child from someone else & his two children who does not live with us) afloat the past four years, now he doesn’t meet on the financial table together half way. When he gave money to me for the household, it was like we were roommates instead of a family. When it came to time together, we stop going out. We didn’t make love as much anymore & he started staying away from the house more. In two months, the relationship just gave out for him. I tried everything I knew to do but he started staying away more than coming towards our relationship.
2007-07-03 08:41:38 · 6 answers · asked by Heaven 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Honey, believe me when I say this to you, it is better to be alone than with another who doesn't feel the same way about you as you do him. You can't force love...if it isn't there, for whatever reason, then you have to let go. The fact you have 3 children between you is a hefty responsibility in and of itself, but needs to be his focus - and needs to be yours. I believe it is a sad commentary today, that so many men and women have children out of wedlock in a mere living arrangement that doesn't speak to the committment, the REAL committment, of the work it takes to be married. It is, very sad.
Obviously he's disrupted his own two childrens lives (presume they have a mother who has custody?) and certainly, now your child together. That said, you need to move forward, and be very careful not to accept anything less here on a rebound should he "decide" to return at some point. Is that the kind of significant other you want for yourself? -Your child? I can't believe that you do...Don't let yourself become the "revolving" door here, and consider strongly, moving on with your life without him.
Grace
2007-07-03 08:50:45 · answer #1 · answered by bunnyONE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but maybe some of the above posters are right--maybe he did meet somebody at his new job. I went through a similar situation. I we in a relationship that I was miserable in. I cried myself to sleep each and every night trying to keep a one-sided relationship afloat. Late down the road I came to figure out he met his current g/f at a bachelor/ette party he attended while we were together. As for silver lining--you should have more money to spend on yourself and your child. Without 3 other people to support you can put that money away, toward family fun, or splurge on yourself every now and then. Concentrate on your child, your family, and your friends.
2007-07-03 09:43:28 · answer #2 · answered by Brittany 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, i'm so sorry sweetie. that just stinks. i know it's no consolation, but it really is better that it ended NOW instead of later down the line when it would've meant a divorce and custody issues. to me, it sounds like he may have met someone with his new job. it's weird that he just suddenly changed like that. i say you're better off without him! how do you get over it? time - that's the only thing that will heal this kind of hurt. you can't blame yourself first of all. women tend to do that right off the bat. surround yourself with family and friends who love you. you'll get back up on the horse but for right now, i'd spend time just being alone - figuring out what you want and trying to gain any wisdom you can from what happened. as much as break-ups hurt, i wouldn't trade any of mine for anything because with each boyfriend,i learned more and more about what i truly wanted in a man. and then, when i met him, i was that much more grateful and able to recognize how amazing he was because i had been through those experiences. i hope you can one day say the same. for now, i would rid myself of all reminders of him. i wouldn't let him back into my life AT ALL.
2016-05-17 09:41:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray that GOD protect your heart and mind and not allow your child to be hurt or you. I would take it one day at a time try to focus on what is most important to you and try not to dwell on what went wrong when you tried to fix it. Sometime we try so hard to fix things that we mess them up even more. Just allow GOD to take over and heal the pain and frutstration and it will get better. GOD Bless.
2007-07-03 08:47:44 · answer #4 · answered by karamelchem_1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well just don't think of him to much! trust me my boyfriend after 5 years just left me! i got over it by just spendin more time with my family!
2007-07-03 08:46:50 · answer #5 · answered by BABY26 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He could have met someone else at his new job, since that's whent he problem started.
2007-07-03 08:46:36 · answer #6 · answered by The pink panther 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋