Full physical exam, more questions!?

Question

Okay I asked a bunch of questions about a full physical I was supposed to have today but it got put off til tomorow, now I have more questions!
I'm thirteen and sexually active. We're careful and always use a condom. I'm on bc because my mom wanted me to go on it to regulate my period. Please don't reprimand me for it because it wont help. My mom's maken me get a full physical tomorow with a gynecologist, my questions are :
1. What will the Doctor do?
2. Does my mom have to be there?
3. I've seen other questions were ppl said a nurse is there for the first time. Does she have to be?
4. Will he know I'm sexually active?
5. If he can Know my Hymen is broken, will he know what broke it... like could I tell him it was probably a tampon or sports?
6. Can he tell my mom anything if I tell him not to?
7. He's a family friend, so can he tell my mom as a friend and not a doctor and get away with it?
8. How long should this take?
9. Do I have to take off all my clothes or just

pull down my pants?
10. Will he examine all of me or just my vagina?

Please, no one else see the need to call me a wh*re or sl*t because enough people have called me that by now and worse, it dont have much of an effect 8-). I dont sleep with everyone I know, me and my bf of two years are intimate sometimes, like really , get a life!

Answer 1

Hi again! Now that it is clear to me that its a gynecologist, maybe I can help a little more.

When you go, the doctor might first have you go into his office (or into the room) and ask you questions (one of them will be weather or not you are sexually active - this is the part when you could ask him if he legally has to tell your mom what you say to him).

They'll do things that regular doctors do (height, weight..u might have to pee in a cup - this helps them incase you have any kind of yeast or bacteria infection. - you dont need to be sexually active to get those..) and then he or the nurse will assist you to the room that the exam will be in and you will be asked to take your clothes off (all of them). They'll give you one of those crappy paper things to put around yourself.

They'll take this thing, like a probe sourt of, and stick it in you. they put stuff on it so that it slides in. It does not hurt and they know what size to use (if they know you're not a virgin they'll use a bigger size... etc...) this sounds TERRIBLE ..but its not so bad. its uncomfortable but it doesnt hurt. They do this so that they can see inside. He'll look around, probably feel inside (i know it sounds super weird and gross) just to make sure everything feels like its developing properly. They might give you a pap. test which is just like a tiney thing that they put inside you - it has some rough bristles on the end (almost like a very thin tooth brush)...it collects some tissue sample and they send it in for tests (mine actually came back abnormal once, saying that my cells werent normal...these tests are super important becuase they help detect cervical cancer and such.)..
I wont lie, this part is VERY uncomfortable. I tense up a lot so it usually hurts me a TINEY bit (not worse than getting a shot..i'm just a wimp).. its over within 2 seconds. The best thing to do is to just take a deep breath and relax.
and then they might do a quick breast exam and show you how to give yourself your own breast exams so that you can see if you have breast cancer.

like i said in my last answer, yes he'll know the hymen is broken. The nurse should really be there incase he tries to do something 'funny'. Once again i'm not sure if he can tell your mom or not. Hopefully the answer will be no. Just ask him when you get there.

It shouldnt take more than an hour. It might take a little longer becuase your a first timer and you have to fill out paper work.

good luck! and thanks for choosing me for the best answer last time!!

Answer 2

You will be asked to undress and put on a gown. There will probably be a nurse present, but your mother does not need to be unless you want her. If you ask her to wait in the wiating room, the doctor will support you.

The doctor will start with some standard questions. Among them will be about sexual activity. Be honest. He won't judge you, he just wants to take care of your health. he'll ask about birth control and condom use. Don't make up a story, you won't fool him. Since you're a minor, he can talk to your mom, but if you ask him not to, and he sees that you're being safe, he'll probably respect your wishes.

The process should take less than an hour.

If you find you're not comfortable with this doctor, or you don't think he'll respect your privacy, ask your mon to find you a different doctor. It's quite understandable that you might prefer a woman for such intimate exams. If this has been your doctor since you were young, it's time for you to get one who specializes in teens or adults anyway. And you should see a gynecologist at least once a year, whether you are sexually active or not. A good question for your doctor is if he can refer you to a gynecologist. This will give you someone else to see who is not close to your mom, and will hopefully be female.

Good luck to you.

Answer 3

CALM DOWN!!!! ;) It will be okay! The doctor will ask if you want your mother there and you can tell them no. The insert this closed duckbill plastic thingy in your vagina and open it to see and swab. Thats how they test for any stds or anything of the sort. Its an annual check up that women have to do if sexually active. They cannot and will not say anything toyour parents unless absoutely necessary like a life or death situation. Chances are you probably will have to take all your clothes off because when they do the exam they also do a breast exam to make sure no lumps are there. Any other questions?

Answer 4

It's a physical, not a pelvic exam. He might not even look at you down there. But if he does.....

He is violating the law if he tells your mother anything you ask him not to, and he has no reason to tell her anything anyway. It's YOUR physical and you are a young lady and your mom does not need to be in the room.

He won't nesecarily know you're sexually active just by looking at you, but he will probably ask you. And you can tell him, you should be completely honest with your doctor, that's what they are there for. Once you begin being sexually active there are more things they need to look for and more tests they need to do to make sure you are safe and healthy. Your mom doesn't have to know about it. But once you begin having sex they like you to come in every year for a pap smear to make sure nothing is abnormal down there and to check for HPV which is very important to check for.

Usually for a physical they make you take off your clothes and wear one of those paper gowns. Not too fun but the whole thing shouldn't take more than a half hour and it's really not a big deal.

They will check your blood pressure, height, weight, ears, nose, eyes, spine, heart, breathing, etc... Easy stuff.

Really, you have nothing to be afraid of. Just be honest with the guy because unless he wants to lose his job or be faced with a lawsuit, he cannot tell your mother anything that's not threatening to your life. If you still aren't sure, just tell him your mother doens't know you are having sex and you would like to keep it that way.

Good luck!

Answer 5

The legal stuff about if your mom has to be there depends upon where you live.
You WANT a nurse to be there with you. Don't have an internal exam without a nurse in the room. If there isn't one, you have the RIGHT to request one.
The doc will know you are sexually active, but YOU MUST tell him before the exam. You have to explain you are having sex, how many partners, about your birth control, EVERYTHING. This is for your protection, and for your own health. Don't be STUPID and LIE. This is not the time.
You also BETTER TELL YOUR MOM EVERYTHING. If you think you are so grown up, you shouldn't have a problem by this. Besides, you will need someone on your side WHEN you get pregnant or get an STD or HIV/AIDS.

Answer 6

I've personally never been to a gyno, but I can tell you this. Your mother probably will not be in the room. He will examine your vaginal area and he will see that your hymen is broken, but he will not know if you've had sex, or if it popped from a tampon or something else. Also, even though he is a family friend, due to law he can not tell your mother ANYTHING about the examination unless you tell him he can. Hope this helps you out.

Answer 7

You will get a pap test with all the std tests done but only if your mom asks for them...They don't do all of the std tests anymore unless specifically asked for!
No your mom doesn't have to be there..If your doctor is a man another woman nurse will HAVE to be present.
Yes most likely he will know that you are sexually active..don't lie, you will only hurt yourself in the long run. I know its a scary situation to be in, but it is worth it to be honest.
Yes you will have to take off all of your clothes and put on a gown. Ask them for 2. Put one on forwards and one on backwards that way you feel more covered...but you will have to eventually open it to do a breast exam.

Answer 8

You will go in and be asked to undress, completly. They will give you a paper sheet to cover up.
Your mom does not have to come in if you don't want her to.
The nurse must be there by law
He won't be able to tell if you are sexually active, however you should tell him. He won't tell your mother, but he should know so that he has your entire history.
He will not tell your mother anything, he is not allowed to by law. Feel free to tell him everything.
It will take about 5 minutes for the exam.

Answer 9

your 13 and having sex? ccrraazyy

1. he will examine your entire body, clothes off
2. if it is a male doctor she has to be in the room if it is a female doctor she doesnt
3. the nurse will probably be in there too
4. yes, he will know
5. you can tell him anything you want and he wont know the difference
6. he wont tell her anything
7. possibly
8. maybe 30 minutes
9. all your clothes off
10. EVERYTHING OFF!


yes it does suck.

Answer 10

your 13 and sexually active, you probably already know more than couples who have been married for years. i wouldn't worry about it, just try and stay off the doctor when he's examining you. or just be sure and use protection w/him too.