I am having a problem with my sex drive?

Question

i am a 26 year old healthy female . So about a month ago i decided to stop smoking marijiana for good! I feel better about myself and getting motivation back. There is a big problem though. I have completely lost my sex drive. I use to want sex all the time and now i feel indifferent about it and i want it back!! My husband is trys to be understanding aabout it, but i can tell he is getting fed up. when we start to do it. i sort of feel like doing it, but as soon as we start fooling around, i dont really want to. has this happened to anyone else?...what did you do to get it back?...thanks for your advice

Answer 1

First, congratulations on your recovery! Addiction is a life long battle but the hardest war is won when you decide to take control of your life =) Keep it up!

The sexual side effects are perfectly normal. They should only last about 8 weeks, though it could be a bit longer depending on how long you've been a user. The way your body works has been chemically manipulated by your substance abuse for however long. It just needs time now to adjust to running itself. You are also psychologically reacclimating yourself. Sex and pot probably went hand in hand pretty often. Don't stress over it, just be patient with yourself.

Answer 2

Tricky well i would say that it could be a sign of him actually being monogamous, i read somewhere that the less sex you have the less sex you want, you just do not feel the urge to have sex, some men are horny as hell and want sex almost constantly, others are happy to wait until nightfall and have it just the once, everyman is different as is every woman, i would suggest maybe a little experiment, call him up each evening for 2 weeks, each time initiate some really erotic phone sex, be creative and detailed, whether your telling him what you would like to do to him or have him do to you, make little scenarios up you know fantasies coming true etc.. each night make him c u m, when he sees you then after those 2 weeks see if his sex drive has increased, if it has it is because now you have kick started his desires if not then i would be a bit more suspicious that he has another outlet, but ultimately this is something you should really be sitting down and discussing with him, you are obviously getting a little worried about all this, which will lead to insecurities and eventually lack of trust, for your sake get it off your chest.

Answer 3

Try woman's vitamins to replace some of the things you are not getting. The ones at the GNC store are great. Those give me a pick me up including fixed the issue of not having a sex drive.

Coffee is great for a short period. But may not help with sex.

Answer 4

Okay, contrary to popular urban legend, you have not damaged your brain cells forever, nor are you a hung up, inhibited prude!

You are simply going through a transition that is going to last for about a total of 3 months while your body readjusts to a non-THC chemistry.

Find some avenues to explore sexually--read erotica, watch porn, masturbate,---whatever literally turns you on.

In the meantime, communicate with your husband on your level of excitement. Ask for his suggestions, he is a part of this too. You cannot have too much communication.

Answer 5

Maybe it would help if you did a little stuff on your own....ya know, get familiar again with what turns you on without having your husband there to put pressure on you...and then after you experience it, it may just put you in the mood for more. It may also be other things related to quitting, like a change in diet or if you haven't been sleeping as well since you quit.

Answer 6

Hash helps you get it on. Now you are getting it off.

You will need an alternative way of getting it on or you and your hubby will become a Priest and a Nun.

I am not just joking. Your inhibitions were basically eliminated with smoking joints. Now they come rushing back and you feel ho hum about sex.

There is a cause and you may need to see a therapist to eliminate the cause.

The other alternative you know......

Answer 7

I wasn't doing drugs, but as soon as i went on the BC shot, gone the drive went. The only way i can think to get it back is quit the birth control,
have you talked to your husband you could be feeling self conscious of your own body. You aren't having muddled thoughts now, you have inhibitions again
good luck

Answer 8

Maybe now that you are straight, your husband just isn't as appealing to you as he was when you were a little hazy. I like the bud as much as anyone but maybe you were overdoing it. Find something different to do like play with toys, a little bondage, join a swinging club or something else that might get you back in the mood.

Answer 9

just try even when your not in mood--with play you will get into the mood again and you will then start to get back that frame of mind. Good job on getting away from the hippie grass even though i know its fun and all,but its not worth it,i turned from it when i was 22.....doing very well..yes it may fry few passage ways in brain but thats why the cells are cont rebuilding they create new paths ect

Answer 10

Don't pay attention to these idiots. The same thing happened when I quit smoking the funk. It'll pass it just takes a while. Till then just get some ky warming and let your man rub you with it.