My girlfriend is originally from Korea and is over here on a work visa that I help her obtain. We met on a Christian missions trip in Seoul last fall, and we fell in lust immediately.
Honestly, I've never had better carnal relations in my life, and I just knew from the start this was the girl I wanted to spend the next 18-48months of my life with. So I asked her to marry me, with a full prenuptual agreement protecting myself for the inevitable divorce.
Through no fault of mine, she let herself become pregnant with my child. Okay, that's fine I guess. However, 7 months into her pregnancy, she was diagnosed with probable MS.
Honestly, I didn't know that I was involving myself with a flawed woman. I did not sign up for this.
Should I just tell her it's not going to work out? Should I take the ring back? I was thinking about waiting for her to go to work, packing up and driving out to Seattle.
I also have considered having her work permit revoked. Would that cost me a lot? How would I go about doing that?
I'm a good man, and this is not something I deserve!
Good luck
2007-07-03 07:48:17 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Valerie X wants me really really bad.
Good luck
2007-07-03 07:58:20 · update #1
Your right, you didnt sign up to take care of a sickly lady! Get out while you still can til you walk down the isle and say "in sickness and in health." Then, you are kind of obligated to stick around and take of her... Also, do us all a favor and try to have her visa revoked. The last thing us Americans need is another sick foreigner sucking up all our air and social security!
P.S. LOL at "I just knew from the start this was the girl I wanted to spend the next 18-48months of my life with."
2007-07-03 08:27:42 · answer #1 · answered by bellesnail 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You fell in lust and you wanted to spend the next 18-48 months with her so you asked her to marry you???? That one I don't get! Through no fault of yours she got pregnant, then it must not be your child or was it immaculate conception?!! LMAO!! The lights are on but nobody's home in that head of yours. This gal certainly did get involved with a frog and not a prince!
I'm not going to say all the awful things I want to say, and believe me it's taking everything I have to hold back.
You and she are in this together. You can break off the engagement, but you owe that child, mister frog. That child deserves a good life. You'll have to pay money, yes money to support the child and maybe even her if she gets a good attorney; and she can do that from anywhere in the world!
Your last sentence is the one that really gets me; no, you are NOT a good man.
2007-07-03 08:02:57 · answer #2 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know dude i'm not so sure that she's the one with the problem here. You said at no fault to your own that she got pregant? what, you were chasing her right and tripped and fell inside her right? or did you just sleep F.U.C. ? (kinda like sleep walking) you are saying as well that you are a christian, not to dispute your claim, however i do know some and geuss what? they're not like you! Sounds to me you are just a dumb bastard which was just up to get her in bed therefore you married her. I don't know your age but you really need to grow up and take care of your responsiblities. I'm sure the courts will make you. And next time, don't just marry the chick to get her in bed. Do it for meaning. Like money, or love like everyone else does! Oh, happy divorcing! You are going to need it. Plus the $$$ cause you have to support the child and if she can't get a job here nor over there guess what? You know it. Your child support will be out the roof b/c of only one income! So the question is? Is it really that bad?
2007-07-03 08:05:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa!!! Wait a minute Honey. You say "no fault of mine, she let herself become pregnant with MY child". Umm, Yes you have fault here. Face it. You were part of this action that created a little person. Grow up. Face the facts and the consequences. I think she would be better off without an a$$ like you anyways. All you have done is use this poor girl. I hope she takes you to the cleaners and get child support. As for you being a "good man".........NOT!! She doesn't deserve this!! You are going to let her and YOUR child go back to Korea and you will never see your son/daughter again. How awful is that?! You poor soul. And to think SHE is flawed. Just because she has MS. You suck. You need to be honest with her and give her this question to read. She will be gone in a heart beat. To hell with the prenup. I hope she goes to an attorney and sues your @$$!!!!
2007-07-03 08:01:21 · answer #4 · answered by Krissy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
everything in life has a price.you fell in love with this girl and now that she somehow has some problems you want to give up on her and leave and not look back,right?what the heck is wrong with you no offense?you say you do not deserve this yet do you think that she deserves someone like you who wants to run away when problems arise,times get tough and everything is a test?my ex knew that i had epilepsy yet loved me for me and when we had a pregnancy scare he was by my side to make sure that i was okay and even if i were pregnant he would make sure that he would take care of me and me to move in the same apartment as him and make sure that the baby will have no birth defects since my medication would be decreased until it would be alltogether eliminated.don't you think that she has it hard as it is or do you rather think of yourself vs. about the two of you?you know what?it was a mistake as you said that she became pregnant with your kid because she deserves better yet for you to sit there and tell us that you want to leave her when she is going to work,and have her work permit revoked that makes you an asshole!she does not need any more drama or trauma and you are not man enough to step up to the plate and accept that no girl will be perfect and that each of us have flaws!and you call yourself a good Christian,right?you are no good Christian at all!you abandon people,give up on them and care about yourself..read the bible especially 1 corinthians 13:4-8 where it says that "love keeps no tracks of wrongdoing", and maybe that will make yo uwake up and see how imature you are!if you did not want to marry her then why did you even ask?
2007-07-03 08:04:58 · answer #5 · answered by icycrissy27blue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time to be honest with yourself and with this woman that you once lusted over. She is no longer desirable in anyway. Being pregnant is bad enough, being stricken with MS is just unforgivable. And in the same year, such carelessness! This Korean chick obviously does not know how lucky she is to have such a humdinger of a Christian man. But oh well, her loss is some other woman's gain.
I think your best bet would be for her to "dissapear." No point in sneaking off to Seattle, no need to ask for the ring back. Just take it. Off her cold, dead hand.
I think suffocation by wok would be appropriate.
An eye for an eye, a life for trying to ruin your life. God condones self defense.
2007-07-03 08:08:50 · answer #6 · answered by Whiskey Tango Foxtrot 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Aha I don't know that you should call yourself a "good man" or not but hey who am I to judge. I don't know anything about the legal system or what's involved in revoking her visa but I wouldn't do that. Help her get in touch with friends and family from home - she needs them now more than she needs you, especially if you really don't want to help care for the baby. Send her home where someone that really cares about her can help her with her possible illness and her baby.
2007-07-03 07:53:40 · answer #7 · answered by UpsideDownGirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U love her a lot....thats depicted clearly in ur question.... See, i'll tell u a hard fact...."Always go for the one who loves u, rather than whom u love"... The basic thing is that there is no need for comparison in her mind cozz no individual is the same...She was ok from so many months and suddenly she has become so....that means she is loosing interest in u....thats very clear...See, if u'll run after her, she will definitely feel that u need her and u r mad abt her.....There is no problem in loving someone but the thing which should be kept in mind is to let the other person also to feel the same....otherwise its fake.... The best thing for u is to tell her to tell u that she wants u or not....that will be a wise step....donot be in dark and make everything crystal clear....donot let anyone decieve u.....Donot ruin ur life....Move ahead if she says no....
2016-04-01 05:48:58 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seattle? That’s where I’m moving, lol!! You’ve been having a lot of problems lately, are you sure Jesus hasn’t cursed you? You should go convert a couple gullible young things to “The way of the Lord” to get back in his good graces. Jesus likes that.
2007-07-03 08:47:16 · answer #9 · answered by Goddess Nikki 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot be classified as a "good man" when you don't live up to your responsibilities. YOU and no one else is responsible for what your sperm do. So, take care of the child. Did the pre-nup say anything about your being able to escape responsibility for a pregnancy?
2007-07-03 08:04:15 · answer #10 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋