2007-07-03 07:28:23 · 19 answers · asked by bjhillsy96 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
1. Talk to her on fone else
2. Email her or any other means of communication should be ok
3.Its difficult as thoughts specially related to our dear ones haunt us in every peace of thing we do especially when we are alone. However keeping ourself buzy with work should help.
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2007-07-03 07:33:47 · answer #1 · answered by Naive 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The love of my life died last year after 30 odd years together. I was devestated but I also was determined not to become one of those perpetually grieving widows, I was going to have the happy life we had planned for even if I was going to have to do it on my own.
The first step is to realize that your life did not end with the relationship and that you can still have whatever kind of life you want because life is still what you make of it. If you want to be happy, you will be even if it takes some time to get there
Next thing do something for someone else, Get involved with something that will help and benefit someone outside of yourself and it will go a LONG way to healing yourself inside. Doing for others is one of the best ways to do for yourself
Last, Treat yourself well, you have been through a lot and need some pampering. Do something special that you have never done for yourself. I was a very shy person all my life but I just came back from a month in Peru. I went on my own ( met with a tour group in Lima) I had the very best time of my life. I will still always miss my spouse but now I know I can go on on my own and still be happy with my life.
2007-07-03 07:36:20 · answer #2 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the circumstance.
--If it's just every day missing, I get over it. I'm more independent then that. I don't need to become codependent to feel important.
--If it's a long trip, we will talk on the phone and I work on a project for my husband. Sometimes it's cleaning, other times painting, but you get the picture.
2007-07-03 07:32:14 · answer #3 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Learn to enjoy your own company.
You are the one in charge of your happiness.
Do the things you enjoy.
Remember that you only shared your happiness with your spouse they didn't take it with them.
2007-07-03 09:03:56 · answer #4 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's so Easy to sit around and think about all the good times, but when I find myself doing that, I start to immediatley think about the bad times to remind myself why I shouldn't go back.
2007-07-03 07:34:47 · answer #5 · answered by corallford@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
going out with other friends helps...always leep in touch with a small group of friends...go out for a move, or shopping or just for tea..your life should not just evolve around your spouse.
2007-07-03 07:32:47 · answer #6 · answered by kristy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep busy - focus on others, get involved in church or community volunteering - realize there are people out there that are worse off then you.
2007-07-03 07:37:30 · answer #7 · answered by wild_orchid_tx36 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep yourself extra busy. Write a nightly journal, pray a lot, take on a hobby, volunteer at the pet shelter, etc............
2007-07-03 08:08:09 · answer #8 · answered by Lucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting involved in activites you enjoy and not sitting at home and dwelling on the past.
2007-07-03 07:32:03 · answer #9 · answered by kattsmeow 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to keep yourself occupied on something. If your busy doing something your less like to miss that person. I do that sometimes.
2007-07-03 07:31:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋